Tuutuu22 Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 When my boyfriend and I first started dating he wanted one of my single friends to meet his best friend. I guess in attemp to make double date partners. Any ways I suggested my friend Britt for his friend and my boyfriend nonchalantly said "oh yea she's hot." My boyfriends friend looked at him in a way to say you shouldn't have said that. My boyfriend turned to me and I played it cool and my boyfriend said "obviously you're hotter I just said it so Jake (his friend) would go for her" I just said "yea I know" but this was months ago and it is still bothering me. Jake and Britt never met because Jake wanted to meet my other friend which he thought was prettier they didn't workout. The friend that my boyfriend called hot also has a tendancy to put me down a lot and I now find myself comparing myself to her. I hate it so much. I told my boyfriend it bugs me he re assured me i'm the "only girl in his eyes." Do you think what he said was wrong? I shouldn't address it bugs me again right? What do I do?
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 It wasn't the best choice but I don't perceive it as the threat you do. Because this friend puts you down, you are particularly sensitive to comparisons. Just because your BF thinks she looks good does not mean she's the whole package the way you are. He is dating you after all. 2
Giggle Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 I wouldn't think anything of my bf saying that either. Actually he has said a friend of mine is sexy and he'd love to see her big boobs. Lol. But he's mine. I look too.
darkmoon Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 (edited) he was misguided in making just a chance remark, unless he gets stiff over her, he is not enraptrured, forget it Edited February 6, 2015 by darkmoon
SpiralOut Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 I think it bothers you because she puts you down. Doesn't sound like that great of a friend, IMO. I think it's normal to want our partner to take our "side" in a situation like that, and by calling her hot it doesn't feel like he's on your side maybe. But this isn't something your boyfriend did wrong, guys just say stupid things sometimes. It doesn't mean anything. This is a bad friend issue. 1
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