Spoonss Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Alright so I started seeing this girl I met about 2 months ago we first met through mutual friends she would come over to their house and eventually we hooked up. Shes a really quiet girl and doesnt say much around me, I on the other hand am pretty talkative and I cant read her worth ****. We have gone out on 3 dates alone she had to leave about 2 weeks after we first hooked up to cuba. She just got back last week and now im having huge anxiety attacks when im with her. She even bought me dinner and the date was awesome but when driving her home i had a huge anxiety attack and started acting weird I saw her tonight with mutual friends and I acted the same way I left without saying anything to her. I cant understand why im feeling like this now she is the first girl I actually really like but when im with her i get this overwhelming anxiety that im ****ing everything up. And to be honest it sucks. I havent dated in over a year and a half due to my previous 5 year relationship ending horribly but thats a whole other story. Regardless this girl and I have had sex several times and it was really natural and easy for me to be around her before she left for cuba now i get these attacks and I make everything awkward and I am scared ****ing ****less im going to screw this up. I just needed to vent this out I know i am being irrational and redic but I cant stop those feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Alright so I started seeing this girl I met about 2 months ago we first met through mutual friends she would come over to their house and eventually we hooked up. Shes a really quiet girl and doesnt say much around me, I on the other hand am pretty talkative and I cant read her worth ****. We have gone out on 3 dates alone she had to leave about 2 weeks after we first hooked up to cuba. She just got back last week and now im having huge anxiety attacks when im with her. She even bought me dinner and the date was awesome but when driving her home i had a huge anxiety attack and started acting weird I saw her tonight with mutual friends and I acted the same way I left without saying anything to her. I cant understand why im feeling like this now she is the first girl I actually really like but when im with her i get this overwhelming anxiety that im ****ing everything up. And to be honest it sucks. I havent dated in over a year and a half due to my previous 5 year relationship ending horribly but thats a whole other story. Regardless this girl and I have had sex several times and it was really natural and easy for me to be around her before she left for cuba now i get these attacks and I make everything awkward and I am scared ****ing ****less im going to screw this up. I just needed to vent this out I know i am being irrational and redic but I cant stop those feelings. Hey man, I have had anxiety attacks, crazy ****. Never over women. Perhaps over some nuggets once or twice. No actually, it was strange. I had them and thought for sure that I was having some sort of health related issue. In the end, work and relationships stress was pushing me to the edge and when I smoked, I would get paranoid and the combined stress and paranoia would send me into a panic attack. I finally realized it the day I was in this really uncomfortable situation where I was around a couple people on house arrest, playing some chess against one as he was telling me how good he was and the stories of how they got on house arrest (fighting) and I basically dominated him in chess and well **** me, I started shaking and having that same feeling as before and that is when I realized it was all stress induced. I smoked a cig and calmed the **** down. Since that day, I have not had a problem with them. I have had a couple, but I immediately recognize what it is, take a few deep breaths, calm myself down and continue on normal and in just a few minutes, it passes. You recognize it already, now you just have to master and own that ****. Tell yourself nothing is wrong, she likes you, etc... Just don't start the downward negative thinking and you will come out of it as fast as they come on. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Open up and explain to her what is happening with you. With things you've done lately she will start thinking you are going weird on her because you are losing interest. If she likes you for real she will understand, and that will help your anxiety fade away once you talk about it to her. Link to post Share on other sites
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