davecity Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 hey all, quick summary of my situation... my ex and i broke up in early december and she gave me the whole "i need my space and I need to find myself" line and so after initially trying to win her back I finally let her go after a month or so. We occasionally dropped an IM or two to each other throughout but I tried to hold on to some semblance of NC. A few times she emailed me telling me that she missed me and whatnot but I took it with a grain of salt because I knew she just missed the relationship. We had a very good relationship and the reason we broke up was because of the long distance as I am now working 3.5 hours away from where we used to go to school together. anyways I went up to my university this past weekend for the 10th anniversity of a singing group i was in and I knew she'd be at the concert and afterparty. I told myself that I would simply ignore her and that would be that seeing how i was dating a new girl. At the party when I finally bumped into her I said hi, not wanting to be a dick, and she had this look of sadness over her and I asked her what was wrong and she simply pointed to the necklace I had given to her. She then started crying and so I took her outside into the hallway and we talked for a while. I ended up spending the night at her place and to make a long story short we are now seeing how things go and riding the wave so to speak. I am just writing this to tell people that I'm not sure if second chances work. I guess I'll wait to see if things work. For the most part I assume that they do not however, I think that my situation was different in the fact that the reason we broke up stemmed not from anything about our personalities or personal negligence on our part but because of the situation itself. Cheers Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 Well, congratulations Dave. And drive *carefully* Link to post Share on other sites
eastern_mystique Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 Good luck. I hope it works out for you! Link to post Share on other sites
sleeplessincnd Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 Hi davecity, I think that if you want your second chance to work you need to believe in it. I am in the same situation as you right now and I understand the doubt that you feel. We broke up over a situation - not really anything anyone did. Just go into with your eyes and your heart open. You can't be afraid to get hurt again or you will close off and it will never work. Be an active participant in your relationship - don't let it just happen. Don't be a "Debbie Downer" or you are doomed to failure - think positive and honestly work at it. All the best! Link to post Share on other sites
Author davecity Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 thanks for the support! we had a long talk about what each other wanted and how we could change things for the better. Right now we haven't really put any labels on it and it is basically likes its a new relationship and we are "riding the wave" so to speak. The only real hindrance is the distance which I hope we can overcome but I know that love sometimes is not always enough to support a good relationship. Good luck to you sleepless! Link to post Share on other sites
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