the_artist_1970 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Why don't you just try to be happy that you have learned the truth about this guy and that you have learned a lesson to stay away from married men. The overwhelming portion of the same it will end up like yours did. This obsession that everyone has with Facebook just amazes me: if you were neighbors or worked together and had to see each other it would be one thing but when all you have to do to stay detached is to not go consciously clicking your mouse looking for trouble is just bewildering to me. I think it might be some sort of hope that you may find out you were wrong and there is still hope that he will come back to your affair. Let it go and the next time a married man catches your fancy remember how you feel now and run like hell away. Exactly. Leave MM alone and stop allowing yourself to be the side chick that stays hidden. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillmind Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I can't for the life of me understand why people are so shocked/offended at others not airing their dirty laundry on Facebook. Why in the world would you expect anyone's Facebook to be anything BUT pleasant photos and upbeat comments? What sane adult drags their drama into the limelight on Facebook? I have seen one cheating meltdown Facebook war on my husband's side of the family. It was extremely embarrassing for everyone involved and while they did their best to clean it up after they reconciled I'm sure NO ONE thinks of them the same way. Seriously ... sane people DON'T post their drama all over Facebook!!!! If you're stalking Facebooks hoping for some kind of ego boost you are bound for disappointment! 6 Link to post Share on other sites
ladydesigner Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 So it's been four weeks since D-Day and it will be four weeks NC between me and my EX-AP tomorrow. I'm starting to have better days but I still think about everything nearly all day everyday. Maybe slightly less everyday.... If you've read my previous post.. Your'll see my EX-MM lied to ME till the bitter end. Told me it was me who he wanted to be with but he ran back to her with his tail between his legs so fast it was unreal!!.... So. Now FB. Yes... I should not be checking I know but I truely can not help it. I'm done with him. Even if he tried to contact me. I just find it almost funny what they are posting.... Most recently they have both changed their profiles pictures to one of them kissing passoniately (sort of) and another one holding each other. They might as well put one of them having sex up at this point. Who are you trying to fool? Me?? I'm not biting. I locked my FB down. No sarcastic comments, nothing. Total silence. Enjoy your "prize". He is just a lier and a cheat. You can forgive a year affair in two weeks? Good for you. I could not. I did the same thing after dday put a pic of me and my WS up for OW to see . My WH continued to see the OW well after that. I would not gauge anything off Facebook. It should never be an indication of how someone is doing in their life. If you looked at my FB it would look like my life was happy and together, but it is far from it. Keep NC even from social media. It will help you heal faster! Link to post Share on other sites
ArtsAndCrafts Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Block him. That simple. If you are truly invested in moving on, you must block him. By the way, stop looking at ANYTHING related to him online. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rie05 Posted February 12, 2015 Author Share Posted February 12, 2015 Most likely she changed the pics on his profile. You know after dday, the B'S demands full transparency and that includes: Facebook, email and phone passwords they often put gps trackers on phones and the car they link phones so the BS sees all messages and emails on their own phone I'll bet his wife changed his pic as a message to you. d Possibly, as he made me out to be some nut job that was obsessed with him. If love is obsession then I was guilty as charged but now I just want to remain as dignified as I can. Neither of them will hear nothing from me. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 So it's been four weeks since D-Day and it will be four weeks NC between me and my EX-AP tomorrow. I'm starting to have better days but I still think about everything nearly all day everyday. Maybe slightly less everyday.... If you've read my previous post.. Your'll see my EX-MM lied to ME till the bitter end. Told me it was me who he wanted to be with but he ran back to her with his tail between his legs so fast it was unreal!!.... So. Now FB. Yes... I should not be checking I know but I truely can not help it. I'm done with him. Even if he tried to contact me. I just find it almost funny what they are posting.... Most recently they have both changed their profiles pictures to one of them kissing passoniately (sort of) and another one holding each other. They might as well put one of them having sex up at this point. Who are you trying to fool? Me?? I'm not biting. I locked my FB down. No sarcastic comments, nothing. Total silence. Enjoy your "prize". He is just a lier and a cheat. You can forgive a year affair in two weeks? Good for you. I could not. I'm sure it's part of her/their way of coping. All is not resolved but for some folks that kind of display helps them. It also serves the purpose to upset you, which it it has. You say it's a game you're not playing, but you are playing. You've looked, you're upset now, you're posting here about it. Just because you don't respond to her or them directly doesn't mean anything, as she/they know you probably wouldn't, but would still see it and be upset nevertheless. Block, delete and don't feed into it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rie05 Posted February 12, 2015 Author Share Posted February 12, 2015 I did the same thing after dday put a pic of me and my WS up for OW to see . My WH continued to see the OW well after that. I would not gauge anything off Facebook. It should never be an indication of how someone is doing in their life. If you looked at my FB it would look like my life was happy and together, but it is far from it. Keep NC even from social media. It will help you heal faster! I'm sorry to hear that your Husband cheated on you... I realise FB is just a facade. You post what you want to world to see. I just think there pictures are way over the top. Pictures of them trying to kiss one another's face off. None of my friends on FB post pics like this. You're in your 30s for goodness sake.... I know I need to stop looking. I guess it's my last outlet/glimpse of info. Link to post Share on other sites
solostand Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Right after Dday his wife and adult daughter were all over my Facebook page - looking at every pic reading every post. They found some pictures of him. A few days later I changed my profile pic and they pointed out to him I had a new profile pic! I blocked them both and everyone else I could think of that knew them. Just a few days ago I got a friend request from exMMs BS's best friend! It really threw me. I blocked her too. The adult son was checking out my Linkedin profile, but I don't think you can block on Linkedin. Now I have my Facebook set on the most private setting it can be. If she gets other friends to snoop they'll see nothing. I wonder what they did in the old days, before Facebook? Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 I was the ws. In my recovery from the damage done by my affair i was in a dark place. I didnt know if my H would stay with me or not. I posted pictures of us. For me alone. Because I wanted fo believe we would be okay again. I wanted to remind myself of who we had been as a couple. Don't make it all about you. You have no idea her motives. They could even ne changing day by day. It means nothing to you and is none of your business. Focus on healing and being a better person. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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