What type of men do women usually have casual sex with?

[NJ123]

Who said they wanted a relationship with him?

 

Because Maleficent is mentioning intimate sex when I brought that guy up. And I'm just wondering what that has to do with anything.

[elaine567]

Because Maleficent is mentioning intimate sex when I brought that guy up. And I'm just wondering what that has to do with anything.

 

You said YOU wouldn't want to be with a woman like that which implies intimate sex.

The subject however at the time was casual sex and then the fantasies of women who said they wanted to sleep with Jeremy Meeks.

Hence the reason Maleficient tried to clarify.

 

(I doubt many really wanted to be Jeremy Meeks gf, IRL, it was just that he looked "different", hot and like a male model on the police mugshots.)

[Ethan78]

Yes, a lot of men do care. They fear they will be settled for instead of the woman genuinely liking you. Why is it that so many relationships & marriages don't work out? I bet a lot of them settled for something & regretted it later on finally realizing they weren't compatiable.

 

A lot of men do care for themselves and their own issues. That is ultimately what you care about - yourself and the fact these women are rejecting you as they prefer guys you think you are better than in some way.

 

How you process that is still a question for you and nobody else. So what are you going to do about it?

 

Yes, people make bad relationship decisions and negative qualities get rewarded. Who said life was fair? Why are you annoyed with women because they don't act the way you want them to?

[NJ123]

You said YOU wouldn't want to be with a woman like that which implies intimate sex.

The subject however at the time was casual sex and then the fantasies of women who said they wanted to sleep with Jeremy Meeks.

Hence the reason Maleficient tried to clarify.

 

(I doubt many really wanted to be Jeremy Meeks gf, IRL, it was just that he looked "different", hot and like a male model on the police mugshots.)

 

lol you even know remember his name. And exactly. They just wanted sex with him regardless of him being a violent criminal.

[NJ123]

A lot of men do care for themselves and their own issues. That is ultimately what you care about - yourself and the fact these women are rejecting you as they prefer guys you think you are better than in some way.

 

How you process that is still a question for you and nobody else. So what are you going to do about it?

 

Yes, people make bad relationship decisions and negative qualities get rewarded. Who said life was fair? Why are you annoyed with women because they don't act the way you want them to?

 

Of course life isn't fair. That's why bad people always seem to get rewarded. And that's why the country I live in has gone to complete ****. Dating is all ****ed up these days due to social media. And I never said I'm better than a lot of these guys that women want to hook up with, but it just seems to me a lot of women tend to hook up with the wrong type of guys. Of course not all of them are bad, but some of the stuff I heard in this thread makes me think more often than not these guys aren't exactly the greatest people.

 

And I'm not going to argue about this again. I already stated multiple times I'm not going to wind up being the settle guy for a woman. I refuse to let that happen.

[stillafool]

But how is a awful person desirable enough to have sex with? I don't care how hot someone is, if their an awful person, I wouldn't want sex with them.

 

It depends on what you consider awful? Why do you automatically assume that because a person is goodlooking they must have a terrible attitude and treat everyone like crap. That has not been my experience nor most peoples. These guys and girls can be extremely charming as well as goodlooking. Alot of them are labeled jerks just because they don't want to settle down with anyone. As long as they are honest they have that right and should not be labeled a jerk.

[NJ123]

It depends on what you consider awful? Why do you automatically assume that because a person is goodlooking they must have a terrible attitude and treat everyone like crap. That has not been my experience nor most peoples. These guys and girls can be extremely charming as well as goodlooking. Alot of them are labeled jerks just because they don't want to settle down with anyone. As long as they are honest they have that right and should not be labeled a jerk.

 

Well, as I said about 3x before, that's what I gather from what I read in this thread. That they don't care what type of person they are at all just as long as they look good. And let's be real here, if a very good looking guy was extremely charming & had a great personality, than these women would want more than just casual sex with them. Why would she want just a night of fun when she can have him for a relationship?

Edited February 12, 2015 by NJ123

[rester]

And let's be real here, if a very good looking guy was extremely charming & had a great personality, than these women would want more than just casual sex with them.

 

HUGE generalization.

 

 

Well, as I said about 3x before, that's what I gather from what I read in this thread. That they don't care what type of person they are at all just as long as they look good. And let's be real here, if a very good looking guy was extremely charming & had a great personality, than these women would want more than just casual sex with them. Why would she want just a night of fun when she can have him for a relationship?

 

What if SHE doesn't want a relationship?? You do realize not all women are always looking for a relationship, right?

[NJ123]

HUGE generalization.

 

 

 

 

What if SHE doesn't want a relationship?? You do realize not all women are always looking for a relationship, right?

 

I'm sure a lot of women wouldn't pass up on a guy with all those qualities. What woman would pass on a guy with great looks & a great personality. If he has a great job even better which would put him at the very top percentile of desired men. Just very hard to believe.

[stillafool]

Well, as I said about 3x before, that's what I gather from what I read in this thread. That they don't care what type of person they are at all just as long as they look good. And let's be real here, if a very good looking guy was extremely charming & had a great personality, than these women would want more than just casual sex with them. Why would she want just a night of fun when she can have him for a relationship?

 

Lots of women would want a one on one relationship with him if he were ready to settle down. We are talking about casual sex in this thread and if he is at that stage he wouldn't be ready to settle down yet. Still, this doesn't make him a jerk if he is being honest with everyone about what he is looking for.

[NJ123]

Lots of women would want a one on one relationship with him if he were ready to settle down. We are talking about casual sex in this thread and if he is at that stage he wouldn't be ready to settle down yet. Still, this doesn't make him a jerk if he is being honest with everyone about what he is looking for.

 

But does casual sex ever lead into relationships?

[Mangina]

NJ123 guys do it too. Check this out. this is guys for you. Basically they used a picture of a pretty girl and they made her the worst person ever, yet guys are still trying to sleep with her.

 

4 Things I Learned from the Worst Online Dating Profile Ever | Cracked.com

[NJ123]

NJ123 guys do it too. Check this out. this is guys for you. Basically they used a picture of a pretty girl and they made her the worst person ever, yet guys are still trying to sleep with her.

 

4 Things I Learned from the Worst Online Dating Profile Ever | Cracked.com

 

Men are more visual than women though so of course a lot of them will sleep with an attractive woman regardless of who she is. But I wouldn't. Women always say it's more about the emotions to sleep with someone, which I obviously know now is a lie.

[MissBee]

HUGE generalization.

 

 

 

 

What if SHE doesn't want a relationship?? You do realize not all women are always looking for a relationship, right?

 

Exactly!

 

It's absurd to believe that every woman is looking for a serious relationship. Just like some men want to play the field or keep things light, so do some women. It's not that hard to believe.

[NJ123]

Top 10: Signs She's Settling For You - AskMen

 

Here's a good article for men to see if you're being settled for.

[Mangina]

Men are more visual than women though so of course a lot of them will sleep with an attractive woman regardless of who she is. But I wouldn't. Women always say it's more about the emotions to sleep with someone, which I obviously know now is a lie.

 

Yeah that gets on my nerves too but oh well

[RedRobin]

It just dawned on me that you just don't happen to know any couples who are totally hot for each other, and are good, stable partners...

 

 

 

 

My parents were totally hot for each other from the beginning... effed like bunny rabbits their whole life (with some down spots, granted)... and were still amazing, supportive partners to each other.

 

 

It really isn't one or the other. ie, great sex = unstable or boring sex = stable.

 

 

Me personally, am counting on both. great sex and great partner. Dammit.

[Woggle]

It just dawned on me that you just don't happen to know any couples who are totally hot for each other, and are good, stable partners...

 

 

 

 

My parents were totally hot for each other from the beginning... effed like bunny rabbits their whole life (with some down spots, granted)... and were still amazing, supportive partners to each other.

 

 

It really isn't one or the other. ie, great sex = unstable or boring sex = stable.

 

 

Me personally, am counting on both. great sex and great partner. Dammit.

 

I agree with you but being the settle guy is still something men should avoid at all costs. There are no pluses to it whatsoever.

[EveAFlame]

I agree with you but being the settle guy is still something men should avoid at all costs. There are no pluses to it whatsoever.

 

Dude seriously. Being the settle PERSON has got to suck, man or woman.

 

People have got to stop this decisive gender bull. People get hurt, lied to, used whether they are a man or woman. One gender does not corner the market on heartbreak.

[Mangina]

What exactly is the settle guy?

 

Like she could not get ryan gosling or whatever celebrity so she took me?

She could not get the tall hot guy who had 20 girls lined up?

The guy she liked broke her heart so she settled for me?

 

This goes both ways. I could not get megan fox so, you the same thing.

[Woggle]

What exactly is the settle guy?

 

Like she could not get ryan gosling or whatever celebrity so she took me?

She could not get the tall hot guy who had 20 girls lined up?

The guy she liked broke her heart so she settled for me?

 

Somebody she is marrying for any other reason than being genuinely in love.

[Mangina]

Somebody she is marrying for any other reason than being genuinely in love.

 

What is love? Does love grow? Will she go as far as to marry my ugly butt? How can girls fake it for so long?

 

I do not think it is very common.

[NJ123]

What is love? Does love grow? Will she go as far as to marry my ugly butt? How can girls fake it for so long?

 

I do not think it is very common.

 

Basically to me being the settle guy is where a woman is only with you for the things you can provide for her, but isn't necessarily head over heels for you. She thinks you're a good guy, but imagines being with someone that could be more attractive, maybe more adventurous, amazing in bed, something of that nature. But she goes the "safe" route by being with you because you're the definition of the average good guy where they could at least be comfortable.

 

And I don't got the answers for that man. I got no clue how some of these women can do this **** to a man.

[Woggle]

Basically to me being the settle guy is where a woman is only with you for the things you can provide for her, but isn't necessarily head over heels for you. She thinks you're a good guy, but imagines being with someone that could be more attractive, maybe more adventurous, amazing in bed, something of that nature. But she goes the "safe" route by being with you because you're the definition of the average good guy where they could at least be comfortable.

 

And I don't got the answers for that man. I got no clue how some of these women can do this **** to a man.

 

Exactly and women should avoid becoming the settle woman as well. I don't know how anybody can blame a guy for wanting to avoid one day being like one of those guys we see on the divorce forum. Why is a man wrong for wanting to dodge that bullet? Hopefully a guy should marry with the intention of having a happy and lasting marriage and being the settle guy is not the way to acheive that.

[NJ123]

Exactly and women should avoid becoming the settle woman as well. I don't know how anybody can blame a guy for wanting to avoid one day being like one of those guys we see on the divorce forum. Why is a man wrong for wanting to dodge that bullet? Hopefully a guy should marry with the intention of having a happy and lasting marriage and being the settle guy is not the way to acheive that.

 

Yeah, it could happen to women too no doubt. But it seems to happen to men way more due to the whole thing of the man usually being the breadwinner. Women are making more & more money these days, but I'd still like to think a lot of men would want to make more.