Targetlock Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Hi all Valentines day approaches, sadly a day i look least forward to in the year as its the day im most reminded how crappy my love life is, and once more i will most likely be spending it alone and with nobody yet again never had any luck on valentines or anything, so i will try and pretend it doesn't exist. how will the rest of you survive? doing anything or are you lucky enough to have someone? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Hi Target. Hadn't seen you in a while. I hoped that meant good things were happening. When I am not coupled up on V-Day I always kept myself busy. I'd go to a non-romantic restaurant, maybe go see an action movie with a friend etc. One year, we put pictures of our EXs on a dart board, basted anti-love songs (like Love Stinks), drank wine, ate chocolate & obliterated the pictures. It was quite cathartic. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OrangeParty Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Same here. Not doing anything special, but work and going shopping with a male friend. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 My plan is to go to the pub to celebrate a friend's bday. Whether I'll see the new guy or not is, as of yet, completely unknown. It would be nice, but since we're not really dating, not something I anticipate. Link to post Share on other sites
Standard-Fare Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 how will the rest of you survive? doing anything or are you lucky enough to have someone? By not looking at it as something I have to "survive." And by not throwing a pity party for myself. To me that's as stupid as feeling "left out" of Black History Month because I'm not black. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
Dybbuk Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 I used to go out with friends on V-Day (Btw I spent 26 consecutive V-Day's as a single woman)! V-Day celebrates love, but love comes in different forms... not just romantic love. So my bestie's and I would go and have a drink. Laugh, feel happy you have people in your life! Whether they are friends, or your family. Some people truly are alone in this world... and it's shame we often take for granted the people we do have in our lives because were so fixated on not having romantic love!!! Don't pity party... rejoice on being alive, well, with friends and good company. Splurge on some chocolate, and make an effort to celebrate those who love you. One day it will be better, but until that day comes enjoy the hell out of the day... it is what you make of it! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Its really not a day that Is that important to wallow in or make a fuss over. Do though enjoy the little kids giggle over the valentine cards they swap at school. that seems charming. Id rather hunt and paint easter eggs then deal with the vday antics. i am open though to getting the chocolate on sale the day after!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 It's just another day man. You won't be any more single on valentines day than you were the day before. Nor will you be any more single the day after. Love can find people any time. There's nothing special or magical about the day. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Balls to that. I have spent years with my ex pointing it out and also pointing out that he wasn't going to do anything for me so you know what? This year I am going to have a lovely valentines day! I am taking my Granny out and I am going to spoil her rotten. I am going to pamper myself so I look gorgeous and I am going to fill the day with fun, happy things! I am really looking forward to valentines day for the first time in years! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 This is why Xbox was invented. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 There's nothing special or magical about the day. Unless you make it magical yourself But you can do that any day anyway 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 By not looking at it as something I have to "survive." And by not throwing a pity party for myself. To me that's as stupid as feeling "left out" of Black History Month because I'm not black. This is it! I've never had to "survive" it. It's just a day. Sure, if I was with someone, I'd like to do something nice and romantic. But since I'm not, I usually use it as an excuse to indulge in a bottle of wine and some chocolates, for instance. Or go out with friends! Never have I felt the need to wallow in self pity because I don't have a boyfriend on V Day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 (edited) We put too much emphasis on love between two people at valentines. 'Love' can incorporate your personal love for anything in your life, so I would suggest that people who are single use the day to devote their time to a passion in their life that they love. For me, I will be spending the day indulging in a passion of mine that is always there for me when I need it, has never left me, doesnt care what I look like, how much money I make or how tall I am: music Edited February 11, 2015 by insert_name 3 Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Valentine Day is a commercial holiday. For me, it will be like all my other saturday, I will go out with my friend. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted February 11, 2015 Author Share Posted February 11, 2015 Hi Target. Hadn't seen you in a while. I hoped that meant good things were happening. When I am not coupled up on V-Day I always kept myself busy. I'd go to a non-romantic restaurant, maybe go see an action movie with a friend etc. One year, we put pictures of our EXs on a dart board, basted anti-love songs (like Love Stinks), drank wine, ate chocolate & obliterated the pictures. It was quite cathartic. Sadly not donnivain, my life is i a bit of rut to be honest, busy dealing with issues at work (i have a learning condition which is causing concerns), my social life is quiet, my love life is non-existent even though i made a new online friend i regularly talk to through my failures, still haunted a bit by my break-up as well to be honest. onwards and upwards though i guess. Link to post Share on other sites
missk803 Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Hi all Valentines day approaches, sadly a day i look least forward to in the year as its the day im most reminded how crappy my love life is, and once more i will most likely be spending it alone and with nobody yet again never had any luck on valentines or anything, so i will try and pretend it doesn't exist. how will the rest of you survive? doing anything or are you lucky enough to have someone? I definitely feel your pain. I haven't celebrated Valentine's Day in a long time and I always dread that day when it approaches, especially since most of my friends will be spending that day with their significant others and I'll be spending it alone. Going to work doesn't help you forget about it either because that's all everyone wants to talk about and you get a constant reminder that you have a crappy love life by seeing all the gifts being delivered to the office for everyone else. This year is going to be a little different for me.. I deactivated my Facebook page for the moment, one reason is so that I won't have to see all "Look at what my baby got me.." pictures and bragging on my news feed all day, also my cousin is coming down to visit so we'll go out for drinks later..guess you can call it an Anti-Valentine's Day night out for us. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 Valentine's Day is just another day. Sure it's a commercial holiday, but you make of it as you would any other day. No one will judge you if you stay home, watch some shows or movies, or hang out with friends at a comedy club. You just have to stop judging yourself. Turn that frown upside down, and count your blessings instead. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 If it weren't for this thread I probably would have forgotten Valentine's Day altogether. It doesn't even mean anything to me. Hm, I think it's time I take up my home training again (didn't do anything the past 5 weeks due to me catching the flu and some other nasty stuff when my immune system was still all but crushed, but now it's all gone). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 (edited) I don't see it as a day to "survive", if I have a romantic partner on Valentine's Day I celebrate with them and if I don't, I do something with single friends or do something for myself if I feel like it, sometimes I would go out to eat with my family and celebrate them or just carry on life as normal. This Valentine's Day I'm having dinner at my place with my roommate, our friend and her boyfriend. I'm making the dessert, cheesecake and a salad (arugula, feta, watermelon, with sunflower seeds), my roommate is making the entree, I believe it will be bourbon glazed salmon with mousse de canard and roasted veggies, my friend is making a soup and her boyfriend is making lobster scampi! There will be lots of wine and liquor and for appetizers some camembert, baguette, grapes, walnuts, honey. Should be scrumptious and fun! To be honest most of my memorable Valentine's days have been ones I've spent with friends. The ones with boyfriends were alright or like in one relationship a total mess (we went to a party, he got wasted, was throwing up, too drunk to drive, he drove a stick and I couldn't drive it at the time, had to call a cab). Edited February 12, 2015 by MissBee 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I recall attempting to get dates or had attempted to romance a woman I was trying to win over on that day. Figured they'd be more willing to go out with me around that day as opposed to any other. Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Hmm, same here...exactly 3 years ago since the last Valentine's day. Doesn't exactly help that I got rejected twice in the week leading up to it. :/ As for me ? Heck, I'm not even going to bother turning on my PC, as mentioned in a post above this one for the 'multitude of Valentine's day posts'. Instead, I'm going to stay at home and do some tooling on my oldtimer Jeeps. I'll be sure to give them my love. Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I'm sure many guy in relationship envy single people. Especially the one who bring their lady at an expensive restaurant....! Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Just ignore it, when you don't put much importance in it, it has less of an impact on your actual day. (Although, it doesn't hurt to rent a bunch of movies and waste the day away.) Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Hi all Valentines day approaches, sadly a day i look least forward to in the year as its the day im most reminded how crappy my love life is, and once more i will most likely be spending it alone and with nobody yet again never had any luck on valentines or anything, so i will try and pretend it doesn't exist. how will the rest of you survive? doing anything or are you lucky enough to have someone? About 6 weeks ago, I made an appointment at my favorite spa to have two of my favorite treatments because if no one else loved me, *I* was going to love me that day. Since that time, I met a really lovely man and he's taking me out on VDay evening. I truly do believe that making myself the love of my life, mentally, was the best thing I could do for myself instead of sitting home that day, moping because I had no one to spend it with. Even if I had not met this man, the fact that I made myself feel loved was extremely important for my peace of mind. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I'm off to Brum to a friend's b/day party. V day is and pretty much always has been a non entity for me. I don't 'survive' it. It means nowt to me and didn't even when I was in a RS. I don't really see the point. It's just all overpriced carp. Every time you see your SO should be sweet. I get sadder over Mother's and Father's days since I lost my parents. Link to post Share on other sites
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