I have a crush on my co worker :love:

[Mizz Layta]

I work in nursing home as a HCA and I have a crush on one of the Nurses.I am casual which means I don't have a regular position on the same floor.I replace the full timers when they are off or if they take time off.Also when someone calls in sick etc

 

 

However there this Nusrse that works full time on 5th floor . Sometimes I get scheduled to work on that floor and I find myself looking forward to go to work when i am scheduled to work on his floor.I feel nervous and excited to see me.I haven't flirt or made it obvious because i don't know if he is single and if he likes me like that.He is nice to me and all we talk about is work related stuff.I am shy when it comes to guys i like so i just talk to him just like how i talk to other co workers. I noticed that when i work with him, he is always asking me to do favours for him eg, he will ask me to feed a resident with boosters or ask me to feed crushed pills to residents with difficulty swallowing .It seems like he prefers asking me to do him these favours than anyone else because they would be even another HCA beside me and he will ask me with a smile . This sometimes he is busy and could use some assistance.It just seems like he is comfortable with me. Also there was a time when I was sitting in my car on break time and he came outside for a smoke and sat beside my car and we started talking about casual staff nothing too personal. I know these are not definite signs that he is romantically interested in me.

 

 

I find myself making an effort in my appearance and i make sure that i look nice when i know that i will be working in his floor .I cant stop thinking about him when i am off or working on different floors. I am afraid to make my crush obvious or make a move because i don't want things to be awkward at work. I am single btw and haven't been with a man for more than a year.any suggestions

Edited February 8, 2015 by Mizz Layta

[chumble]

The workplace involves peoples' professional responsibilities and their livelihoods. I always try to avoid entanglements there.

 

I see you have another thread in which you are trying to avoid a different coworker's advances. Why not just avoid all drama and not try to date someone at work, especially if you want to become more than "a casual" at some point.

 

Take up tango dancing or something, meet a guy there.

[CrystalShine2011]

I too had a situation where I used to work regarding a cute coworker....looking back I truly would have changed one thing: kept it a complete secret from other people that worked there! Drama at your "second home" is no fun, and unfortunately I learned the hard way. We started dating and did try to keep it hush hush. Eventually though, people do find out....

 

My advice would be, if you really like him and he starts to show it as well, do your very best to interact only outside of where you work. It's obviously difficult to never date someone you work with (usually you find very good matches, because you have something in common) so if you two do start dating, just try your best to separate the two, and you should be fine.

 

Best of luck!

[newmoon]

you are a nurse? you're not working at the local fast food joint where getting fired isn't a big deal. you're supposed to be a professional treating patients. i assume you - and the guy - went through lots of education and testing and etc. to get your positions. if you ever want to be f/t there and not just a temp, then keep yourself professional and concentrate on your job. people are watching you and don't think others won't see your schoolgirl crush. it might go against you if a regular position opens. be professional. learn from the mistakes of others and don't sh** where you eat. it rarely works out favorably. go to work pretty every day for yourself, not a man. go to work happy every day for yourself, not a man. find a guy OUTSIDE of your job.

[Winston_Smith]

I myself wish that I could turn back time to when my infatuation with a co-worker was a secret I kept to myself.

 

Long story short, it was not meant to be and now I must deal with seeing her everyday. The worst part is I get to see her flirt and have lunches with the man she's really into.

 

Enough about me.

 

As for you, Mizz Layta, I have a feeling that you want to take a chance, regardless of how much others have warned you of the potential risks. If I'm right, then my advice to you, first of all, is do not always comply with his requests. Make him think that you're not always available to him. And, while you're at it, try to make him do things for you.

 

Second, he needs to think, but not know for sure, that you're interested. Flirt with him a little, but not too much. Send some faint signals. This is where knowledge of body language comes in handy.

[Mizz Layta]

Update:Well today I decided to wear make up and look nice since I knew I was working on his floor.

 

 

Then sometime during the shift,he called my name to get my attention .Then he asked me if I went out last night .I said no and I asked why.He was like ``its because you wore eye liner so I thought you must have went out clubbing or something like that.I just giggled.Its because I never wore make up before at work

 

 

Then sometime later during the shift after he finished applying a dressing to one of the residents,he asked me to get a pack of ice for her hands that's swollen in the fridge .He went in is office to get a plastic bad to put the ice in the bag then he was like ``So you did your make up today, you look good``I just blushed and said thank you .Its ironic because I wore make up today for him

 

 

I am so shy so I just froze then I asked him if he ever goes out and he said he does occasionally to a pub but that's about it. We made a small talk about casual staff. I would prefer not to date a co worker but if I am truly interested in someone then nothing will stop me

 

 

Does this mean he likes me as well or am I just reading too much into it? How should I proceed? talk to him more?

Edited February 18, 2015 by Mizz Layta

[harriet126]

Update:Well today I decided to wear make up and look nice since I knew I was working on his floor.

 

 

Then sometime during the shift,he called my name to get my attention .Then he asked me if I went out last night .I said no and I asked why.He was like ``its because you wore eye liner so I thought you must have went out clubbing or something like that.I just giggled.Its because I never wore make up before at work

 

 

Then sometime later during the shift after he finished applying a dressing to one of the residents,he asked me to get a pack of ice for her hands that's swollen in the fridge .He went in is office to get a plastic bad to put the ice in the bag then he was like ``So you did your make up today, you look good``I just blushed and said thank you .Its ironic because I wore make up today for him

 

 

I am so shy so I just froze then I asked him if he ever goes out and he said he does occasionally to a pub but that's about it. We made a small talk about casual staff. I would prefer not to date a co worker but if I am truly interested in someone then nothing will stop me

 

 

Does this mean he likes me as well or am I just reading too much into it? How should I proceed? talk to him more?

I think you're reading too much into this because I am currently experiencing the same situation with a coworker of mine (he did all of the above and more) but I am 99% sure he is not interested...so it's better if you don't get your hopes up.

[newmoon]

I would prefer not to date a co worker but if I am truly interested in someone then nothing will stop me

 

 

then why are you on here looking for answers? you know what you want to do so quit being a shy child and be a woman. express your interest if you're that confident

[Mizz Layta]

I think you're reading too much into this because I am currently experiencing the same situation with a coworker of mine (he did all of the above and more) but I am 99% sure he is not interested...so it's better if you don't get your hopes up.

 

Well did you asked him out to be sure that he is not interested in you?Its hard to tell unless if you asked him out and he turned you down.Not everyone is bold enough to come right out and admit their feelings.He could be afraid of rejection like us. If we didn't work together I would ask him out but I just cant risk rejection and have to see him at work. I will just try go with the flow and if its meant to happen it will happen

Edited February 22, 2015 by Mizz Layta

[Mizz Layta]

I also noticed that he hardly makes eye contact with me when we talk. Even when he asked me about my make up, he didn't make direct eye contact. He was looking else where. I mean I woudnt compliment a guy on his appearance because he would think I dig him.

 

 

Its just the fact that he noticed my eye liner and told me that I look good made me think he might have been subtly flirting. I can some how sense that he is into me.Its hard to tell really

[harriet126]

Well did you asked him out to be sure that he is not interested in you?Its hard to tell unless if you asked him out and he turned you down.Not everyone is bold enough to come right out and admit their feelings.He could be afraid of rejection like us. If we didn't work together I would ask him out but I just cant risk rejection and have to see him at work. I will just try go with the flow and if its meant to happen it will happen

 

I didn't ask him out because if he's interested he wouldn't mention other girls in front of me in addition to the massive flirting. In addition, he is not a shy guy at all so there is no excuse. I think you are just lying to yourself in that you think there is something going on, but if that is what you choose to do then so be it.