Shiawase Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) I'm sorry for the insanely long post guys! ^^; I met a guy years ago (G) and we got on really well. We were both in relationships at the time but spent a lot of time together and admittedly we acted like a couple. Nothing sexual happened fyi, it was just emotionally intimate. Eventually he told me how he felt about me, I panicked and said nothing even though I felt the same way. After that we drifted apart and didn't talk for a long time. During this period both of us broke up with our old partners and started seeing new people. I missed him so much but couldn't bring myself to contact him after all that had happened. Anyway, fast forward to recently. Me and my new partner were drifting apart; no sex, no conversation and no emotional intimacy. It killed me because we had gotten on so well at the start. So in a moment of weakness I looked up G's phone number. I know this seems random, but I had toyed with the idea for years. I even looked him up on Facebook a while ago and when he saw that he was still with his gf I was crushed. I wrestled with my feelings for a while and eventually gave into my impulse. So, we started chatting again and it was like no time had passed. It was amazing. We went out together and a few days later he asked me to be his gf. I said yes, and broke up with my current bf quickly after. Unfortunately G has some emotional problems to work out, and confessed to me recently that his depression made him emotionally dead and that he didn't know what love is. I then hear him on the phone to his best friend, talking to her like a gf. I'm not normally the jealous type but that raised some red flags in my head, especially as he kept calling her stuff like 'baby' and then finished the conversation by saying 'i love you'. It also really didn't help my sky-high feelings of anxiety I've been feeling recently. Edited February 13, 2015 by Shiawase more detail Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 What's the question? Let me just get a few things out of the way---you contacted a person whom you knew was taken and meddled with them emotionally. Shame on you! In my book, you're a home wrecker. Both of you dump your partners, now he's telling you he's emotionally dead, and you suspect he's having an emotional affair with someone else. All I can say is what goes around comes around. None of you deserve to be in a relationship. The only good that came out of this was at least two people (your previous partners) are free to find someone emotionally mature and caring. What it all boils down to is self-improvement. Know thyself. Learn to love yourself, to build up your own self-worth. When you do, you'll be able to care about someone else. I hope your journey is speedy and direct. Link to post Share on other sites
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