Boyfriend / coworker

[Wtfisit7]

A couple of months ago i was on my bf's phone and i went on the internet and it was opened to a girl's twitter page. When i asked him about it he said it was his coworker (he works at a school) i asked him why he had looked up his coworker on twitter and he said idk i just did and then said that him and the littlw girl he babysits were talking abt her and she said they would make a cute couple (the girl knows his coworker bc she is a student at his elementary school where he works) i got really mad and kept asking him why he felt the need to google her. He said he just thought she was cute but she wasnt his type. (Mind u this was after a night of drinking when we came home) so i dropped it even though i was furious and went on with life.

 

Now - a couple of weeks ago he said that his coworkers from the school were going to happy hour after work on a friday and he would be home in a few hours. I knew this girl would be there and he went anyway. I told him i was going to stop by and have a drink so he said ok. I didnt end up going inside and just told him to come outside so we could go food shopping. I couldnt hide my feelings so when he got in the car he could tell i was very annoyed. We got into a huge argument and he said that i had embarassed him in front of his coworkers standing him up bc he told everyone i was coming.

 

We hung out seperately that night and later on we both apologized to each other.

Fast forward a week or two later and he asked me the other day if it was ok he went to another happy hour on friday with his coworkers. I said that was fine because i was in a good mood but now that im thinkin about it its bothering me he didnt even invite me and he knows how upset i was the last time he went and still asked me if he could go. I told him i didnt want him there all night since i knew that girl was gonna be there. And he said that that was fine but he still didnt invite me to go.

[CarrieT]

You are being a Drama Queen.

 

Go and meet his co-workers, regardless of the invite. Diffuse the situation... He had invited you the first time and you made a game out of it so now it is a bigger deal than it ever should have been.

[Quiet Storm]

There may be some interest there, but you make her look even more interesting if you embarrass him around his coworkers. Carrie's right. Take the opportunity to meet his coworkers and be a part of this side of his life. It's a good thing.

[Iknowme]

Alright there are two reason a guy would cheat in his girlfriend. 1- His girlfriend is a b word who he honestly doesn't to be in a relationship with, and he's too much of a b word to break it off or 2- hes a douche who lacks morals and is most like emotionally unstable. In both cases let him do his ****ing thing. If you b-word at him and freak out and be controlling he will just think why am i with this girl and will i ever be happy with her, and even if he's generally a good guy a moment of weakness with a angry bitching girlfriend at home may cause him to cheat(still no excuse and you should probably end it) Or you leave him alone be an awesome girlfriend and if he's a decent guy as soon as he thinks if cheating he'll think fck that. If he's not, he will cheat and you know he's not someone you want to be in a relationship with before wasting any more time. If you want him to change his behavior just calmly and kindly ask him for a logical solution to soothe your fears. If he won't cooperate you already know so much more.

Edited February 14, 2015 by Iknowme

[preraph]

Look, you just tell him you're going, and then you go with him. He created this distrust himself by looking her up. He's attracted to her, no matter what he says. You need to be there. You don't have to arrive right when he arrives, but you must be there and leave together and make yourself very visible, and you should act really nice and charming while there so she gets the idea she couldn't compete with you if she wanted to.