GildedLily Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 Also, I feel like he is being intentionally ambiguous and possibly playing both of you, with his post- think about it, why wouldn't he just text that to you instead of posting it on FB, he could've at the very very least tagged you, but he left it ambiguous, which I believe could be read as being to either one of you. Now he knows it has upset you, why didn't he go and delete the entire post? It wasn't some brilliant quote. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tam1984 Posted April 7, 2015 Author Share Posted April 7, 2015 (edited) So I think we finally resolved things... he got back 3 weeks ago but didn't tell her. She noticed his fb activity and contacted him wanting to hang out. She was supposedly very upset that he didn't contact her right away. He didn't tell her that myself and another friend would be coming along when they did meet up. I honestly was iffy about being there but, at the same time, I thought that, perhaps, I was just being paranoid about her behavior towards me and some good could come out of interacting with her. I thought there was maybe a chance of being somewhat friends with her. It was a pretty awkward experience. She tried to be very touchy and affectionate towards him but he wasn't very receptive. She made attempts to sort of ice me out of any conversation...but was rather sullen that he was paying more attention to me than to her and really didn't say much after a little while. We ended up all going to a park, taking separate cars. We couldn't find her for some time (ignored our calls when we tried to find her, etc) but we did our own thing. Apparently, she called up the guy she has been casually dating and he met her there. After about an hour of not being able to find her she came running over to me and my bf sobbing, the guy she was seeing walking far behind her. My bf went to the bathroom and she sat on the ground, screaming at her guy for "stressing her out" and bringing "negativity", as he calmly explained to her that all he did was tell her about his day (which was quite a bad one, poor guy). When my bf got back she started crying more dramatically, telling him that her guy was being violent and threatening towards her (he was not) and demanding that he defend her...which he refused to do. Funny enough....I actually went over and gave her a hug/tried to comfort her, which I could tell very much aggravated her. She ended up storming off and her guy talked to us for a little while about how his job hadn't paid him in 6 weeks and he was facing possible eviction, etc...that he was just trying to get emotional support from her and felt bad that he upset her...thanked me for being nice to her etc. Long story short, she wandered around the park crying for another hour or so while me and my bf did our own thing. We had fun. We ended up getting a ride home from her and she was very fake-friendly with me...to which I responded in the most polite way possible. Long story short, my bf told me that he didn't want to be her friend anymore...stating that the way she behaved towards me initially (where she was sullen, quiet) was, in his mind, disrespectful...and that he believed her outburst towards her bf was merely to get attention from him and to somehow make it apparent to me that my bf wanted her. I thought perhaps I somehow had been rude to her unintentionally but he stated: "No...you were very friendly. She went out of her way to make everything awkward." He apologized to me for not realizing how inappropriate she has been. There were some things regarding her behavior prior to us dating I didn't know that he finally told me. Apparently there was a time she borrowed a flash drive from him that, when she returned it, was full of photos of her nude and having sex with some guy. She would behave very sexually towards him and then, when he would return any interest, would reject him and sleep with close friends of his. Every time he would start seeing someone she would tell him she loved him, wanted him...and when he was single would state that she wasn't attracted to him, etc. I'm the first girl he has "seriously" dated since being friends with her and I suspect I'm not the first girl she's behaved this way towards...I suppose it took her behaving that way toward me for him to realize it. So...he fbed her saying that he could not continue their friendship on the count of her behavior towards me, as well as the fact that he truly could not consider her a friend looking at her behavior in retrospect. I'm happy that he was able to come to that conclusion by himself but I'm so shocked he didn't think anything of her behavior prior to his relationship with me! haha Edited April 7, 2015 by tam1984 1 Link to post Share on other sites
barcode88 Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 Wow, seems like your BF is actually taking your relationship serious by breaking things off with her. Seems like these kind of posts always result in the significant other acting like they're doing nothing wrong, and both sides are just perpetually pissed at each other. Glad yours has a happy ending (hopefully ending). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 7, 2015 Share Posted April 7, 2015 It's nice to read about something good and how it was handled so nicely too, It's not often you hear good endings-to-be, often topics can be shrewd. I'm glad you were able to find a man who is not weak and drew his line, May the best happen for you both, with hope, it will stand the test of time. Link to post Share on other sites
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