FolderWife Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 One beautiful spring day two weeks ago, I was going to visit my husband's uncle. For the first time EVER I pulled out of the office parking lot and there was no traffic coming what so ever. as I topped the hill, I noticed that there was no traffic in front of me. No traffic. I coasted down the hill, and when I was near the bottom, I saw a cop going in the other direction flashing his lights and pointing out the window. I pulled over. He said he clocked me going 77 in a 50!!! While I was sitting in my car waiting for my ticket, I noticed that my radar detector didn't make a peep!! My radar detector detects EVERYTHING. I was on my way to my husband's uncle's house. I hadn't seen his uncle in 4 months. So when I arrive at his uncle's house, the first thing out of my mouth after "I love you! I missed you!" is "I got a freaking speeding ticket " My husband's dad is a cop on the same force as the cop who gave me my ticket. But my husband's dad is on vacation. My husband doesn't talk to his dad. I asked my uncle if he knew someone that could get me out of the ticket. He said if he ran into his cop buddy, he'd ask him. I decided not to tell my husband about the ticket. I figured if I could get out of it on my own, there was no need in getting a lecture from my husband too..I had enough to deal with When I got to work on Monday, I asked my employer if he knew someone that could get me out of the ticket. He knew a retired state trooper who MIGHT know someone that could get me out of the ticket. A week and a half went by, and neither my uncle, nor my employer's friend called to let me know if they'd gotten me out of the ticket, so I called, and neither my uncle nor my employer's friend knew anything, so I sent a letter to the court pleading not guilty. I needed to buy some time to get some points taken off my license (one prior speeding ticket a year ago) before I got these 7 poings added The court received my letter, and called me to tell me that my ticket had been dismissed...the day after I received it I called my employer's friend and thanked him. He said he hadn't talked to anyone. He had left messages, but no one had contacted him. I called my uncle and he said he mentioned it to his buddy, but that was a couple of days ago, and the ticket was dismissed BEFORE that. Yesterday, I got a call from my employers friend saying he'd spoken to the cop who gave me the ticket, and he said that my husband's dad got the ticket dismissed. I didn't know how my husband's dad couldn't known about me or the ticket, since he was out of town on vacation, so I called my uncle, and my uncle said that he didn't talk to him about it..... I don't think my husband's dad knows my name...so how could he know that it was his son's wife that got the ticket So I figured that I'd never really know who got me out of the ticket...that is until I went to the grocery store yesterday and actually SAW THE COP who gave me the ticket! So I walked right up to him and asked him who got me out of the ticket. He said my husband's dad. He said that he thinks that my husband's dad wants to reconcile with my husband, and he was hoping that my husband would call him if he got me out of the ticket. My husband is really stubborn though. His dad was shot some time last year, and my husband STILL refused to go and see him. So now, I need to tell my husband that I got a speeding ticket, and his dad got the charges dropped for me, even though I didn't ask him to, and when I talked to the cop who gave me the ticket, he said that he thinks my husband's dad wants my husband to call him. This is just so weird. Weird coincidence# 1: There was no traffic on the road the day I got my ticket...there's ALWAYS A TON of traffic. Weird coincidence# 2: My radar detector didn't go off. Weird coincidence# 3: My husband's dad...whom I've never met got me out of the ticket. Weird coincidence# 4: While I'm confused as heck as to who got me out of the ticket, and had accepted that I'd never truely know, I actually RUN INTO the cop who GAVE ME THE TICKET in the GROCERY STORE! It's like God set this whole thing up to get my husband and his dad speaking again. The problem is, it's all on my shoulders. Now I have to admit to my husband that not only did I get a speeding ticket, but I KEPT IT A SECRET FROM HIM! Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 What's the problem with a speeding ticket? Pay and that's it. Why should you worry about your husband? (Or am I missing something about speeding tickets?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 Speeding tickets take points off your drivers license. The faster you're going, the more points. I was going 27 mph over the speed limit, so that's about 7 points. I already had 6 points from a ticket I got a year ago. You're only allowed 12 points. 6+7=13 which is more than I'm allowed, and I'd have lost my license Yes, I speed a little once in a while, when no one is around. Especially down hill. Both tickets were in the SAME SPOT. Down hill. I have a V6 Grand Cherokee...I needed the momentum to get up the other side Cops are THICK in this area too. Where I used to live, there were no cops. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 Hey Monday! Don't discount what people who work in the field of law can find out about others. I'm sure your hubby's dad could easily find out your name, and police can flag certain individuals to know if anything comes up. Unfortunately I don't think your husband is gonna talk to his father just because of this, but at least his father knows that he did a good deed for his son. Parents do those things. Link to post Share on other sites
PatientOne Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 Weird coincidence# 5- This cop knows about the relationship between your husband and his father? You must live in a *really* small town! Link to post Share on other sites
billybadass36 Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 I wouldn't discount the likelihood that your father in law set this whole thing up, including your getting pulled over in the first place. If you husband's uncle knew you were going to be going over to his house, leaving work at a roundabout time and taking a certain route...this whole thing could be a conspiracy to make your father in law look good in the eyes of your H. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 I'm assuming you have the same last name as your husband's father? If so, it may've been a dead give-away. Or someone was really watching over you. It probably all happened for a reason. ...Now for just explaining all this to your husband.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 I thought of the conspiracy theory too Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by PatientOne Weird coincidence# 5- This cop knows about the relationship between your husband and his father? You must live in a *really* small town! It's not really that small...when I was talking to this cop in the grocery store he said he didn't know the situation between my husband and his dad, but he knew they weren't talking... Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 And this is the very reason why I don't hide a damn thing from Mrs. Moose. Monday, you're going to have to get into the habit of being 100% honest with your husband. You pull these kind of things and then you wonder why he tries to pull the wool over your eyes with his porn. Never hide anything, be totally honest, you'll sleep better! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 Originally posted by Moose And this is the very reason why I don't hide a damn thing from Mrs. Moose. Monday, you're going to have to get into the habit of being 100% honest with your husband. You pull these kind of things and then you wonder why he tries to pull the wool over your eyes with his porn. Never hide anything, be totally honest, you'll sleep better! You have it backwards. I got so sick of him always being 50% honest with me, and me being 100% honest with him, and always being hurt and disappointed when I would find his half lies. So I learned that in order to protect myself from feeling humiliated and betrayed, I'd just do it his way. So now, if I don't want to have to deal with him, I don't. I was honest. He was not. I did what I had to do. It's his fault...this is the way HE wanted it. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 If you two truly plan on spending the rest of your lives together, one of you is going to have to be the bigger person and grow up. This game isn't going to solve anything. It's too hard to remember all of these half truths......wouldn't you feel better if you beat him to the punch and be 100% honest regardless of the consequences? Anything else would be bringing yourself down to his level. I'm only trying to help. Link to post Share on other sites
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