spanishchick00 Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 I've been wanting to go to South Beach, but I don't have no one to go with. I asked my so called friend awhile back if she wanted to go, she made some bs excuse saying that she "doesn't travel with friends." Since she is married and I'm single, I find it hard to try to find someone to go with. Of course I can't rely on friends because one time I was planning on going to Vegas with some friends from work, but then that fell through. Then one said, she prefers to go with her family. I was like wth? I'm tired of friends flaking out last minute-when I get all excited for nothing. Going solo sounds much better. I just want to lay out on the beach, I probably won't go to any bars or restaurants, just for the weekend. I already know my way around South Beach because I've been there before. Do married friends travel without their spouses? Or was my friend making an excuse? It just looks like no one wants to travel with me as if I was a waste of time. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 Her husband may give her crap and get insecure when she travels with friends, particularly to a party spot like South Beach. She also may just not want to go or spend the money or want to see South Beach. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 I just want to lay out on the beach, I probably won't go to any bars or restaurants, just for the weekend. Ha, go to SB and not go to clubs? Why even go? Ha! Just go to NB, it's a bunch quieter, get a little motel right across from the beach and go enjoy the sand in peace. I already know my way around South Beach because I've been there before. Yeah, it's hard to get lost in SB. Do married friends travel without their spouses? Depends. My exW used to visit her cousin who lived in Miami and they'd go to SB to enjoy the nightlife. I never went there by myself but often traveled, as far away as Asia or Oceana (Australia/New Zealand) while married. Or was my friend making an excuse? It just looks like no one wants to travel with me as if I was a waste of time. I wouldn't read that into it but who knows? They didn't want to go in the end and that's how life goes sometimes. Time and aging taught me to never count on anyone so anytime anyone did what they said they'd do it was a bonus. That was a great lesson from the marriage period. Works well. It's my version of MGTOW (men going their own way). Hope you go and enjoy the trip. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 GO ! I've always had the most exciting adventures when it was me alone ! Anyplace is as safe as dangerous as the person themselves make it. You can find meth heads in the smallest, quaintest of towns, and kind, normal people in big cities. All married couples are different, I wouldn't read too much into your friends not being able to or even wanting to go. We are all on our own path, and it sounds like YOUR path is leading to a lovely, sun soaked beach ! Quick story: My first trip to LA I went with a girlfriend who quickly dumped me when she met a guy the very first night we were there ! I spent the next 2 weeks of vacation alone, until the last night when I met the guy I ended up marrying ! I wouldn't have met him if she and I were together doing girl stuff the whole time ! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 I just got back from a trip to India... part of which I did alone. New Delhi, etc. Even the natives are worried about getting kidnapped or raped there. I've driven across the US solo many times. I go camping solo too (with my trusty guard dog, lol). Trekked across Europe... part of it solo. So yea, go. Miami is no different than any other big city. It's not like you are traveling to Pakistan or something... Check in with your peeps. Keep one eye open. Don't get too inebriated... Don't go home with strangers or vice versa. You know... good advice wherever you are. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 (edited) Yes it is fun and adds a extra layer of protection to travel with others, but there's also benefits to flying solo. I usually go places alone...even overseas when I was in the military. Just gotta be safe. I wanna do Vegas, but am waiting on the time to do it with friends. I also have the state next to us that I wanna spend a few weekends at, but reserving that to do with friends, mum, and/or a guy (if I get one...lol). I also wanna plan a casino trip for mum and/or one of my gfs...I just wanna go to drink and dress in a tight dress and be out all nite Edited February 7, 2015 by Gloria25 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 (edited) I've been wanting to go to South Beach, but I don't have no one to go with. I asked my so called friend awhile back if she wanted to go, she made some bs excuse saying that she "doesn't travel with friends." Since she is married and I'm single, I find it hard to try to find someone to go with. Of course I can't rely on friends because one time I was planning on going to Vegas with some friends from work, but then that fell through. Then one said, she prefers to go with her family. I was like wth? I'm tired of friends flaking out last minute-when I get all excited for nothing. Going solo sounds much better. I just want to lay out on the beach, I probably won't go to any bars or restaurants, just for the weekend. I already know my way around South Beach because I've been there before. Do married friends travel without their spouses? Or was my friend making an excuse? It just looks like no one wants to travel with me as if I was a waste of time. Some married people do, others don't and I get it. I can understand why for some it would be a little weird to go to South Beach with their single girlfriend, maybe if it were a group trip it would have been better, but I can understand on their end why that might not be something they'd want to do. It seems that you only have one friend and that can be a problem as one person's schedule, time, lifestyle and yours will not always be in sync so you need various friends for different reasons. I have different friends and even different levels of friends, I have "going out friends" where we might not be the closest but I like them, we have fun together and I know I can call them up to go out and get a drink, go dancing or attend an event. I have friends that if I'm planning to go away for the weekend or want to do a trip I know they are folks who would want to go, I have friends who I know like a certain activity so if I'm in the mood I can ask them about that etc. I'm not married and most of my friends aren't either but if most of them were I'd realize I'd have to diversify and add more single friends to the mix because I'd know that they have a spouse and it's different and they may not just want to up one weekend and go to Miami without their SO and certain "single women" activities might not be as appealing to them or could cause conflict for them based on their SO's feelings (which I understand they'd prioritize). I'd suggest trying to add more friends to your circle so that you don't have to just rely on one married one who'll likely not want to do everything a single woman does. But no, going to South Beach alone is not any more dangerous than anything else. I've traveled alone to different countries, even countries deemed "dangerous" and have been fine because I researched it and applied common sense. You're still in America, it's South Beach, a popular and touristy area, I assume you'll be at a hotel, you'll be fine. Single women travel by themselves all the time and are not in any more danger than when they're just living their lives in their own city. Edited February 7, 2015 by MissBee Link to post Share on other sites
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