sparx86 Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 I asked her a few times and she told me to stop asking. I no longer want to beg but I do make the 5 hour drive one weekend a month but half the reason I do it is because of my military obligation. She crashed her car 3 months ago but there are still plenty of ways to get to me. I have been away for 7 months now and it bothers me every time my roommates ask when she is coming to visit Link to post Share on other sites
DannyCA Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 You shouldn't be asking when she's going to visit you, you two should just plan that out together. Besides she doesn't even have a car. I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months and she came to visit me twice (we were 1,000 miles ld) and I got to visit her once. Because of school and work it was tough to get the time and same for her. In a way it's kind of bothersome that you say half of the reason why you visit her is because of military obligations...and the fact it bothers you when your roommates ask when she is going to visit, that shouldn't be on your list of worries at all 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 She may feel abandoned. A lot of my high school friends didn't feel comfortable coming to my college because they felt it was too prestigious & they wouldn't fit in. Is there a dance or anything coming up? Say to her, there's this part on campus on __________ . I want you to come with me. I got the bus schedule. You can come up Friday & go back Sunday. What do you say? If she says no or is evasive, you may have to resort to ultimatum but if you go that route you do actually have to break up if she doesn't come. Otherwise you have to resign yourself to this is how it's going to be. Based on her accident she may fear being in a car for a 10 hour r/t drive. In that case, cut her some slack. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 LDRs are tough. I've had a few, and while they may be worthwhile for someone truly extraordinary who is marriage material, it's usually best to find someone much closer. Even if you think they are worthwhile, do they think YOU are? IMO, she's not that into you if she doesn't want to visit. In other words, you're not worth the trouble to go the distance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 I asked her a few times and she told me to stop asking. Be understanding. If she loves you, she wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with her. but I do make the 5 hour drive one weekend a month but half the reason I do it is because of my military obligation. I'm a firm non supporter of g2r. So what, can't you visit her outside your military obligation? And how much time can you spend with her when you go there because of your military obligation? I feel something is definitely wrong with your approach. Be a gentleman and show you can go out of your way. it bothers me every time my roommates ask when she is coming to visit I understand your frustration, but why are you spending time with your roommates when you could be with her? Are you free to leave and see her so that you can visit twice a month? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sparx86 Posted February 24, 2015 Author Share Posted February 24, 2015 I really hardly hang out with my roommates it is just when the conversation comes up. One of my roommates also have a gf and she spends the weekends here every so often. I tell my gf that she is more then welcomed to do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sparx86 Posted February 24, 2015 Author Share Posted February 24, 2015 I'm a firm non supporter of g2r. So what, can't you visit her outside your military obligation? And how much time can you spend with her when you go there because of your military obligation? I see her at night and and spends the nights with me at the hotel. In total she will see me at least 3-4 days, depending how long it is. Also what does g2r mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sparx86 Posted February 24, 2015 Author Share Posted February 24, 2015 I am free to leave but I am a full time student and she has way more time then I do at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 25, 2015 Share Posted February 25, 2015 I see her at night Ahhhh, so even if you're there, she spends the day all by herself anyway. I think you should go and spend some days with her when you can. what does g2r mean? give to receive. Link to post Share on other sites
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