tikay00 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Tikay00, I must say I am impressed with your knowledge and advice given on this thread. Seems that you have done alot of learning from when you first came on LoveShack. Bravo man, bravo! Yeah, man. First time ever being dumped. It's such a shock to your system, but then you keep reading, and reading, then find yourself going through the same thing as everyone else, and you realize, wow, this is the circle of life. No need to be bitter, just gotta learn from your mistakes. And this was my "oneitis", so it hit me harder than most breakups. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 12, 2015 Author Share Posted February 12, 2015 I agree, some people dump you hastily, some think it out before doing it. Some will come back, some won't, to say women do this and men do that is false, it's not a one size fits all explanation. I used to also care about my ex coming back (read my older threads), but now I'm not too bothered, I wouldn't take her back and the curiosity slowly but surely will diminish. Give it time. Jimmyjackson, How long did it take you to move on from her? And did you ever found out the reason why she broke up with you in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Oh I'd like to add that I contacted all of my exes when I missed comfort and warmth they provided me once hard patches in life came. But by that time all of them moved on and declined me. I guess from a bit different view my story is also similar to everyone else's here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 13, 2015 Author Share Posted February 13, 2015 Oh I'd like to add that I contacted all of my exes when I missed comfort and warmth they provided me once hard patches in life came. But by that time all of them moved on and declined me. I guess from a bit different view my story is also similar to everyone else's here. My ex came back last time because he missed me. Now that he has found someone else, I don't think he needs my comfort. Link to post Share on other sites
Summerrose2013 Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I broke up with my last but one ex 3 times. The first 2 times I missed him, and he promised the change the things that were the reason for our break up, but of course by the 3rd time of broken promises I gave up and realised he was never going to change (silly me....) My last ex broke up with me, and because of my previous experiences, now that he's saying he misses me, he made a mistake, he's jealous of me doing things with other men, etc etc I'm not willing to try again. I know he can't (won't) change anything in his life either to make me happy - same issue with both of them - exes and kids being allowed to control their lives - I lost repect for both of them. I really though it would make me feel happy when he came back to me but it did not, I just felt sad that it took him so long to come back to me, and that it was just the usual 'gap in his life' syndrome and I'm not there to plug it. I am also really not the forgive and forget type, so for me I need a clean slate. I want a man who loves me properly first time round, and until then I have fantastic friends, family and hobbies to keep me very busy and surprisingly happy. I've thought a few times lately that actually having a bf now would be a bit of a bind..........and I'm in my mid 40s when I should be entering 'panic' mode, LOL!!! Think I've done that now and come out the other side. Link to post Share on other sites
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