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Usually that's what I do. It's rare that I am the one who initiates contact. But I always fail in these situations. He has commented in the past in subtle ways that he thinks he is bothering me because he always initiates. I guess I'm like that because I have tried to self protect. But then I get all crazy when I don't hear from him. It's all games. Pathetic games on both sides. But this time just really hit me and has me seeing things differently. I'm just over all of the bs.

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Please make sure to stay 100% NC. There is no need to be "nice" and follow up. If he can't be with you then he is not the right person for you as he is not giving you what you need 100%. Stick to NC to save you from rebounds and pain (which can lead to suffering)

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Don't hate yourself. There is no switch and I have been there. I was 100% NC but then could not resist wishing happy bday one month into NC. She was polite and replied. All "OK" but it again put me back with my recovery. Go 100% NC. Keep busy. Talk to friends and seek help if needed. Wishing all best.

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Well it's been a week and a day since I emailed MM. The day I emailed him, he emailed me back and I responded but never got another response from him till the next day (last Thurs). We emailed back and forth that day, but it was mostly about our mutual friend who we were both working to help find employment. I have not heard from him since. My bday is Sunday. and at this point I don't expect to hear from him. I don't know how to feel anymore. I guess I'm closer to not giving a sh@t anymore.

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