smurfy73nik Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 What do you think? My husband spends more time with hunting than with me? I thought this was all said and done when deer hunting was over. But, now apparently, it is turkey season! We use to stay up and spend time together (drink, talk, have fun). But, now all he wants to do is hunt. I'm so frustrated being the back burner. I feel like, "okay, I'll spend time with her if I have nothing else to do." And, by the way, NO HE WAS NOT LIKE THIS WHEN WE MET! We have been married for 7 years, and hunting has become a new interest. Am I being selfish? Or, is my complaint valid? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 He will do it for a while, then stop. You can ask him to make some compromise as to do it once a week, for example. But don't try to prevent him from pursuing his hobby cuz he will resent you. Once he has enough of it, he will become less passionate about it. Women should sometimes be patient with men just like with children. After all, better hunting than another woman! Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 Find a new exciting interest for yourself, never be at home. Prefer the hot new tennis trainer over him. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 My husband won the lead in a play and was rehearsing 3-5 times a week. I missed him terribly. I love spending time with him. We had also just moved to a small town (in preparation for raising a family) and I missed my huge network of friends. I got a bit depressed about it and then realized I needed to get off my butt and find things to do and make new friends. And it worked. Since my husband was so excited about rehearsing and getting back into acting, I supported him through this as I know this was what he wanted. Now though, a couple of months into the rehearsal schedule, he is the one dreading going to rehearsals because he misses time with me. Give him his hobby and trust me, he'll come back and miss you more than ever and thank you for supporting him. Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 Every thought of picking up a gun yourself? My b/f is an avid hunter - so I took a week off work, learned how to shoot and now we hunt together! If that won't work - I agree - you need to find passions of your own. Find stuff that will occupy your time while he is out hunting. My b/f knows that when I can I will hunt with him, but I won't shoot anything with fur (ie deer, elk, etc) - only feathers. Plus I have a horse so he takes a tremendous amount of my time too. Now the b/f and I hunt in the morning, and in the late afternoon he comes to the barn with me! I would actually prefer to go alone to the barn - that way I don't feel guilty with him waiting for me etc. but I would not push him away either! Give it some thought! Link to post Share on other sites
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