Now what?

[Blueangel6]

so about 3 months ago I found out my wife of 7 years had a secret obsession with her HS boyfriend for the last 2 years. It started as him coming into her mind and her kinda just brushing it off. At the time we were separated and we're having some issues so she started thinking about him and reminiscing of their relationship and him. She started to search him in facebook, Instagram, Google, Twitter, tumbler etc. you name it she searched him there, she said she never talked to him but did comment on one of his Instagram post hoping for a response but nothing. She also said she thought about what if she ran into him at the mall and what she would say etc, as well as admitting that at some pointe she wonder of things would work out if we actually got divorced but quickly thought she didn't want him at all. We Got back together and she says he would come into her mind maybe once every 4-5 months when we would have big arguments and would look him up wanting to send him a msg but never actually did because according to her she would realize it wasn't about her wanting him but about our issues. She continued doing this for 5-6 different occasions where she would want to talk to him and look him up in Facebook and stuff. She said she wanted to talk to him but never thought it was a good idea plus she didn't want him to know that she wanted to talk to him, as well as didnt want to cause any issues in his current relationship. She said she didn't want to be the one that started a conversation. So she came up with the great idea of sending a random email to him with a bunch of other people as if her email had gotten hacked to see if he would respond. She says she did it, but that she didn't think anything would come from it as she didn't think he used that email. He never answered and they never talked according to her. Last time she looked him up and wanted to talk to him was about October when we had a big fight l, but she said since then she hasnt done it. Around November time frame I caught her in a lie and everything came to light. She wasn't honest from the beginning as she was trying to hide what happened but everytime I would catch her in something she would tell the truth. She says she had no feelings for him and that all it was was an escape route to our issues but that after she would think about him and look him up she knew she had nothing for him and all she wanted was to be with me. She says she lies me and never thought of actually cheating or not wanting to be with me or even wanting to be with him. She says she handled our issues the wrong way by putting me down and faulting me for all our issues and putting him in a pedestal. She also says she only tjought about the good times of their 2 year relationship ( which was the first 8 months ) and that when he came to her head she only remember that, but that once she sat there and thought about it she would realize why she didn't want him and why she had so many issues with him. She admitted that she was wrong and admitted that she had an obsession with him but that she never had feelings and never wanted him. She says she was just going down memory lane instead of facing our issues and fixing them. She tells me she loves me and wants nothing more on this world than to be with me and make me happy. I love her more than anything and want to be with her, but I'm not going to be a fool. Should I belive everything she said? She says no part of her thinks of him, wants him, wishes, walks down memory lane or anything and that she realizes that all she was doing was creating this false character in order to escape our issues. What should I do?

[Blueangel6]

No thoughts or comments?

[Biere123]

She's lying through her teeth. She likes the stability of the marriage, but secretly pines for her first love...most likely she thinks about him more often than you think, you can't read her mind. She won't tell you this, because she doesn't want to hurt you. Be careful, she has already started being dishonest.