Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 hahaha @ Tooladoo You must keep this post and copy paste in any new thread from men complaining we sit on our @ss and do nothing to approach men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 Sorry Haydn I got a date tonight So prospect #3 set up a date for tonight 7h30. He said he is not 100% back on his feel from his cold but he does not want to delay meeting me any longer. + 1 point for him. Have fun and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 hahaha @ Tooladoo You must keep this post and copy paste in any new thread from men complaining we sit on our @ss and do nothing to approach men. See even Hyden has run away! I don't really bite (that often or too hard)...! The irony of it is that I am as sweet as anything and no threat to anyone. So why they all run off I have no idea?? I am not projecting "my uterus needs your baby" vibes (doubtful I can have them anyway so kinda gave up on that one long ago)... I am not licking my lips and drooling... Hell most of the time I don't wear make up or brush my hair! The chaps have just been taking the pee as one of our customers has fallen for me big time and keeps sending us orders... I don't even own a lip stick! I just don't know what it is?? Perhaps I have loo roll hanging from my shoe... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 That is counter-productive when you want to meet someone. Latest survey in my city 75% of singles use online. If you can't pull an R out of 100 dates you're either a victim of the power of choice from the attention from OLD or your people picker is broken. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 I know the make-up / hair thing has come up. Gaeta, for instance, you've said that you don't have a picture up of yourself with make up on. I wonder if a shot where you present yourself looking "put together" (make up and hair) would make you look more professional? Basically, perhaps the laid back look is attracting exactly that: laid back guys. Caveat: I would only include a made-up/hair done shot if you happen to wear make up and do your hair every once in awhile. Otherwise, it's false advertisement. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 If you can't pull an R out of 100 dates you're either a victim of the power of choice from the attention from OLD or your people picker is broken. I have long suspected that your people picker is broken Geata... You really do have bad luck with this whole thing. But look on the bright side at least your gaydar is fully functional. In real life I think about 60% of the men I start chatting up are actually batting for the home team... Lovely guys but sadly they want the same as me!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 I know the make-up / hair thing has come up. Gaeta, for instance, you've said that you don't have a picture up of yourself with make up on. I wonder if a shot where you present yourself looking "put together" (make up and hair) would make you look more professional? Basically, perhaps the laid back look is attracting exactly that: laid back guys. Caveat: I would only include a made-up/hair done shot if you happen to wear make up and do your hair every once in awhile. Otherwise, it's false advertisement. I wear mascara and lipsticks and my hair is always done. I was always told I look better without too much make up. I have olive skin and freckles so anything like foundation and blush look unnatural. My pictures are taken at the office, one I have a dress on the other one a classy top. I don't have any pictures where I am in jeans. A couple of days ago I made a new contact and he wanted to speak on the phone. Not 2 minutes in he was telling me how business women turned him on, lol. I can't win. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 See even Hyden has run away! I don't really bite (that often or too hard)...! The irony of it is that I am as sweet as anything and no threat to anyone. So why they all run off I have no idea?? I am not projecting "my uterus needs your baby" vibes (doubtful I can have them anyway so kinda gave up on that one long ago)... I am not licking my lips and drooling... Hell most of the time I don't wear make up or brush my hair! The chaps have just been taking the pee as one of our customers has fallen for me big time and keeps sending us orders... I don't even own a lip stick! I just don't know what it is?? Perhaps I have loo roll hanging from my shoe... No, i`ve been driving around for hours looking for somewhere to park! Gaeta, i do hope you find what you are looking for. Maybe tonight could be the time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 I wear mascara and lipsticks and my hair is always done. I was always told I look better without too much make up. I have olive skin and freckles so anything like foundation and blush look unnatural. My pictures are taken at the office, one I have a dress on the other one a classy top. I don't have any pictures where I am in jeans. A couple of days ago I made a new contact and he wanted to speak on the phone. Not 2 minutes in he was telling me how business women turned him on, lol. I can't win. So, in fact, you are wearing makeup in your pictures? I had understood otherwise. I'm not sure I understand what you felt was wrong with that last guy telling you business women turn him on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 So, in fact, you are wearing makeup in your pictures? I had understood otherwise. I'm not sure I understand what you felt was wrong with that last guy telling you business women turn him on? That is not what I want to hear 2 minutes in a first conversation. I said nothing and later he was asking me my bra and panties size. The little bit of mascara and natural color lipstick doesn't really show in my pictures. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 Do you state in your profile that you have a good job and a house etc? If you do - quit with that and down play it. I did that and yes it resulted in less mails but also it resulted in men who were more genuine and not gold diggers. I mentioned in my last profile on OLD that I work long hours (I didn't say what I did) and instead of owning my house I said I was renting. It helped. Casual pics could help too - just to add to the down play. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 Do you state in your profile that you have a good job and a house etc?. No, I would not do that. In the square where we put our jobs I downplayed it I put management when in fact it's executive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 Also, when I start dating someone and I talk more about what I do, younger men think it's pretty cool but I often feel men my age are bothered by it as if we are in competition. It seems to bother them I have reached higher than them and that I may be making more money than them. My date tonight is my age but he is a company owner so I know I won't get that attitude from him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 Also, when I start dating someone and I talk more about what I do, younger men think it's pretty cool but I often feel men my age are bothered by it as if we are in competition. It seems to bother them I have reached higher than them and that I may be making more money than them. My date tonight is my age but he is a company owner so I know I won't get that attitude from him. That's good. Yes. Very common. Many pay lip service to its not being a problem for them, but it is a big problem for many... that they won't admit... which makes it worse. Funny, but true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lU7alwkLuE8 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 That's good. Yes. Very common. Many pay lip service to its not being a problem for them, but it is a big problem for many... that they won't admit... which makes it worse. Funny, but true: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lU7alwkLuE8 haha..that was funny ! Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 For many guys it really is not a problem is a woman has a better job or makes more money than he does. The problem usually comes with the attitude of the woman, not her job. Again I think this is down to the choice of man that the OP is looking for. I personally find the opposite- its women who have the problem with regards to income as they still expect the man to be earning more than she is due to those old school ideas of chivalrous romance. It seems to ruin the image of him as protector and provider if she is the main bread winner out of the two. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2015 Author Share Posted February 20, 2015 UPDATE PROSPECT 3. I left for the coffee shop and he indicated he was going to wait for me in his car in parking lot. I got there, texted him I am here, got out of car, walked toward him and we greeted each other in the parking lot. We got inside, chose a spot, and he said he was getting coffee for the both of us. He got back to our table, sat and said: You and I it's not gonna work. I go: What? is there a problem? He goes: No, there is no problem, I am very sensitive to the vibes people gives out and I don't feel it with you. I went: When did you decide that? He said: In the parking lot. I thought I had seen it all. Link to post Share on other sites
Dybbuk Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 @Gaeta: ugggghhhhhhhh! Dude 3 built you up in his mind and spewed all that crap, and lo'behold that didn't hold up in real life. That's why that presumptuous "woman of my dreams" talk is always a giant red flag. Sorry Gaeta. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2015 Author Share Posted February 20, 2015 @Gaeta: ugggghhhhhhhh! Dude 3 built you up in his mind and spewed all that crap, and lo'behold that didn't hold up in real life. That's why that presumptuous "woman of my dreams" talk is always a giant red flag. Sorry Gaeta. He could have had his coffee, leave, say thank you but I don't feel enough chemistry to pursue and good luck. What kind of nut case put a woman on the spot right there cause he did not feel a good vibe in the parking lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 UPDATE PROSPECT 3. I left for the coffee shop and he indicated he was going to wait for me in his car in parking lot. I got there, texted him I am here, got out of car, walked toward him and we greeted each other in the parking lot. We got inside, chose a spot, and he said he was getting coffee for the both of us. He got back to our table, sat and said: You and I it's not gonna work. I go: What? is there a problem? He goes: No, there is no problem, I am very sensitive to the vibes people gives out and I don't feel it with you. I went: When did you decide that? He said: In the parking lot. I thought I had seen it all. Gaeta. Your picker is off. You have to change the way you go about dating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2015 Author Share Posted February 20, 2015 Gaeta. Your picker is off. You have to change the way you go about dating. Then give me some instructions. This man is my age. My culture Divorced for 10 years Good job Children all adults Why was it wrong of me to pick him? Yes he did say unusual things to me but people on here all told me to give him a break. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 Then give me some instructions. This man is my age. My culture Divorced for 10 years Good job Children all adults Why was it wrong of me to pick him? Yes he did say unusual things to me but people on here all told me to give him a break. This man is my age - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. My culture - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. Divorced for 10 years - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. Good job - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. Children all adults - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. In other words, all the qualities that you think made this man a good candidate are meaningless. What do you feel are the qualities in a man that would make him good long term relationship material? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2015 Author Share Posted February 20, 2015 This man is my age - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. My culture - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. Divorced for 10 years - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. Good job - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. Children all adults - This is meaningless when it comes to long term relationships. In other words, all the qualities that you think made this man a good candidate are meaningless. What do you feel are the qualities in a man that would make him good long term relationship material? I named these because: I used to date younger I used to date foreigners He is not freshly out of a relationship He does not have small children like younger men have He has a good job and stability something I usually don't care about. Everybody told me I am not successful because I date too different from me in terms of age, culture, financial stability. Of course there is a list of qualities I want in a man but I got to date that man to discover if he has those qualities. He could tell me he is generous of his time and respectful and considerate but I will only get to confirm that by dating him. Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 LOL. Never heard of that. Do you not look like your pictures or something? I call BS on vibes. Maybe you are just very unlucky...? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted February 20, 2015 Author Share Posted February 20, 2015 LOL. Never heard of that. Do you not look like your pictures or something? I call BS on vibes. Maybe you are just very unlucky...? I am always told I look even better than my pictures. I don't want to brag but I have never met a man that did not want to see me again, never. Link to post Share on other sites
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