Rick5478 Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 For any man thinking about getting married, read this. There's something seriously wrong when a woman disappears and automatically everybody thinks the man is guilty. But what else is new. Women blame men for everything, why not the courts in China? [Moderator's Note: Please remember, posting copyrighted text is against the guidelines. You can provide a link to a credible news source] Link to post Share on other sites
izzybelle Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 ok so i was a sucker and clicked on it ... didn't see the article but in all honesty i didn't spend a lot of time looking at it. rick, i know you're bitter against women and perhaps with good reason, but you seem to spend a little too much time looking for ammo against women. perhaps you should channel your energy into something more positive that you can have at least some control over. izzy Link to post Share on other sites
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izzybelle Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 sure if you look hard enough you'll find those cases but then again there are also cases like lacy peterson ..... as usual there are cases that will support both sides of the fence because there are f'd up people around. unfortunately, those things happen, people are on death row for killing people that they didn't and get released because DNA proves otherwise...so what's your take on those? the system, anywhere is far from perfect. yes, that case is sad but i do fail to see why even you would stretch that far enough to be a "why men shouldn't get married statement." and trust me, i'm not even remotely pro-marriage these days, but it's my own personal opinion and not one that i expect many others to share. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 OK Rick, I get what you are saying...BUT, MEN makes mistakes, WOMEN make mistakes...Bad ones, stupid ones, intentional ones, not intentional ones...The outcome? Others get hurt. Do yourself a favour? Let it rip - Do a rant about YOU and your life, the hurts, the anger...Just get it out. If you do that maybe some of us could help you through YOUR pain - Instead of you s***ting over various other posters threads and spouting off how much you resent women cuz you got burned really BAD. I'm sorry that you got burned...But keeping it in isn't doing you any good. Life is too short to be bitter, angry and hateful. I think deep down you DO know this and won't let anybody help you. Just my thoughts, take it or leave it...But if you do start posting about your feelings I will reply back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 Rick, Not all of us men are as unfortunate as you. Some of us have fantastic marriages and lives. Speak for yourself and let the rest of us happy larks go on. WWIU is right on......get it off your chest. I'm sure there are a lot of us who'll tell you like it is. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 WWIU is right on...... I love hearing that... Good for my ego today! Rick, GO FOR IT...LET IT FLY out of ya....Trust me, venting will help more than you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rick5478 Posted April 4, 2005 Author Share Posted April 4, 2005 You're right. I'm not really angry at women. I'm angry at me. I'm 23. I look like I'm 14. I'm losing my hair. I'm overweight. I have acne. I have no friends. I have no girlfriend. I never had one. I have no job. I have no money. I live with my parents. I'm afraid to leave my house because I hate the way I look. I feel guilty for my disturbing thoughts. I want to improve but I can't because I think I have OCD. Therefore I always have to wait at the beginning of each month to improve my life, and that doesn't even happen anymore because I find reasons to sabotage myself before I start. I'm pathetic. I really should kill myself for what a sick person I am. That's the truth. I won't post here anymore. I'm not being sarcastic. This post would be funny if not for how true it was. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 Aww Rick...I'm glad you finally spilled it... Get some therapy - Trust me, it will help SO much. I suffer from anxiety attacks...I let it go on TOO long and the result of it got bad. It is a HUGE step to take, a scary one, but once you do that for YOU - It will only get better. Asking for help is a hard thing to do - BEEN There, so many times...I'm great at giving advice and helping others as it's easier than dealing with my own personal issues and fears of living life. Don't let the thoughts, insecurities eat you up...Cuz trust me, they WILL if they haven't already. The therapy, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, will teach you coping skills on how to handle those thoughts and teach you how to deal with everyday life, give you the self confidence that you need. PM me anytime and I will give you some wonderful sites to help you cope with OCD and what you are feeling inside. Again, this is HUGE that you've posted this Rick, and tell me, don't you feel abit better now by explaining why you are so angry? Like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rick5478 Posted April 4, 2005 Author Share Posted April 4, 2005 I've posted my feelings on other boards. It helps briefly. The thoughts I have are from the images I put in my own head. Sometimes sexual. Sometimes just gruesome. Sick things that should not be viewed by anybody. Bondage, S&M, etc. Dead people. I don't have a daily addiction. But since I can't leave my house, I guess I feel I should just drag myself into a pit of filth while I'm here. It's my fault! I feel guilty because I deserve to. Often people say they should let the guilt go. Why? Shouldn't we get what we deserve? Shouldn't our conscience eat us up when do things that are wrong. And if they are really wrong and unforgivable by society, should we truly forgive ourselves? I say no. If I had a life, I could distract myself from my guilt. But I have no life and I don't know if I deserve one. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 All the reason to get to therapy Rick...If you want to change yourself - DO it. It's not easy and it's alot of hard work. What you put into CBT is what you get out of it. Those thoughts? Do you want them to stop? I bet so...Please talk to your doctor about CBT and see if they can do a referral asap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rick5478 Posted April 4, 2005 Author Share Posted April 4, 2005 It's not so much the thoughts as the knowledge that my own actions put those disgusting images in my head. The thoughts I have are from the guilt. That's with me for the long haul. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 Yup I understand what you are saying...But if you want this all to stop and you want control back - Your LIFE back - To live life and experience it all - Therapy is a must Rick. It won't be easy but with the help of various other posters, and other OCD/Depression sites and therapy - it will help you alot. Can you talk to your folks about this? You seem SO young, I had no idea how old you were. Maybe they can help you get the ball rolling with the therapy...Sometimes a push is all we need to get moving...I know I do as I'm the queen of procrastination. The other thing is, guilt is a really bad emotion to feel. You don't have to feel that guilt Rick. Whatever you may or may not have done is no reason to beat yourself up so bad. Do you see what I'm saying? Am I helping at all? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rick5478 Posted April 4, 2005 Author Share Posted April 4, 2005 Yes, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2005 Share Posted April 4, 2005 Good!! lol...And You're Welcome... Those thoughts WILL GO away. In time...Life is really hard at times, we all go through our s*** and can't cope. You're TOO young to be locked up inside your house! I'm 34 and TOO young to allow this f**k'n anxiety disorder to take over my life! It sometimes is a daily struggle for me to head outside, get in my car and go to the bank! DO you how hard it is to ask somebody, whether it be my husband or a neighbour, a friend or my sis to COME with me to the bank cuz I'm too freaked to go by myself some times?? It's HORRIBLE, makes me feel like I'm a dependant child - Which I know I'm not...But I get MAD and make myself just DO IT. F*ck what everybody else thinks..If I start feeling the anxiety and someone looks at me weird - SO WHAT? Rick, GET mad at this OCD and fight it HARD. That fight in you will help push you to the next level. Most days I can go and do things on my own...Those days I can't - I ask for help. It's hard, and yes part of me is embarressed, but the ones who are helping me are my friends, my family and people who care about me. Makes it so much easier... OOPPSS, again I have to mention my husband again because he is my rock most of the time... Link to post Share on other sites
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