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This is quite a long story so I will try to keep it short, my boyfriend and I have been together going on three years. Last June his younger brother died, it was devastating for him, he lot his brother and best friend.

 

In August he decided to go on a trip across the country that would take around a month, one month turned into 2 then into 4 and now it's going on 7 months of him travelling around North and South America. I've supported him through everything, flown across the country twice to see him, my last visit was in January.

 

He is now in South America, throughout his trip he has been good at communicating, usually we speak or text every day or every second day. Our last visit was great, I came home, we facetimed, everything seemed fine...then he just stopped communicating, his birthday rolled around, I never heard back from him, I've tried to contact him then have given him his space for a week, he is with his guy friends and I know he has WIFI access because he's been on instagram and facebook a lot... anyway it's been three weeks now and I'm not getting anything. Is this his way of silently breaking up with me? I have no idea why he wouldn't want to talk to me. We lived together before so I also have all of his things.

 

I love him very much but feel incredibly hurt, I don't want this to be the end of things but this is taking up all my energy and I feel constantly anxious. If he has moved on or just can't be in a relationship anymore why wouldn't he have the decency to say so, or say anything!! He is 31, I'm 28...

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Have you contacted him via FB since he manages to get online? I ask because that would mean there cannot be the excuse that he never received a text or call. On the other hand, 3 weeks is too much time to go without contact.

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What i learn about man is when they want out, they go silent first. So yeah, sorry but hes gonna breaking up with you.

You can have 2 choices as a dumper who already be dumped or a dumpee.

I hate when man pull this on woman. Its just plain coward. I feel you. This thing is really stressing and like someone constantly punching my stomach. So yeah pls, dont suffer. Be strong and get over it

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is quite a long story so I will try to keep it short, my boyfriend and I have been together going on three years. Last June his younger brother died, it was devastating for him, he lot his brother and best friend.

 

In August he decided to go on a trip across the country that would take around a month, one month turned into 2 then into 4 and now it's going on 7 months of him travelling around North and South America. I've supported him through everything, flown across the country twice to see him, my last visit was in January.

 

He is now in South America, throughout his trip he has been good at communicating, usually we speak or text every day or every second day. Our last visit was great, I came home, we facetimed, everything seemed fine...then he just stopped communicating, his birthday rolled around, I never heard back from him, I've tried to contact him then have given him his space for a week, he is with his guy friends and I know he has WIFI access because he's been on instagram and facebook a lot... anyway it's been three weeks now and I'm not getting anything. Is this his way of silently breaking up with me? I have no idea why he wouldn't want to talk to me. We lived together before so I also have all of his things.

 

I love him very much but feel incredibly hurt, I don't want this to be the end of things but this is taking up all my energy and I feel constantly anxious. If he has moved on or just can't be in a relationship anymore why wouldn't he have the decency to say so, or say anything!! He is 31, I'm 28...

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Sounds like he's putting off the inevitable, avoiding 'that talk'. Prepare yourself, make the break now in your mind, emotionally be ready.

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