musicalsteve82 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 If you never say a friend in real life anymore, but they kept interacting with you by text or messaging, would you still keep them on Facebook or unfriend them? Link to post Share on other sites
SOB86 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 If you're still interacting with them then aren't they still your friend? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author musicalsteve82 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 If you're still interacting with them then aren't they still your friend? By my definition, yes, but I wonder how many agree.... Link to post Share on other sites
reconcile Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I try not to bun bridges. Take a break and resume later. People can grow in such short times...both you and them. Plus time heals all wounds and little irks fade the fastest. No ned to do anything rash or final. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Raena Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I'd leave them as a friend on fb. No reason to unfriend. If it upsets you that you never see the person, then let them know you'd like to spend more time together face to face. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I am going through that right now. I would maybe give it two years or so. I am calling my friend M tomorrow and leaving a message. I want resolution. We live within 10 minutes of each other. His business is 10 min from my condo. So there should be no problem. I think we both should be able to get together 3 to 5 times a year. What you don't want it murkiness. I think that you should make the time to call your friend and get together with them and see how things are. IF they make excuses then take them off after two yrs or so. I think that friends need to be on a regular basis. At least 5 times a yr if you live in the same city. If you can't do that. then what is the point in being friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author musicalsteve82 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 I am going through that right now. I would maybe give it two years or so. I am calling my friend M tomorrow and leaving a message. I want resolution. We live within 10 minutes of each other. His business is 10 min from my condo. So there should be no problem. I think we both should be able to get together 3 to 5 times a year. What you don't want it murkiness. I think that you should make the time to call your friend and get together with them and see how things are. IF they make excuses then take them off after two yrs or so. I think that friends need to be on a regular basis. At least 5 times a yr if you live in the same city. If you can't do that. then what is the point in being friends. And if they live 500 miles away but you had a long history? Link to post Share on other sites
melonmint57 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I see no reason to unfriend. I've gone through something similar with a friend before. It was always me trying to initiate going out and doing something. After about 5 "No, I'm too busy" I finally stopped initiating. In my case it has been 5 months and despite my previous attempts to get together, she has yet to approach me. Honestly, I'd give it time. Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I have friends that go 35 years back and maybe only speak to them a few times a year. It's never been an issue and I will always consider them friends. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 And if they live 500 miles away but you had a long history? You'll see them less, but I don't understand why you'd "unfriend" them. You can't expect them to always be around when you have distance between you. New friends in your area can be made in addition to keeping the old ones. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 If you never say a friend in real life anymore, but they kept interacting with you by text or messaging, would you still keep them on Facebook or unfriend them? yes, unless they do/say something to offend me. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Depends on the circumstances. Was this friend deployed? Sent to another area due to family matters? In prison ? Working a secret Co op mission? The Dynamics as to the distance plays a role, as does the level of the friendship. More often then not, those friends that are miles away are the ones whom I welcome a text, or small gesture of Howdy do. Hope it works out whatever you may choose. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I am a middle aged woman. As a child I was BFFs with the neighbor girl. I have not seen that woman since my college graduation many moons ago. I am grateful for FB because it gives us a way to stay connected, even a little bit. I'm not FB friends with anybody I have never met IRL but it's an awesome way to "see" people I otherwise would never get to spend time with, even if it's virtual. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 FB is just a list of people you met or know. A "Friend" on FB could be an old work colleague or someone you met while traveling. FB is social media and should not be considered a true indication of the depth of any relationship. You create drama by deleting people. I have never understood why people "delete" friends off facebook....unless something really serious or bad happened between you. It's such a passive-aggressive move. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 FB is just a list of people you met or know. A "Friend" on FB could be an old work colleague or someone you met while traveling. FB is social media and should not be considered a true indication of the depth of any relationship. You create drama by deleting people. I have never understood why people "delete" friends off facebook....unless something really serious or bad happened between you. It's such a passive-aggressive move. Being stalked, always makes me delete., actually block. But OP, if you are mates with this person and they have not upset you in anyway, why delete? Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I have all kinds of friends I don't see often. I only unfriend people if they are an a$$ to me or something. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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