TrevorDia Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 So last week I'd taken a coach for a business trip. And normally I'm fine with travel sickness, but I wasn't feeling 100% that weekend, so I took a Dramamine to help - and on the journey across I was fine. Average weekend. And then on the coach back I was feeling a bit worse after the night before and so I'd taken a Dramamine before getting on board. And that's when this lovely lady gets sits next to me. The coach sets off and I'm feeling fine, and then about an hour into this 12 hour journey, the coach breaks down. This got us talking, and we must have talked for most of the journey too - and to be quite frank, she was amazing. She was an incredible lady though - you don't meet someone like her every day. She had a lot of the same interests, similar experiences - we even discovered we had a mutual friend (what are the chances?). In all honesty, I was quite taken by her, but she has a long-term boyfriend (isn't that always the way...). Anyway, she'd told me she about this job I'd be good for at her place; and she wanted to know more about what I knew about our mutual friend - so she told me to add her on Facebook when I got the chance (both our phones had died). And if that was the end of the story there'd be nothing to post on here about. Towards the end of the journey, I started to feel horrible, so I took another Dramamine - and every few minutes I was budging past her to get to the bathroom just in case; I became rather... gassy...; and generally acting out of character (nothing inappropriate however). When the coach finally stopped, it first stopped at her stop which was one before my own, but feeling the way I did, I thought I'd walk her back (it was late) and then catch a train once I'd had some air. We both got off the coach, and the Dramamine caught up with me. All of a sudden I became dizzy, and I'm pretty sure I was hallucinating some things. I kept going over to the wall as if I was about to vomit, and had to ask her for her water because I felt that bad. I didn't vomit and managed to get home eventually; I'm in two frames of mind about what I should do - I very much enjoyed spending time with her and she's a great lady - but at the same time, I'm so highly embarrassed by my conduct which followed. I'm pretty sure my conduct completely freaked her out, and as much as I'd like to message her - I have no idea whether I should; and if I should, I have no idea whether I should be apologising for what happened - or whether I should just pretend it had never happened. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 You're human. Don't worry about how you may have looked. I'd be more concerned about her having a boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 I agree, stay away for now since she is in a relationship! Link to post Share on other sites
Author TrevorDia Posted February 21, 2015 Author Share Posted February 21, 2015 Apologies if this is a stupid question, but - couldn't I be working towards a friendship with her? Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 (edited) Apologies if this is a stupid question, but - couldn't I be working towards a friendship with her? You could. But in your first post you kinda imply you are disappointed she is in a relationship. If you are then would it ever really be just a friendship? Meaning you would be chuffed to bits to meet her man? Attend their wedding? You have a mutual friend so it could happen. Edited February 21, 2015 by GemmaUK Link to post Share on other sites
Author TrevorDia Posted February 21, 2015 Author Share Posted February 21, 2015 You could. But in your first post you kinda imply you are disappointed she is in a relationship. If you are then would it ever really be just a friendship? Meaning you would be chuffed to bits to meet her man? Attend their wedding? You have a mutual friend so it could happen. Oh, I actually met her man already. Kinda. I walked her from the coach station to his car. And oddly enough she did say if I got her bf to propose to her that I could come to the wedding (she was asking about my previous engagement). And yeah, I guess I was a little disappointed to hear she's in a relationship, but it's not the end of the world - I mean, I don't talk to females with the sole purpose of ending up in a relationship with them, she's a great lady and I'd like to be her friend. And when I say a mutual friend - it's more a mutual "guy we find quite irritating" (I work with him). Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 21, 2015 Share Posted February 21, 2015 I'm sure she was not put off by your illness. If you're interested in the job, I'd contact her about that. But as far as anything romantic, remember that the nicest most wonderful people usually are already taken. She probably was in no way flirting with you but is just a friendly attractive person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TrevorDia Posted February 22, 2015 Author Share Posted February 22, 2015 I'm sure she was not put off by your illness. If you're interested in the job, I'd contact her about that. But as far as anything romantic, remember that the nicest most wonderful people usually are already taken. She probably was in no way flirting with you but is just a friendly attractive person. So let's assume that there's no romantic aspect whatsoever - because that is really not of any concern to me. Yes she's cute, yes she's awesome, but she's in a relationship and I respect that. I am interested in her as a person though - she's fascinating. And I'm also interested in the job that she's recommending. So how do I bridge the gap from standing on a street corner dry-heaving (the last time she saw me), to starting up a friendly and purely platonic dialogue? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TrevorDia Posted March 3, 2015 Author Share Posted March 3, 2015 A little development. I got a message last night saying: "Hey, don't know if you remember me - we were coach buddies a few weeks back! I thought about what you said and you were right, it wasn't working. Me and Ryan decided to call it a day. I just wanted to say a belated thanks for your company, and next time you're in the area let me know and we'll take another trip together! Love x" I don't remember what I said to her... let alone anything which would cause her to break up with her boyfriend. The only thing I remember saying was that I'd tell him to propose to her if she wanted. Should I respond to this message? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 Oh, nice. Well, sounds like she is feeling romantic after all. But whether you should mix that with the job she's talking about is something else again. Apparently she has forgotten all about the vomitfest. You should see her! Link to post Share on other sites
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