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As a single woman reaching 40, I find that the older I get, the more used I get to my situation and don't wanna change it.

 

Like today. I come home. House is nice and quiet. I have my pets and sit down to enjoy some good food and watch TV and come here online. No guy and/or kids to disturb me...

 

I come and go as I please, I can sleep in after staying up all night typing up stuff on my projects. I make my own schedule and don't have to report/coordinate with anyone.

 

Actually, as I was prepping my brunch, I started to think how it's getting close to mum coming back and you'd think I'd be elated to have some company in the house - no, I am actually not looking forward to it.

 

Do you feel the same? The longer you stay alone and get into your own "routine", the less you want it to be disturbed? Would meeting someone mess all that up for you?

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I don't think your mom is going to give you a nice big orgasm, so it makes sense you might not get very excited about her coming over. But there's something about intimacy with a partner, when it's good, that's always preferable over being alone. No matter how long you've gone without it or how used to being by yourself you've gotten.

 

You can get used to and comfortable with just about anything as a human. =/

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I don't think your mom is going to give you a nice big orgasm, so it makes sense you might not get very excited about her coming over. But there's something about intimacy with a partner, when it's good, that's always preferable over being alone. No matter how long you've gone without it or how used to being by yourself you've gotten.

 

You can get used to and comfortable with just about anything as a human. =/

 

But, I believe women - unlike men - the less we have sex, the less we miss it.

 

My lack of desire for a guy will keep on running strong cuz I haven't and won't be getting laid. Actually, going two years know and proud of it.

 

And, trust me, getting laid isn't enough for me to want to get married. I've had a penis or two in my life you know. Six years of great penis and still didn't marry it and/or want it to move in with me.

 

I like my penis, but at a distance thank you.

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But, I believe women - unlike men - the less we have sex, the less we miss it.

 

My lack of desire for a guy will keep on running strong cuz I haven't and won't be getting laid. Actually, going two years know and proud of it.

 

And, trust me, getting laid isn't enough for me to want to get married. I've had a penis or two in my life you know. Six years of great penis and still didn't marry it and/or want it to move in with me.

 

I like my penis, but at a distance thank you.

 

I disagree. I miss it when I don't have it.

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I disagree. I miss it when I don't have it.

 

Me too.

 

I'm finding I enjoy living alone, but I needed a cat to keep me company. In addition to sex, I miss coming home and having someone to hold me and kiss me and comfort me when I'm upset, to sit on the couch and watch tv with, to give me back rubs, to share all those small moments of intimacy that you only have with someone you live with.

 

I even miss my roommates occasionally, because you just don't have those moments with people you don't live with.

 

On the other hand, I love not having to check in with other people if I want to do things, not having to clean up other people's messes (being able to be messy if I please!), not having to share the tv, etc.

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Oh I'm accustomed alright. But I also kind of gate it. I mean I'm ready to commit so just send a man with potential you know?

 

At the moment I keep my calendar fairly full but I know once the right man comes into my life, something gonna have to go.

 

In the meantime, I lift and skate and skate and lift and study lol

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I'm an introvert by nature and have really found this out as I've gotten older. While I am social and I entertain often and the rest, I do relish my alone time. I've always had roommates, some I've liked less than others, but even with the ones I've liked, sometimes when I get home and realize they aren't in or they're going away for the weekend, I feel an extra special glee to just be alone. I even like going out to eat alone, I LOVE shopping alone and find that once I've gotten accustomed to that, unless I suggest it, I find it a little annoying when someone else says they want to come with me or when now it's a group thing and I have to coordinate around what other people want.

 

I've never lived with a boyfriend, but have definitely had the pattern of extended sleep overs, where I'll go by their place and stay for basically the whole week or they come by me and stay for days and such and while it is nice, there are times I need my alone time. I remember with my ex he left for work after 6am in the mornings and my day doesn't start until much later, I'd be sad when he was leaving but then happy that I could spread out in the bed.:o:laugh: I realize I missed not having to share the bed. Or after say a 4 day marathon of being with each other, if he decided to go home for the day, while I would be happy to see him again, I took pleasure in just having that time for myself.

 

So in any relationship I will need the balance of closeness and me time. I know when I'm married to someone I will definitely need my own retreat in the home where I can work, think, relax and I would need a man who would not be offended by this.

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I've always required a lot of alone time. And yes, the older I get, the harder it would be to accommodate someone else in my life. The main two issues would be I'd rather have the bed to myself and my dogs overnight to sleep well, and I don't want kids around, which is very hard to avoid. And I hate being seen without makeup and wouldn't want to have to dress nice around the house and just want to be comfortable there, and at my age, that means dumpy and unacceptable. It sounds like too much trouble.

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I've always required a lot of alone time. And yes, the older I get, the harder it would be to accommodate someone else in my life. The main two issues would be I'd rather have the bed to myself and my dogs overnight to sleep well, and I don't want kids around, which is very hard to avoid. And I hate being seen without makeup and wouldn't want to have to dress nice around the house and just want to be comfortable there, and at my age, that means dumpy and unacceptable. It sounds like too much trouble.

 

Lol....

 

Well, the doggies don't sleep in the bed...that's off limits for them. But, one of them likes to sleep in my recliner chair. But, at night my bedroom door is locked shut.

 

Well, I don't mind being seen w/o make-up, but I'd have to pay more attention to my hair and not wear my stained/holey clothing...lol. I do "tame" my hair and wear lounge clothes I do have separated if I have company though. Not too much of a hassle for me. :D

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Lol....

 

Well, the doggies don't sleep in the bed...that's off limits for them. But, one of them likes to sleep in my recliner chair. But, at night my bedroom door is locked shut.

 

Well, I don't mind being seen w/o make-up, but I'd have to pay more attention to my hair and not wear my stained/holey clothing...lol. I do "tame" my hair and wear lounge clothes I do have separated if I have company though. Not too much of a hassle for me. :D

 

I'd lock them out during sex or someone would get bit, but I like sleeping with them. They don't mind if I snore and cough and clear my throat and get up to pee every hour. I don't see how anyone could sleep around me with all that going on and I certainly don't need any more things to disturb my sleep.

 

I could deal with wearing better clothes, but what I could never deal with is wearing a bra at home. They hurt me. I hate them. But I need one.

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