Back2WhatUKnow Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Well I have been waiting to do an update like this. 6 months NC completed as of today...So much has changed and I am here to tell others being free from an Affair is the best feeling ever. I was involved with EX MM for about 4 1/2years (10yr age gap difference, they had 2kids, they were married for 10yrs) It was the worst of times and yet I held on to every word. Finally I started to detach before I ended up to emotionally prepare myself for the final breakup. Did I miss him..at the beginning somewhat but I grieved what it was for a few months kept busy at work and weightloss and well learning to be actually single. He tried to contact me any way he could and even hunted me down and I stood my grounds...blocked him completely out. Last I ever heard about EX MM was from a mutual friend. He still lied...still married..nothing filed even dated someone new. Just showed what a pig he truly was...meanwhile I put myself in the dating world recently and met a lovely single guy and the stress of not being the OW is fantastic!!! I do struggle with the damage of being used to that affair with my new relationship...but I am conquering my weaknesses. I no longer feel guilty, used, 2nd place, cold, not honest, and unconfident. I really want to give hope to you other OW. The grass feels greener as EX OW. Feel free to contact me of you would like to have support. Meanwhile I pray for forgiveness and well hope for the best living it right. My best advice for NC..you will know when you're ready to let go. I was a failure at NC in the past but I realized I wasnt ready..and I wasted so much time. I blocked everything and even avoided any schedule or place to run into him. I learned he stalked me for a bit but I continued to ignore it. So cheers to being free!!! 12 Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Congratulations to you! That's great! I'm 5 weeks NC except for one run in but I didn't contact him after the run-in so I consider that a success! I'm in a good place now, thinking of him less and less everyday. I'm also still damaged from knowing I was used and I am having difficulty with forgiving myself and major guilt! Thank you for your post! I wish you the best:) Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Well done. Glad you now have a man to call your own. Link to post Share on other sites
A.Moscote Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 ...kept busy at work and weightloss and well learning to be actually single. I blocked everything and even avoided any schedule or place to run into him.Someone who sincerely and rationally wants to do NC must always do the above (esp. the second quote), so congrats B2, you are wise for doing so, and I remember the email too, clever. Good luck in this new beginning, enjoy it and be grateful for this positive chapter. May you keep on conquering your weaknesses, and keep on too, threading on the righteous path. Happy for you, congrats again. Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 So glad to read this! Enjoy the new relationship, enjoy not sneaking around and enjoy knowing you are his #1 and you aren't sharing him with anyone! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Awe it was so nice to read this, good for you!! Link to post Share on other sites
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