Why do so many people not have any morals anymore?

[Woggle]

I know a guy that this happened to as well. To be fair, the girl was pretty sorry so he should've known better than to get involved with her and her shenanigans.

 

Anyway, when the kid gets a little older and starts to resemble the real father, the jig is up. Bill is due for that transgression.

 

This is why I think that maybe a paternity test at birth is the best idea. Get it out of the idea as soon as a child is born or at least making a positive DNA match a requirement for paying child support.

[Revolver]

Why don't you or the sister aware the current boyfriend. It's the right thing to do since how would you be able to live with knowing the guy is going to raise a kid that's not his. And why is your sister friends with someone like that in the first place?

 

It's not my place, and it's not like I know dude. I've seen him maybe 2 times in my life lol. As for my sister I don't know

[nlynnc]

Yes I agree, I feel like a lot of people dont have any morals. Honestly the only reason I do and that I stick to my values is because of my relationship with the Lord. And also because I want to be a good example to my kids. Ive definitely made mistakes in the past where I havent stuck to my values but i'm learning everyday!

[NJ123]

It's not my place, and it's not like I know dude. I've seen him maybe 2 times in my life lol. As for my sister I don't know

 

True. It's just not right though, not saying you since you barely know him. But I think someone should aware him somehow, even if it's anonymously. Can't let some guy take care of a kid that's not his. It would destroy him even more if he finds out later on than soon since he'd be able to move on from this evil woman & have the chance to find someone better before it's too late.

[Mangina]

...and most of those stories got nothin' on mine and X.

 

sometimes NJ, I wish I could skip out on my morals too. I know that sounds awful but d@mn, it's like it the only way to get what one wants when it comes to Marriages and relationships is to do whatever it takes (ie; sleeping your way to the top) to get what one wants.

Then when faced with the opportunity, I just can't go through with.

 

 

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could you elaborate? I do not mean to shame you I am just not sure what you mean exactly. how can you sleep your way to the top? do you mean sleeping with married men to steal them from their wives?

 

i understand you would not do it, i am just trying to figure out what you mean.

[truncated]

I am sick and tired of people who treat others badly and then proudly:sick: bleat about how they are doing what feels right for them.

 

Ugh.

 

As I got older, I became much less tolerant of that sort of thing, as I have seen firsthand what aht kidn of atitude can do to those who are on the receiving end of the crap treatment.

[Woggle]

I am sick and tired of people who treat others badly and then proudly:sick: bleat about how they are doing what feels right for them.

 

Ugh.

 

As I got older, I became much less tolerant of that sort of thing, as I have seen firsthand what aht kidn of atitude can do to those who are on the receiving end of the crap treatment.

 

Yup. I know people who will probably never fully trusty the opposite sex again because of this crap.

[elaine567]

According to current estimates, the levels of “non-paternity” (when a child turns out to have been fathered by someone other than the ostensible father) lie somewhere between 1% and 30%, with the “best estimate” being in the region of 10%. So one child in ten is not the child of the man assumed to be their father

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[StanMusial]

This is why I think that maybe a paternity test at birth is the best idea. Get it out of the idea as soon as a child is born or at least making a positive DNA match a requirement for paying child support.

 

Hmmm. You could even say that it is because you are trying to avoid a "switched at birth" type scenario. LOL.

 

Personally I think the best idea is to find a good woman. Not the easiest, but the best.

[autumnnight]

I have known people who seemed to have no morals. One I know that about them, I try not to know them anymore. I have a core of very good friend who I have known for years, and we share the same values. Could one of them be living a super secret double life? Sure. If I found out about it I would distance myself.

 

I have never been in a place where everyone around me seemed to lack morals. That is because I am careful about who I surround myself with. There are good people in the world.

[devilish innocent]

After seeing this, I was curious if there were any statistics on the changes in the number of people who cheat. I did some searching and found this:

 

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According to the article:

 

The percentage of wives having affairs rose almost 40 percent during the last two decades to 14.7 percent in 2010, while the number of men admitting to extramarital affairs held constant at 21 percent, according to the latest data from the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey.

 

Why the increase in female cheating overall?

 

 

Wives with their own jobs have less to lose economically from a divorce, and social media have made it easier to engage in affairs.

[NJ123]

After seeing this, I was curious if there were any statistics on the changes in the number of people who cheat. I did some searching and found this:

 

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According to the article:

 

Yep. It's not a surprise that a lot more women are cheating these days compared to in the past. Social media has made a lot more women turn into sluts.

[Selfish]

Yep. It's not a surprise that a lot more women are cheating these days compared to in the past. Social media has made a lot more women turn into sluts.

 

You do realize how sexist this is.

 

Women didn't cheat before because cheating meant losing everything.

 

So then instead of making it equel in the sense that the men who got away with cheating for years because "men will be men" and other reasons would get as much of a raw deal as women got, they made it so it didnt matter who cheated. Socially there is still a huge stigma more against women cheaters than men. Women socially are held to a higher standard. It is sad that instead of raising rhe standard for men; the standard for women was lowered (not by all).

 

Also more women can cheat like their male counterparts because they now get to be out of the house. They can cheat with the secretary too.

 

So, to really move on in life and have a positive outlook. Learn to see sexism in yourself and get rid of it.

[NJ123]

You do realize how sexist this is.

 

Women didn't cheat before because cheating meant losing everything.

 

So then instead of making it equel in the sense that the men who got away with cheating for years because "men will be men" and other reasons would get as much of a raw deal as women got, they made it so it didnt matter who cheated. Socially there is still a huge stigma more against women cheaters than men. Women socially are held to a higher standard. It is sad that instead of raising rhe standard for men; the standard for women was lowered (not by all).

 

Also more women can cheat like their male counterparts because they now get to be out of the house. They can cheat with the secretary too.

 

So, to really move on in life and have a positive outlook. Learn to see sexism in yourself and get rid of it.

 

It's not sexist when it's a fact that women are cheating more now than in the past. I probably should have used a better term than slut, but women are cheating almost as much as men are nowadays.

[Phoe]

You do realize how sexist this is.

 

Women didn't cheat before because cheating meant losing everything.

 

So then instead of making it equel in the sense that the men who got away with cheating for years because "men will be men" and other reasons would get as much of a raw deal as women got, they made it so it didnt matter who cheated. Socially there is still a huge stigma more against women cheaters than men. Women socially are held to a higher standard. It is sad that instead of raising rhe standard for men; the standard for women was lowered (not by all).

 

Also more women can cheat like their male counterparts because they now get to be out of the house. They can cheat with the secretary too.

 

So, to really move on in life and have a positive outlook. Learn to see sexism in yourself and get rid of it.

 

This post made me realize something that I NEVER realized before.

 

My exes who cheated on me never faced any stigma for it. Sure, they faced my anger (not that they cared, they wanted to leave!) but they never faced anything else. No one else batted an eyelash about it. The first one kinda even got nods of approval and a bit of respect because the girl he left me for is VERY pretty.

 

In contrast to him never having any backlash, I sure dealt with stigma when he admitted, publicly, that he had only stuck around with me for the blowjobs. I sure faced some unpleasantness for that!

 

The girl who freely gave pleasure to the man she adored and trusted got shamed, while that same man cheated on her and left her, and got high fives for it.

 

NEVER before had I realized just how skewed that was.

[ComingInHot]

Yep. It's not a surprise that a lot more women are cheating these days compared to in the past. Social media has made a lot more women turn into sluts.

 

Hey!! NJ! Be nice...

Maybe say, more women or some women are being caught cheating like their male counterparts or something. not ALOT turn into sluts.

That makes me sad to hear coming from you. You are lime the Zombie king to many of us...

CiH*

[Selfish]

It's not sexist when it's a fact that women are cheating more now than in the past. I probably should have used a better term than slut, but women are cheating almost as much as men are nowadays.

 

But your whole premise is that morals are going out the window? Which means were women the ones who had to keep the world moral? In order for things to have been better men would have to been the ones to stop cheating so much. As it is, i'd say we are all the same humans we always have been (history much? Slavery, rape, war, ect). It is just in our face more.

 

My point is women cheating more isn't an example of our morals becoming less. It is just a result of equality. Women can be equel to men now.

[NJ123]

Hey!! NJ! Be nice...

Maybe say, more women or some women are being caught cheating like their male counterparts or something. not ALOT turn into sluts.

That makes me sad to hear coming from you. You are lime the Zombie king to many of us...

CiH*

 

Yeah, I already said I shouldn't of used that term. But a whole lot of more women are having affairs & cheating than before that's just a fact. Men cheat just as much so it's not a gender bashing thing. It definitely goes both ways.

[Selfish]

This post made me realize something that I NEVER realized before.

 

My exes who cheated on me never faced any stigma for it. Sure, they faced my anger (not that they cared, they wanted to leave!) but they never faced anything else. No one else batted an eyelash about it. The first one kinda even got nods of approval and a bit of respect because the girl he left me for is VERY pretty.

 

In contrast to him never having any backlash, I sure dealt with stigma when he admitted, publicly, that he had only stuck around with me for the blowjobs. I sure faced some unpleasantness for that!

 

The girl who freely gave pleasure to the man she adored and trusted got shamed, while that same man cheated on her and left her, and got high fives for it.

 

NEVER before had I realized just how skewed that was.

 

It is slut shaming an a sad part of our society even still. And from other women. Now I am not saying a woman who cheats should be patted on their back. But they should recieve no more sensor than a man who cheats. And many people fill this way. Sadly many people still feel the other way.

[NJ123]

But your whole premise is that morals are going out the window? Which means were women the ones who had to keep the world moral? In order for things to have been better men would have to been the ones to stop cheating so much. As it is, i'd say we are all the same humans we always have been (history much? Slavery, rape, war, ect). It is just in our face more.

 

My point is women cheating more isn't an example of our morals becoming less. It is just a result of equality. Women can be equel to men now.

 

Edit: Okay, I think I know what you meant. That the aftermath of when they get caught is more severe in consequence than for a man. At least that's what I hope you mean.

Edited February 26, 2015 by NJ123

[Selfish]

Wow, I don't even know what to say to that. It's almost like you're condoning cheating. Why the **** would women want to be equal in such a god awful practice?

 

Edit: Okay, I think I know what you meant. That the aftermath of when they get caught is more severe in consequence than for a man.

 

Yes, exactly. If cheating meant the scarlet A, or jail, or divorce and never seeing your kids again or worse, well not to many went there (or they did and didnt grt caught). So basically, for many it wouldn't have been morals holding back it would have been fear of consequences.

 

Now women can divorce so exit affairs can happen or other affairs.

 

I cheated by the way. And am pretty disgusted with myself for that (quite a few years ago, i confessed and we reconciled). If I had been in a time where cheatinf would have put me on the street without my kids would I have done so? Well who knows but one thing is for sure. I probably would never have confessed.

 

And then there would be no stat.

[Woggle]

I am not sexist. I am anti cheating no matter who does it and my wife has the same no tolerance policy that I do. I don't care who else does what but I do not tolerate betrayal. I don't care if I get called sexist for it.

[Selfish]

I am not sexist. I am anti cheating no matter who does it and my wife has the same no tolerance policy that I do. I don't care who else does what but I do not tolerate betrayal. I don't care if I get called sexist for it.

 

It isn't sexist to believe cheating is wrong. No one said that.

[DukeNukem47]

You do realize how sexist this is.

 

Women didn't cheat before because cheating meant losing everything.

 

So then instead of making it equel in the sense that the men who got away with cheating for years because "men will be men" and other reasons would get as much of a raw deal as women got, they made it so it didnt matter who cheated. Socially there is still a huge stigma more against women cheaters than men. Women socially are held to a higher standard. It is sad that instead of raising rhe standard for men; the standard for women was lowered (not by all).

 

Also more women can cheat like their male counterparts because they now get to be out of the house. They can cheat with the secretary too.

 

So, to really move on in life and have a positive outlook. Learn to see sexism in yourself and get rid of it.

 

Sexism is healthy in men. If more men in the past had been sexist, maybe the world wouldn't have become what has become.

 

Ironic that the decline of just about everything (marriage, birth rates, the economy, etc) happened to occur at the same time as the rise of feminism, don't you think?

[Selfish]

Sexism is healthy in men. If more men in the past had been sexist, maybe the world wouldn't have become what has become.

 

Ironic that the decline of just about everything (marriage, birth rates, the economy, etc) happened to occur at the same time as the rise of feminism, don't you think?

 

If male and females stopped with the sexism the world would be a better place.

 

There is nothing good about discrimating against a person because of their genitial. We are equels. We may have differences but those differences do not make one superior to another.