Three1 Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 I was dumped a little over a month ago and have been NC for 26 days now. We were together for 2 years and 3 months and were in love, relationship was great wasn't going stale,lived together, making plans for future, weren't bored of each other and weren't growing apart. She broke up with me because i hurt her (said things didnt mean out of impulse) and said she couldn't be with someone who does that to her and didnt think i would change. She said she loves me so much but wanted to be alone and make herself happy again. I never got a chance to talk to her in person after the fight (she refused) and she hasn't wanted to talk since. The last time i talked to her she said "Chill ill talk when I'm ready". I feel like she's still angry/hurt and decided to go no contact to give her space and not pressure her and to improve myself and my problem that led to losing her, going to counseling and researching ways to help myself. I messed up and have so much guilt for pushing away someone that was crazy about me and want to make it right. I really feel like if we got back together with the improvements I'm making we could work out our issues and be happy again and even better then before with some time but i don't know how to prove that to her I've changed when she doesn't want to talk. I don't know what to do from here though. Continue no contact until she contacts me? After some more time contact her, if so how long? Advice would be much appreciated thanks Link to post Share on other sites
AlexfromBoston Posted February 9, 2015 Share Posted February 9, 2015 Three, you just have to maintain NC until she reaches out to you. I find this usually happens after the 3 week mark, but obviously, this isn't etched in stone. Maybe she wont reach out to you at all. In my opinion, it seems as though you are leaving out some important details. Granted, its none of my business, but I doubt you guys terminated a 2+ year relationship over some hurtful comments. If it was a messy breakup, it will take more time to mend the hurt. You guys have been together for a rather long time, there is no doubt in my mind that at some point, she will reach out to you. If you really feel an impulse to message her, email her an brief apology letter, admit fault, and wish her luck. Also mention that you don't want any "bad blood" between the both of you. If she simply thanks you for the email, do not respond until she reaches out to you. If she continues contacting you, respond at will, but be brief and don't jump at her messages. Link to post Share on other sites
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