thisistossup Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) My BF of 8 months is sick of me living 3 hours away. Because of my work -- he was the one who traveled most of the time to see me...and he wanted me to quit my job -- and live with him. However, I ended up having a custody issue and I have gone back to live in my child's hometown -- but he is SO sick of it. He has said he can't take it anymore --- and he blew up. So, I started commuting 6 hours every day -- I would work until 11 and get home at 2am and then leave again at 10 am. He and I had a horrible fight last week and we ended up spending the week apart and now he is just out of his mind -- says he can NOT take the distance anymore. I was going to drive back Monday night at 2am -- but we got bad weather. Then, last night -- I started coming down with a cold/fever. I told him I couldn't stay away and he was very very upset. Tonight -- he wants me to come -- I'll get in at 2 am and he leaves for work at 7! So, I am just wondering - am I out of line for wanting to avoid the trip tonight? He's very upset.....He tells me that our relationship is like "slavery" for him...that he is just having to put his life on hold because I won't come back and live with him. And if I have to travel to see my kids -- he's not happy, either.... Edited February 26, 2015 by thisistossup Link to post Share on other sites
MRSR31 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 My BF of 8 months is sick of me living 3 hours away. Because of my work -- he was the one who traveled most of the time to see me...and he wanted me to quit my job -- and live with him. However, I ended up having a custody issue and I have gone back to live in my child's hometown -- but he is SO sick of it. He has said he can't take it anymore --- and he blew up. So, I started commuting 6 hours every day -- I would work until 11 and get home at 2am and then leave again at 10 am. He and I had a horrible fight last week and we ended up spending the week apart and now he is just out of his mind -- says he can NOT take the distance anymore. I was going to drive back Monday night at 2am -- but we got bad weather. Then, last night -- I started coming down with a cold/fever. I told him I couldn't stay away and he was very very upset. Tonight -- he wants me to come -- I'll get in at 2 am and he leaves for work at 7! So, I am just wondering - am I out of line for wanting to avoid the trip tonight? He's very upset.....He tells me that our relationship is like "slavery" for him...that he is just having to put his life on hold because I won't come back and live with him. And if I have to travel to see my kids -- he's not happy, either.... Hell no. His primary concern should be your health and well being. Done. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 To me the title is just enough. Would you do this? NO. Why? BECAUSE. If your relationship is slavery, he's the master. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thisistossup Posted February 26, 2015 Author Share Posted February 26, 2015 I told Him I wasn't coming last night and he was livid. He said it showed I didn't really love him or want to see him.. I said no. I just think we would only have 4 hours together (2am to 6am) and he needed to do surgery in. The am! I asked him to stop lecturing me or insulting me on the phone. He wouldn't. Do I told him I loved him but I needed to get off the phone. He said I didn't get to control when the convo ends. So I eventually get him off the phone and he calls me 12 times in the middle of the night to FaceTime .. To prove no one is in my bed. I did not answer. I still haven't answered his insane texts. He even has my location tracker on! He knows where I am. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 He's being passive/agressive to break you down so he can get his own way. This won't stop unless he gets what HE wants or you breakup with him. This won't go on forever....something is gonna give. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 How much longer are you going to put up with this from him? I thought from your last long thread you had finally seen the light and were done with it. I guess not. You've been posting about these same issues for months under a variety of different user names. He isn't going to change. He has shown you who he is. You've gotten unanimous response on these boards (a rarity) that your boyfriend is absolutely nuts, controlling, and will likely end up hurting you if you stick around. What's it going to take for you to walk away from this once and for all? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 That sounds like a real nightmare. Why didn't you ask him to show HIS love? And do the back & forth while you stay home? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Anyway, I think you should steer clear from this guy. It sounds like he might be dangerous. Link to post Share on other sites
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