smg15 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Now I don't want you to think I am selfish because I did help out a cousin with her phone bill while she was unemployed. But recently I was asked to be a cosigner by a cousin and it really shocked me because she knows I only been working a year. So what made her think I was in position to be a cosigner when I am barley making it and living in a 2 room studio? I am just surprised she can be that stupid to ask me a question like that. I guess I have been expressing how pleased with my financial situation and where it;s headed but it didn't mean I am big time. I explained to her that I am in no position to cosign anything right now and made light of the situation. And why would a person who was unemployed the whole year of 2014 and just started working in January of this year be trying to UPGRADE something??? From this point on I am QUIET about anything financial. BTW: I recently treated the whole family to dinner only because I didn't have to pay rent in January so I hope it wasn't because of that Link to post Share on other sites
kylle Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Well I don't know what happened there in details, but I'll tell you something... If you give people a hand, soon someone will be asking for an arm. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Lernaean_Hydra Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I am just surprised she can be that stupid to ask me a question like that. I guess I have been expressing how pleased with my financial situation and where it's headed but it didn't mean I am big time. A few years ago while randomly cleaning out the home of my aunt who'd recently died I found a couple grand in cash stashed around her house. I just....I'd never seen anything like it. I open a desk drawer and BAM, $500 fell out. I pulled out some towels in the linen closet and suddenly, $100 bills were literally falling on my head. Naturally, I told my family and close friends. I wasn't even bragging. I mean, we've all heard the myth about old people socking money away in their homes but holy s**t, it was true! The whole experience was just so surreal to me I had to share it. Big mistake. Suddenly, everyone needed a loan to cover some unexpected "emergency" expense. Bulls*t. I quickly learned to stay mum about such things. Coincidentally, a few months later I wound up getting ridiculously lucky at the roulette tables in Vegas. It was really quite exciting because I rarely gamble at all and barely know how, so the urge to shout my good fortune from the rooftops was strong. Yet in the end I didn't tell a soul but my mother. Moral of the story? Keep your mouth shut about your financial good fortune and save yourself the headache. Everyone likes to share their good news but some things are better kept to yourself. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Its your money/finance and reputation. Decide what works and how worthy/reliable the person is. Being discrete and Generous is a balancing act. Most often your sense of judgment and circumstance will guide you to make the right choices .... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 From this point on I am QUIET about anything financial. That's good. It's a good lesson to learn. There's really no reason to talk about how much money you have. Not only is it crass, but then you'll run into people who have less than you thinking that they're owed something because you have more. There will always be people like this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 I would be hesitant to ask for a cosigner for anything even if I knew for a fact someone was well off. You don't want to take the risk that the financial burden would be on you if for some reason they default. Keeping your financial business to yourself is for the best though. I also learned the hard way when overextending myself when I could financially. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smg15 Posted February 5, 2015 Author Share Posted February 5, 2015 I would be hesitant to ask for a cosigner for anything even if I knew for a fact someone was well off. You don't want to take the risk that the financial burden would be on you if for some reason they default. Keeping your financial business to yourself is for the best though. I also learned the hard way when overextending myself when I could financially. I told my friend for now on we will just share financial news with each other. Lol And my guess is it was for a car and probably.feel the need to have one because someone on facebook has one 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 I told my friend for now on we will just share financial news with each other. Lol And my guess is it was for a car and probably.feel the need to have one because someone on facebook has one WHAT!!!??? OMG someone on face book has a car!?? Next they will want a computer! Ohh the nerve of some people !!! (PS: This message is meant in a light hearted way ) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 OP ... for some lols look up the episode 'Blood' from the series Black Books. Well I don't know what happened there in details, but I'll tell you something... If you give people a hand, soon someone will be asking for an arm. Give a pig your finger and he'll take your hand. The above is actually a saying in my country. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smg15 Posted February 7, 2015 Author Share Posted February 7, 2015 WHAT!!!??? OMG someone on face book has a car!?? Next they will want a computer! Ohh the nerve of some people !!! (PS: This message is meant in a light hearted way ) Actually one FB friend of mine posted 3 pics of his car yesterday:D 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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