bellesnkeys Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 Why does one person tells you they don't love you anymore but when you meet each other again and they come back to you, their actions showed otherwise and it's like nothing ever changed and you seem to be getting along so well. A little while after maybe cause of a small argument or something they tell you that they can be your friend but nothing more. But then when you actually stand up for yourself and tell them "Don't act like I mean something to you or like you still love me if you really don't and moved on as you said and don't come back to me if you don't mean it" but then they tell you this, "It's not like that.. It's not that you mean anything to me" .. ok.. guilty because this was my situation but before he could even said anything further, I just cut him off because I was tired of his bull****. A few details... Things have been full of ups and downs for the both of us since the beginning and he's getting even more confusing. We broke up because of miscommunications and had NC for around 3 months. We resumed contact and at first things were fine and all that but the other day we got into an argument and havent been talking to each other since. Which brings to the dilemma above... which was part of the fight. Further questions or details you want to know, I don't mind answering! Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 After my ex broke up with me, I went NC for a month. We jumped back into the relationship even though he said he wanted to just be friends. He would initiate all contact and behave very boyfriend like. Buying me dinner, holding my hand, taking me to see his parents. I found out he was sleeping with someone else at the same time and he didn't feel guilty because we wern't official anymore. I seriously think my ex was delusional. Maybe yours is too. What came out of my ex's mouth was never what he did. I broke if off with him because I don't deal with liars and I deserve to be top priority. I would advise you to break it off for good and go full NC. I've been in and out of my relationship for 4 years. Everytime we start again, I end up heartbroken and angry and someone that I don't want to be. I have no doubt that he will come running back to me because I am the best thing that's ever happened to him. My ex needs a dose of reality on his own without my help. And he apparently needs to be back stabbed by some crazy girl before he will realize what he had. Being uncertain and walking on eggshells in your relationship is no way to live. Anyone that pulls the friends card is scared and a coward. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bellesnkeys Posted February 19, 2015 Author Share Posted February 19, 2015 "It's not that you don't mean anything to me" Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted February 19, 2015 Share Posted February 19, 2015 Why does one person tells you they don't love you anymore but when you meet each other again and they come back to you, their actions showed otherwise and it's like nothing ever changed and you seem to be getting along so well. A little while after maybe cause of a small argument or something they tell you that they can be your friend but nothing more. But then when you actually stand up for yourself and tell them "Don't act like I mean something to you or like you still love me if you really don't and moved on as you said and don't come back to me if you don't mean it" but then they tell you this, "It's not like that.. It's not that you mean anything to me" .. ok.. guilty because this was my situation but before he could even said anything further, I just cut him off because I was tired of his bull****. A few details... Things have been full of ups and downs for the both of us since the beginning and he's getting even more confusing. We broke up because of miscommunications and had NC for around 3 months. We resumed contact and at first things were fine and all that but the other day we got into an argument and havent been talking to each other since. Which brings to the dilemma above... which was part of the fight. Further questions or details you want to know, I don't mind answering! Based on the information you shared, I would suspect that you were a Plan B, which nobody deserves to be. And when Plan A didn't work out, and you were back together, it seemed like nothing had changed. Similar to the story darkbloom shared. I would not accept the "friendship" card at this point. It's an effort to keep you on the Plan B string. Either you are a couple, or you are not. I suspect you're better off with "not." Then going back to NC. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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