jb07 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I don't normally post things like this, I usually can take things in stride but this is different. Any input would be much appreciated. I was dating this girl for two years. We both were in love. About mid way through our relationship a life changing event happened to me. As a result I became very cold and distant from this girl and it ultimately led to us breaking up mutually. After the breakup things turned ugly between us (a lot of jealousy from both of us). After a period of time we went no contact. Between the life changing event and breaking up with my girlfriend of two years I became very depressed. I gave myself a lot of time to heal. I tried to date around and actually was enjoying being single. However, after a certain point I realized that I messed up because I don't think I tried hard enough to make things work between us. I realized all of my faults that led to us breaking up. Fast forward almost 2 years and I still think about her every day. I have enough self respect to try new things with new people but they never seem to work, and it's not because of her, it's because nobody makes me feel the way I felt. My ex and I still don't speak except on holidays when she will shoot me a text wishing me happy birthday, merry christmas, etc and we may catch up for a little. Long story short I don't know what to do. She is still single (as far as I know), which I know means absolutely nothing but it gives me a glimmer of hope that she could feel the same way. I feel that if things were meant to be then they'd be but I can't realistically expect me to be happy by not doing anything. I really wish I could talk to her about these things but I don't want to bother her if she's moved on. If you've made it this far thank you for your time and any input would be appreciated (don't be afraid to be blunt). Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 You will never know unless you try. Call her up & tell her that you got your emotional house in order after the life changing event. Tell her you are sorry for hurting her but you realize that you still care about her & you think you want to try again if she can forgive you for needed to crawl into a corner to lick your wounds. If the life changing event was truly earth shattering she may be able to understand. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Leegh Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 I would make an attempt to date her again, and perhaps resume the relationship. At least you'll know you tried, even if things don't work out. Also, you don't want to have regrets five or ten years down the road that you did not try to get her back. Life in general is hard enough without having regrets. Link to post Share on other sites
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