blue16 Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 Me and this girl would bump into each other now and then at school and have some friendly conversation. This sorta went on for a few months, then since christmas vacation (she broke up with her boyfriend of over a year) she started being friendly with more people at school (i guess cuz she had more free time without a boyfriend). She is a very friendly and outgoing person, and she asked for my number as she got a new cell phone and wanted to add people she knew. I assumed it was on a friendly basis, i never was interested in her as she had a boyfriend so I never even considered her an option. So over the course of the last few months we've gotten a lot closer. We spent time hangin out together at school, talking at parties...that kinda thing it was all good. She shared some personal information about her (part of it mentioning she wasn't looking for a relationship now) and what was going on...and I did the same I felt like I could tell her anything. At parties we'd hang out, dance with each other and talk often, I thought everything was going good. Now I just get the impression that I'm being played for a fool. She asked me along with a friend of mine to go to the club with her and some girl friends, as she had some VIP tickets or whatever. I was looking forward to going, and she said she'd call me with the details and everything. I called her earlier that day to talk about something else, and we said we'd talk to each other later. So it's getting really late...and my friend calls and asks if I still want to go the club. I was kinda confused as this girl never ended up calling me so I figured they weren't going afterall, or she gave my ticket to someone else or whatever. So this girl called my friend, and I can only assume told him to give me the details. Now although my friend was the one driving me, so it might be easier for her to call him instead to save some time instead of talking to both of us, I'm just getting the feeling that we aren't as close as I thought. A couple days ago, I asked for her MSN email so it'd be easier to contact each other about the night of clubbing. She quickly replied that she is 'hardly never online' but told me her address (i said i couldn't remember it because it was complicated name) so I gave her mine, as it is easier to remember. And 2 days later she still hasn't added me. I've had similar situations happen before....where maybe you ask for the persons number, but they don't reciprocate the invitations as much as you had hoped. But the thing is...SHE asked for my number, SHE opened up to me about her personal life, SHE invited me to the club, I didn't do anything. But then her actions kind of suggest like we are just casual acquiantences or something, being that she hasn't called me once nor added me to her msn list. I feel like an idiot for feeling like I had a cool friendship going when it it's actually not even close to that. I really enjoy her company, and she very cute and a great contact. Through her I met this other girl where there is some mutual interest. She is also a great dance partner (along with her friends)...and it's great for attracting other girls when they see you surrounded by chicks. Not only that but I feel really comfortable around her and I can totally trust her. But maybe not....is she just stringing me a long, or have a different interpretation of our 'friendship' then I do or what? Or am I just overreacting? Link to post Share on other sites
gridiron Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 She likes you as a friend and that is it. She has done nothing to lead you on. She even told you she is not looking for a relationship. Shouldn't you be concentrating more on the other girl with whom who you said there is some mutual interest? Keep being a friend and take advantage of using her as a wingwoman. There's even a site where people are charging for a wingwoman to attract other women. Link to post Share on other sites
blue17 Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by gridiron She likes you as a friend and that is it. She has done nothing to lead you on. She even told you she is not looking for a relationship. Shouldn't you be concentrating more on the other girl with whom who you said there is some mutual interest? Keep being a friend and take advantage of using her as a wingwoman. There's even a site where people are charging for a wingwoman to attract other women. no no no you get me all wrong, I'm not expecting a relationship with her. I in no way think she is trying to 'lead me on' into a relationship, because as you said she told me to my face she isn't looking for one. I think she's a really cool person and I enjoy her company and I thought we were getting to be close friends. And as you and I both agree, she is a great wingwomen lol. I think everything might be cool tho, she offered to give me this girls number, and she's been really helpful in setting me up with her. Link to post Share on other sites
gridiron Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 Well, good to hear. Yeah, don't worry about where you "rank" among her guy friends. Just be happy and fun to be around when you are around her, which you are, and everything will be fine. Wingwomen are great. You can still have a good time even if you don't meet anyone else. And your chances are usually helped out when you are with an attractive female. Men are very competitive, but women can be too when trying to hook up with guys in demand. Link to post Share on other sites
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