jimmy1968 Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 I posted here about my ex who has BPD. She was nursing my 6.5 year old daughter, wouldn't set up a solid schedule for custody. Kept playing games with me and trying to use every ounce of me. She was abusive to my biological children. Just a rotten person to be married too. I had been sleeping with her still and that has stopped. I set up some really strict boundaries. I know it is crazy for me to still have been having intercourse with her. I'm very co-dependent. I have helped her out way too much and she has taken advantage of me over and over. I'm so glad she is gone. I really do hate her in many ways. She was a living nightmare. I can't seem to break free of her emotionally. I feel like I'm faking it until I make it. I hired an attorney to address the breast feeding of my daughter along with getting a set schedule in place and having my child support lowered. I'm gonna be tough and not let her hurt me anymore. Hold her accountable and maybe even fight for custody of my daughter if she keeps breastfeeding her. I feel like I have really great days. Than really bad, bad obbessive days. I get angry when she tries to push the boundaries. Mostly inside. I feel like screaming. Every time she tries to ask something of me I feel so angry. She used me for years. Never listened. Just took and took. She is not gonna change and I know that. But it triggers emotions in me like PTST. I can't stop thinking about all the things. I want her to agree to a simple set schedule. A standard schedule and it is so painful to talk with her about it. She only has her interests in mind. When she gets to go out and her needs. She doesn't want to agree because it messes with her social life and also she can mess with mine by bringing my daughter over whenever she feels like. I gave her until tomorrow at noon to agree to 1 of 2 options, than I'm meeting with my attorney to draft it up Monday. If she doesn't agree I'll have some paper drawn up that state a standard schedule. I hoping the set schedule will create more space between us, which I need desperately. Also we will be able to go times without seeing each other, now it is once a week which sucks. While she was picking my daughter up this morning she was kinda laughing about it. Making the schedule seem like a stupid thing to talk about. Than she told me she is moving on with her life and having sex with men. I knew she would not be single long, and she traps men with sex and than they find out how much a nightmare she is. But I didn't need to hear that. I feel angry about alot of things she's done to me. Felt like she was rubbing it in my face and telling me how good she has it. Treating me like crap all those years, me putting up with it. Her abusing my children. And than she laughs. She should be apologizing to me. But she has no empathy and thinks she has done nothing wrong. It just really hurt me deeply. I can't stop thinking about it. What can I do? Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 Just keep thinking your better without being in a relationship with her. She's bad to have around and she treated your sons terribly. Good luck to the men she traps, just be glad your out of it. Either ignore what she says or act like you couldn't care less and tell her 'that's lovely '. Lord knows what Std's she's carrying around at the moment. Stay strong and get on with your life. Go out, meet new people and be the best dad ever. Don't let those kids down. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveMyCat Posted February 20, 2015 Share Posted February 20, 2015 You should plan a massive celebration when she becomes another man's problem. And do whatever you can to help your children...maybe even consider trying for full custody, if it is possible. No children should live with a woman with thise many issues if there is any other option. And quit worrying about sex. You should be thrilled if she finds another sucker. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jimmy1968 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Share Posted February 21, 2015 Thanks for the words. I'm feeling better today. I put so much work into the relationship and it feels like a failed project. I am very grateful she is out of my life and talk with her in that manner. I am meeting new people and having fun. It's just hard sometimes because I put so much into trying to make it work. Just need to stop putting my energy toward it. I need to focus on my new life without her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jimmy1968 Posted February 21, 2015 Author Share Posted February 21, 2015 I need a celebration! I need to look at the positives! I have a much better life without her. My kids are doing really well also. She is mental and I need to remember that. Maybe feel sorry for her that she can't be a normal person. Time will heal all. Link to post Share on other sites
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