How to tell him he hurt my feelings without causing a fight?

[preraph]

You should have started a fight and then finished it by leaving. Why would you want to tiptoe around his feelings when he so clearly doesn't care anything about your own?

[smackie9]

Not being allowed to be yourself around this guy, is not the way to keep a man.

[elaine567]

Is this the basketball player who uses you as a FWB?

[Maleficent]

When somebody is doing something other than paying attention to you, in the moment you need to call them on the behavior. Humor works best for me but that may not be you.

 

 

This. I remember a dating coach telling us how his wife once told him 'Boyfriend! Are you going to walk next to me or should I find myself a man who will?'

He was apparently walking faster and ended a few feet away from him.

 

If he was texting to another woman after he had sex with you, he knows he did something wrong.

If you're not calling him out on it, he will assume it's ok and he will keep doing it.

 

I will be brutally honest though. You should call him out on it and it will probably end there.

But keep in mind that doormats rarely end up in healthy, stable relationships.

You deserve better. There is someone out there who won't even dream about using his phone while he is with you.

[snowflakes88]

I'm pretty sure he was talking to other women

 

Is this your FWB from your other threads? If so, you can't really be upset about this. He isn't your bf.

[Cheerbabe93]

Is this your FWB from your other threads? If so, you can't really be upset about this. He isn't your bf.

 

We are in a relationship. He calls himself my boyfriend

[irresolute]

Wow. Omg. If you don't wanna be treated like a doormat, do not accept being treated like that! I'd have spanked him! I'd never had tolerated a behavior like that. What a scumbag.