aliya34 Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 Hi I e-mailed someone on this love dating site my friend recommended, we exchanged a couple e-mails and I called him, just to find out he sounds REALLY young! In his profile he said he was 25... but he sounds like he's 15! I am starting to get sketched out, but now he has my phone number (worried about) and e-mail address (not too worried about) and said he will call me again today. I don't know what to say to cut things off. I don't want to flat out tell him he sounds young and I think he's lying (b/c honestly everything else about him sounds too good to be true), how do you think I should go about doing this? Just ignore his calls or something...? Suggestions appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 say to him you are getting back together with your ex boyfriend. or make up some little white lie. if the above does not work then just tell him the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 You're basing this decision on how he sounds? Could be he just has a voice problem. Suggest you two meet at a bar. That'll probably stop him cold if he is 15. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliya34 Posted April 2, 2005 Author Share Posted April 2, 2005 he lives far away (8 hrs) so meeting would not be so casual I think.. maybe I could say my parents are setting me up w/ someone? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 Just be truthful. Say "I have enjoyed our time, but after giving it some thought I don't wish to pursue a relationship with you." Remove all hope now, because anything else will be seen as a shortcoming on his end: one which he will think he can overcome by 'trying harder'. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 my parents are setting me up w/ someone? Hold on - how old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 Firstly, how can you be sure that the man is actually a boy? Maybe he really does just sound young on the telephone, and perhaps you could learn to get over that. If you were interested at first, perhaps you should think about continuing to speak with him. If not, you should just do the obvious thing and tell him that you are no longer interested, that you think he may be lying about his age, and that you do not want to contact him again. Be honest. Be brutal if you have to; it is the only way you will be able to get your message across clearly enough to be understood, and the only way you will spare this poor fellow more heartache from waiting around and wondering. The solution which is best is, in this case, the easiest. Say how you feel, and do what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted April 2, 2005 Share Posted April 2, 2005 Darn! I now know why I should take French lessons! Not to mention singing classes. But seriously, to assume that he is 15 years old just because of his telephone voice is a bit extreme. But it is your decision, and the best thing you can do is be plainly and ruthlessly honest with him. Kill off all hope. Link to post Share on other sites
Author aliya34 Posted April 2, 2005 Author Share Posted April 2, 2005 I'm 21. Well I guess I should give him a chance... maybe he just sounds young... a part of me is wondering if I'm just forcing myself to look around for new guys b/c the one I really want is with someone else Link to post Share on other sites
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