Stress and anxiety is ruining my life

[Yami]

Hello all! I'm so desperate for help right now.

 

From the past 2 years or so, I've been suffering with anxiety and not just anxiety. My main problem is STRESS...I'm always under intense stress and worry. I'm trying to figure out but I don't know what causes my anxiety or my stress. I don't feel normal anymore. I feel tired, headache and very depressed pretty much all day. It's just so overwhelming- emotionally and physically. I don't feel anything but fear and stress. I don't feel loved, I don't feel calm. I guess I'm worried about my future, my past..I messed up my life big time and I can't come out of it. I've passed my engineering but got very low gpa and I regret it so much. I've been home jobless from the past 6 months doing nothing and it's making me depressed. I envy my friends who are settled in life. I've plans on moving abroad next year to study my master's but I don't know if I can make it till then. I feel like a failure and getting low grades from the past 4 years has destroyed my confidence and I feel I'm dumb.

 

I don't know how to stop worrying so much about my life, myself and pretty much everything. I have a gf but I don't feel loved, my dad tells me I don't have to worry about my future but he doesn't know anything about my anxiety. I get stressed to the point I get fever and start sweating and my heart beats fast all the time! I don't do anything productive. Because of this anxiety and stress, I can't study..I got low grades and my confidence hit rock bottom. I want to come out of it and change my life but how can I start when the moment I wake up from sleep, my head starts feeling heavy and I start worrying. It just feels like my life is a dark place. I just want to end it all..I can't handle this anymore. The only reason I haven't committed suicide is because of my family. I don't know where to start and bounce back in my life. Please help me..I don't want to be insecure, anxious, afraid of something irrational but I don't know how to help myself.

[d0nnivain]

Stress is a killer. It can add to depression & that undermines productivity. It's a vicious cycle.

 

 

What do you mean by "home jobless?"

 

 

If you don't have a place to live, do you have family you can turn to? You need a roof over your head.

 

 

If you don't have the engineering job of your dreams due to the low g.p.a. can you get a job doing anything just to have money coming in so you can put gas in your car, eat, buy a train ticket whatever?

 

 

What are you doing to get employed? Are you apply for at least 5 jobs per day? Are you going to at least one networking event per week? Are you going to at least one job fair per month? Are you checking with your college's placement office every week? They have job coaching & other leads. If you aren't doing all of those things, start.

[Gloria25]

Oh gosh, I feel ya

 

I had a long lay-off period recently and am not in the job I used to held. I literally make more than less I made a few years ago due to some stuff I'm trying to resolve because of some evil people.

 

I feel like I'm in purgatory. Like I'm in a stand-still situation and don't know when it will end - even though I plan for it to end this year.

 

What sucks more is cuz I'm on a budget, I can't get out and do much, so it's pretty much work, working out, coming home, and working on my projects to get myself out of purgatory and back where I used to be.

 

At least you have a gf. It's good to have someone you can lean on as a source for comfort. Don't turn away from them, turn "to" them. I backed off from dating and/or having much to do with friends cuz I'm such a Debbie Downer right now, but I think that's not good for you. Allow your gf and family/friends to be a source of support for you.

 

The only other thing I can offer you is to get physically active. When it was warmer, on top of my regular workout, I walked a lot. It got me out of the house, didn't cost a dime, and helped me cope.

 

Also, try meditation and yoga. We can't control what's going on and stress is normal, but when we don't have a way to properly get rid of the stress, than that's where the stress can become a killer.

 

Good luck...

[Gloria25]

Stress is a killer. It can add to depression & that undermines productivity. It's a vicious cycle.

 

 

What do you mean by "home jobless?"

 

 

If you don't have a place to live, do you have family you can turn to? You need a roof over your head.

 

 

If you don't have the engineering job of your dreams due to the low g.p.a. can you get a job doing anything just to have money coming in so you can put gas in your car, eat, buy a train ticket whatever?

 

 

What are you doing to get employed? Are you apply for at least 5 jobs per day? Are you going to at least one networking event per week? Are you going to at least one job fair per month? Are you checking with your college's placement office every week? They have job coaching & other leads. If you aren't doing all of those things, start.

 

Agreed. When I wasn't laid off and actually unemployed years ago, that whole thing of "treating a job search like a job" actually is a good thing. If you get up early, work out, shower, get cleaned up and have an organized plan of your job search (i.e. 9-10, check websites; 10-11 cold call; 11-12 lunch, etc.) it does help you get through the day and at least feeling motivated that you are doing what you can and exerting control over your situation.