heartbroken1357 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Hi all, about a month ago I bumped into my ex for the first time in over 2 years, we had a 2 year relationship, and it was a good relationship! I was her first sexual partner, and we both each other's first love. It was awkward at first but after buying eachother a drink we sat, smoked and talked for over an hour, and we got along really well and aired alot. she explained why she ended things and has since apologised for the way she went about it and said she didn't mean to hurt me. she said she has seen me a few times driving and around town ( I didn't see her) but she didn't come and say anything as she was unsure on how I'd react. Since that day in the last month, she's been over for dinner twice, drank with me and my friends and stayed the night (nothing happend) but she did open up to me and spoke to me about how badly the guy she had recently dated treated her and the loss of a close family member. this weekend she stayed over, I cooked for her and we sat in the pool for hours she didn't leave until the next evening. I've realised in this time I still have feelings for her, tbh I think about her all the time, and I don't know what to do about it, I don't want to push her away. I like having her back in my life as a friend but I will always love her. do I just bite the bullet, take the risk and just put it out there? we talk on a daily or two daily basis and the conversation does flow, girls, would you spend time around your ex if you weren't comfortable and didn't care? I'm sure she can get attention elsewhere? , she has admitted to me on occasions that it had messed with her head, maybe this means she still has some feelings there? Link to post Share on other sites
WonderWoman911 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 To basically sum it all up, it's a good thing to be in contact with your ex if it's worth another try. It's bad if you try, the relationship ends again, and the two of you end up hating each other completely. IMO, things seem to be going well with the two of you right now. So if it's not broke, don't break it. Just keeps things the way they are because remember,she is your ex for a reason. But to your other question, no. I wouldn't spend time around my ex if I wasn't comfortable or cared. Link to post Share on other sites
Light Breeze Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Two years is ample enough time for self-improvement and a blank canvass. If it was me I'll take it veeeery slow to determine if the reasons for the break up still exist or if it's unfixable. If it does, then love yourself and walk away. It's bad to emotionally invest in someone you know who'll break your heart again in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heartbroken1357 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 At the time I never really got a full explanation, thought now I'm older and I look back we did grow apart a little and I got comfortable and her being young must have thought there was more out there. She's since told me she lost her trust in me and that she heard Shorty after we broke up I had cheated on her, this was not the case. and now we've spoken she said that there is no bad blood between us and that ther is no reason for us not to get along.. she met someone else and got cheated on and lied to, guess the grass isn't always and rarely is greener! I know I have a lot to offer her so I'm just going to put it out there It's then upto her whether she takes me up on a dinner date or leaves it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marco Valerio Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Beware of what you wrote: "but she did open up to me and spoke to me about how badly the guy she had recently dated treated her and the loss of a close family member." She might need some comfort on this, be careful of not getting hurt. Take it slowly, don't rush into her emotionally. Treat her like any other girl you've just met. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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