Affair coming to a turning point, need guidance

[alainbig]

As long as you allow her to be indecisive, she will. This could go on, the you said "to the end".

 

Give her a date to make up her mind. Then back-off. Let her spin her wheels and come to her own conclusion.

 

By such and such day she is still teetering on a decision let her go (very hard to do). Tell her she could come find you when she has left, things are completely over and she has settled in. Meanwhile cut all communication and block her from texting/calling/email...ect

 

Good luck. You NEED to move on and not waste your life any longer.

 

Ok thanks for the input. Cutting all contact is next to impossible as I would need to change city, job and activities, but i can put it to a minimum.