update from jellybean

[jellybean]

I got a promotion at work!

 

So I said goodbye to LS a week ago...it was for personal reasons - I felt a need to get away from the computer, and focus more on RL events (friends, family, the job, my therapy sessions, regaining a keen interest in in life again - after the brutal dumpage which occurred, and brought me to this site 6 months ago.

 

I'm healed, recovered now...but at that time it was a real comfort to learn I was not alone in my devastating, emotional pain.

 

Thankyou LoveShack.

 

And then on Friday what a surprise it was, when management offered me the position of 'team captain' to the other 65 salespeople I work with...and I get a raise.

 

I feel honored I was chosen. I believe it's due to this : I'm happy again, and it probably shows in my good attitude towards the job, and other areas of my life too.

 

To those of you on this site suffering from heartbreak : PLEASE take good care of yourselves...ALLOW yourself to feel the pain. Go thru all the stages of grieving. Don't expect any kind of normalcy...you can't be expected to fully function when

you've had such a great loss, and you spend all your time and energy obsessing about your ex, crying 24/7, and not even able to get out of bed, or brush your teeth. In your present condition it can seem like an impossible task to get out and face the world again.

 

Also don't forget the LoveShack.org guideline that says : Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.

 

It's good to keep posting on here (especially when you're not receiving any support from friends and family - geez, how many times did I hear from them : "just move on"...'course it's easy for them to say that - they're not the ones who had their hearts shattered in a million pieces, or had any emotional investment in my ex).

 

There's good advice posted here from other members, and it helped me alot - tho it wasn't until I sought out professional counselling that I learned I suffer from 'co-dependency' and depression...both those conditions are under control now - and it also explains why I took my breakup so hard.

 

There are many forms of help available...and the expression 'time heals all wounds' is not always correct - you also have to put some effort into it.

 

It feels good to be healthy again (mentally and emotionally), and now good things seem to be coming my way. I don't have a new boyfriend (yet) - and that's by CHOICE. I get asked out alot - but I'm putting dating on hold at this point in time.

 

I've got a couple of other self-improvement projects on the go...it's fun and fullfilling doing stuff that enhances your OWN LIFE...that's why I've temporarily put men on the back burner.

 

Oh, oh, oh....here's a suggestion for the mods : a new forum. Something called 'success stories' or 'whatever happened to them now'...a place for former regular posters to have the opportunity to show their gratitude, and appreciation for finding a place that allowed them to vent and express their opinions. A forum where people can talk about how they are out of that <insert dreadful situation here>, and are now busy and happy living a new life, and just want to say 'hi' and let everyone know all is fine.

 

I often wonder about some members who disappeared rather suddenly...like : dudesomewhere, nosmos, indigo_moon, new2dating, and others...I hope they're okay.

 

Yikes! I just realized what a loooong post this is - sorry!

 

luv, jellybean

[moimeme]

Good to hear things are on the upswing, JB!

[debs]

wow Jellybean you were in my thoughts not 1 hour ago!

 

I am relieved things are going better!

 

Keep in touch!

[alphamale]

Hi JELLYBEAN, glad to hear things are OK.