Thinkalot Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 So in about 2 and a half weeks we fly off to fiji to get married. I cant believe it's nearly here! after all the planning, and all the talk of marriage before we got engaged, and all the hurdles we have overcome. not to mention, all the years before that I dreamed about getting married, and a wedding and wondered when it might happen. i am already coaching myself to go with the flow on the day, so i just enjoy it, even if it doesnt all go according to my blessed plan! if anyone has tips on how to relax in the lead up and also on the day, hit me with them! basically, I can't wait Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 Yikes! It's April already!!! Unbelievable!!! So now is when you shut off the urge to direct and get determined that you are going to enjoy every single minute of it!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thinkalot Posted April 5, 2005 Author Share Posted April 5, 2005 yes, it's come around quickly merry. On the weekend I had a hen's gathering with mum and 6 friends...we had a host a murder dinner and lingerie party (got a few sexy things to hopefully impress my new husband on the honeymoon ) so a nice weekend was had. Have just come back from a meeting with my psych. We discussed my ongoing inability to really let go of the need to analyse everything, and control things. I am getting better though, so I got points for that But I was certainly reminded to stay vigilant and of the need to live in the present and enjoy the moment. I question on things still, and also overanalyse. Less, but still too much, considering the aim here is to continually reduce the percentage of time spent thinking and feeling anxious...I am a work in progress But I can see the changes which is tops. To quote my psych "you are way too intelligent for your own good. I ask you a simple question, and get a long abstract answer....KEEP IT SIMPLE" lol He asked if I wanted to see him again before we leave to get married (a bit more reinforcement ) I said, yes. He smiled and said " i thought so". He also keeps coaching me on the actually wedding part. Reminding me it wont go entirely to plan, but that it will be OK anyway, and to just enjoy the surprises of the day. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 You know, you're FAR more relaxed about the wedding now than you were when we first started talking about it a year ago (long before you were even engaged). It's in such a beautiful natural setting, that's sure to help you chill out. Meanwhile get rid of all that excess energy on the surf. Have fun, thinkalot Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thinkalot Posted April 7, 2005 Author Share Posted April 7, 2005 Originally posted by meanon You know, you're FAR more relaxed about the wedding now than you were when we first started talking about it a year ago (long before you were even engaged). lol- i did not realise that. I must have been one uptight individual...well, i know i was! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 Reminding me it wont go entirely to plan, but that it will be OK anyway, and to just enjoy the surprises of the day. Oh absolutely! Do *not* have your heart set on it going perfectly because it won't. Just make up your mind to go with the flow, no matter what. Sometimes the unexpected things are the best of all! The night before my wedding, there was a tornado nearby. The power was out in the church. We had to put our makeup on by daylight. The organ didn't work. The caterer changed the room on us without telling us. Had I let any of this bother me, I would've had a rotten day. But I had done a ton of work beforehand and that day I let it go and decided to go with whatever happened. And it turned out to be a real good party despite it all. Just be determined to have a good time no matter what. Link to post Share on other sites
Maria46 Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 The next couple weeks will fly by so fast. Please don't get yourself in a panic. If something doesn't get done, or if something isn't exactly how you want.......well....what can you do??? Go with the flow!!! So many good wishes I am sending to you for this happy event!! With all the good advice and suggestions you have given people. And with all the honesty and openness you have shown to all, you have lots of good karma coming to you. Be happy!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 I had an emotional breakdown the day before my wedding because my mother and sister were driving me nuts! Luckily my godmother stepped in to save the day! I had two friends I trusted who were good with planning events help on the day of. They had a list of the schedules, and basically everything to do with the day and they were in charge of making sure it went smoothly. Also my wedding party were told that I didn't want to answer any questions on the day of and they were to use their judgement becuase I trusted them. I also spent the night with my wedding part chatting and just relaxing so the day of I was ready to go!! I'm happy to say it went perfectly and it was the day my husband I always wanted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thinkalot Posted April 10, 2005 Author Share Posted April 10, 2005 thanks for the advice! It all makes sense. I am coaching myself "go with the flow, go with the flow"... lol we have four days in Fiji beforehand, so hopefully we will be nice and relaxed come the day anyway! we fly out 2 weeks today!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thinkalot Posted April 10, 2005 Author Share Posted April 10, 2005 We are just assembling the wedding things we need to carry over...I've even made welcome note poems and little gifts, to put in the guest's rooms. It's FINALLY happening. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Hey thinkalot...congrats on your upcoming date!!! The day of my wedding I had a breakdown. I was scared as hell. It was just he and I, in Hawaii. The anxiety overtook me, and to be honest, I'm surprised I married him! He comforted me through it. I pulled myself together and did it. After the ceremony, the trip was 'easy sailing' from there on. But up until that point, especially on THE BIG DAY, I was nervous as heck! Try to not let your nerves get the best of you. You've made this choice to be with this man (for the remainder of your life) for a very good reason. Don't let the anxiety jitters fog your view. Take it one step at a time. The decision making process has been made already, now just enjoy the ride. Oh, and capture it on film, because you won't remember SQUAT. Good luck and have an enchanting time (and ceremony) in Fiji. You lucky hooch. Your LS buds will be awaiting your arrival with details. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted April 12, 2005 Share Posted April 12, 2005 Wow Thinkalot. It seems like just last month we were excited about getting engaged, that was over a year ago. And BOOM 2 weeks away. I still have 2 1/2 months and I'm starting to get anxious about things coming together. Just last night I called the tent rental people to increase the size of the tent for the 3rd time. I'm starting to make check lists of things that I have to do the week of the wedding, so I don't forget. The farmers almanac says it's going to rain the whole week of the wedding :'( So I totally understand what your going through. Just remember the real reason of the day. It's the day that you make a total committment of love to your Snooky Bear (did I get that right? lol) Things may not go just as planned but those will be the things that will make it memoriable in the years to come. Another little pointer: Most brides will notice little things that didn't go quite as planned and they were upset about it, but the guests didn't even notice because they think everything to going smoothly. I wish you all the best and remember just breath. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thinkalot Posted April 12, 2005 Author Share Posted April 12, 2005 thanks carla and tiki!! and you're right carla..it wasn't long ago it seems, that I was waiting for him to propose, and chatting with you about it! good luck with your remaining planning...i have had LOTS of lists, so I can relate to you there. and tiki- i am now just looking forward to getting to Fiji, and having some time to relax before the big day. you sound so happy with your man too, in your posts- obviously your nerves, were just that! Link to post Share on other sites
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