I turned myself into a booty call

[endlessabyss]

A studette that had a taxi paid for them just so the stud could enjoy that gushy crevice in between your legs for the night, and then sent you on your way lol.

 

Studdete.

 

I like that.

[imtooconfused]

He can have any girl he's not going to bang an ugly chick.

 

No guys like him to settle down but they settle for the most beautiful women.

 

...

 

The vast majority of us women should know better than to go after men who are drop dead gorgeous and can have any girl they want.

 

The girl who can have any guy has run into the guy who can have any girl. It's a battle of extreme attractiveness. Each side not willing to settle for anything less than exactly their topmost desire, for her a meaningful relationship, for him sex anytime he needs it. For us 7's and 8's, this is fun to watch.

 

Unfortunately she played the wrong card in the hopes that she would prove herself good enough to get what she wanted. It unfortunately backfired.

 

Despite my paragraphs above, I have a lot of sympathy for the OP, because I have vainly poured out a lot of myself in the hope of proving myself worthy. It's going to be a tough slough to get past this situation, but keep in mind that the man that you pined for was never willing to be the man that you dreamt him to be. I doubt a perfect 11 would get him to settle down. He would just use the drop dead gorgeous woman the same way that he used you until he was tired of the sex, then move on. Once you can come to this realization for yourself, then you have hope.

[notyouraveragebabe]

No guys like him to settle down but they settle for the most beautiful women.

 

You would know if you were drop dead gorgeous because the hottest guys would be lining up to date you.

 

I am a solid 7 and am told I am hot by hot guys but I know that I am never going to be that woman that changes an elite hot guy who has sooo many options, come on now, NO ONE is that woman hardly.

 

The vast majority of us women should know better than to go after men who are drop dead gorgeous and can have any girl they want.

 

Unless a guy like that seriously courts you and it is soon apparent that he is falling HARD for you, stay away from such guys as they will never settle for you, guys like that only truly settle for " The One" which always happens for even these types.

 

It is a classic case of you shooting above your league and being shocked when you weren't the elusive girl to "change" him.

 

It is hard enough to change even average looking men when they are set in their bachelor ways! I nearly did once, he was not a gorgeous stud but he fell hard for me but soon reverted back to his old ways!

 

And I am sure a super hottie would be even harder to tame, with all the gorgeous women in his phone he can speed/booty dial lol.

 

With that kind of attitude you won't be able to change any guy. I am not looking to change anyone. I don't go out of my league because I go after what I deserve. I don't number myself on a scale from 1/10 because it's irrelevant.

 

I go after the same qualities I have. For instance, I workout, eat healthy, lift weight, so I have a good body (hour glass shape). I'm a solid DD, man made, but I look good. I'm attractive (good features), nice skin, nice hair, dress nice, outgoing, well-traveled, well liked, educated, career, own my condo and car.-ll before 30. I know what I have and what I can have. This guy also works out, he has a body, tall, cute face, not as far along in his career as I am, but he's getting there... and yeah maybe he can find a hotter girl, but you know what I can find a much hotter guy too. Maybe one with a bigger c**k.

[notyouraveragebabe]

A studette that had a taxi paid for them just so the stud could enjoy that gushy crevice in between your legs for the night, and then sent you on your way lol.

 

Studdete.

 

I like that.

 

We all have needs. It has statistically been proven that sex makes you happier. I was happy and it felt good, just sad that my feelings were involved. I don't regret doing it and in the future I know to be honest with what I want.

[notyouraveragebabe]

The girl who can have any guy has run into the guy who can have any girl. It's a battle of extreme attractiveness. Each side not willing to settle for anything less than exactly their topmost desire, for her a meaningful relationship, for him sex anytime he needs it. For us 7's and 8's, this is fun to watch.

 

Unfortunately she played the wrong card in the hopes that she would prove herself good enough to get what she wanted. It unfortunately backfired.

 

Despite my paragraphs above, I have a lot of sympathy for the OP, because I have vainly poured out a lot of myself in the hope of proving myself worthy. It's going to be a tough slough to get past this situation, but keep in mind that the man that you pined for was never willing to be the man that you dreamt him to be. I doubt a perfect 11 would get him to settle down. He would just use the drop dead gorgeous woman the same way that he used you until he was tired of the sex, then move on. Once you can come to this realization for yourself, then you have hope.

 

This definitely was a challenge for me. Most guys are chasing me and I can't get rid of him. It's possible that my ego is more hurt than anything else.

[notyouraveragebabe]

I had some really negative feedbacks and a few positive ones, but it's ok. This site is a way to vent my feelings. We all come from different parts of the world and different viewpoints. I respect everyones' feedback even if they were negative. I read it and learned from it... I let it make me stronger. I know next time not to settle and I know what I'm worth. I'm not a "booty call". I want a real commitment.

 

So what he paid a Taxi for me, its because I'm worth it and if he had to pay a cab ride he's going to pay for a good time with an attractive girl. I'm not a random girl to him, he knows me. I could have drove myself there, but I'm going to make him spend that $$ on me because it boost my ego to see that he's doing this for me. We dated for a year. I know his friends and he knows mines.

 

At the end of the day I was hurt because I didn't get what I want. More of an ego thing for me. I'm not use to rejection and usually have guys chasing me. He was a challenge and sometimes challenges are fun. I wouldn't say he won because love isn't a game. Dating is about finding out if the person is the one for you and I wasn't the one for him.

 

Yes, maybe one day he will settle for that girl and she might just be any average girl, it's just I'm not his soulmate. I will one day say the same.

All I can say is he wasn't the one for me and there are plenty of guys out there.

[almond]

I highly doubt I was shooting out of my league. Studs looks for studettes. He can have any girl he's not going to bang an ugly chick. If anything, I'm out of his league. I'm attractive, tall, really good body, funny & he tells me all the time. I have a career and my own place. This guy is an idiot and he's just a d**k. He doesn't want to be in a relationship, because he wants to stick his d**k in any vagina. I'm sure he can do this and is going to continue to do this. I agreed to the FwB and treated him like that, so he returned the favor. I guess as females we can't sepreate our emotions because I fell for him while doing it. He's moving and he wasn't looking for any commitments. I'll take it as a lesson learned. Next time , if I want something real I need to be honest or move on. I don't have trouble finding guys and I'm not even worried anymore. I already moved on since I wrote this.

 

Why is he a d**k? He was upfront about what he wanted. You lacked the self control to stand by what you believe and wanted, and caved.

 

 

Don't insult the guy just because you put yourself in a situation that you knew wasn't right for you. You told him you wanted no strings attached sex, and now that you've got it, you're insulting the hell out of him?

 

 

The guy didn't want a relationship and he made that clear. He is moving away, and told you this. You weren't honest with him, and you got what you signed up for. Take responsibility for the position you put yourself in, and learn from it.

Edited March 3, 2015 by almond

[notyouraveragebabe]

And didn't you say he WAS seeing another woman briefly?

 

Yet he wouldn't see you beyond casual...

 

When a guy is gorgeous looking and he has the prettiest girls after him, I know to stay away. I am a 7 not a 10.

 

I think you were just being a little unrealistic here although I am sure you ARE attractive; a lovely cute guy should come your way, just stay away from the hottest top 10% of men who have ALL the options please for your own good.

 

Yes they fall for cute 7's or 8's on the occasion but not often trust me! I have only EVER seen it with hot sporting stars who married PRIOR to their career before all the girls threw themselves at him.....

 

The most desirable men who enjoy casual seldom settle until a girl absolutely knocks their socks off trust me...

 

As I mentioned I stated we dated and things were going good until I asked for a COMMITMENT (keyword) and he didn't take that well. After we "broke up" We both started seeing other people. We were separated for 2 months. When we got back together it became more casual "booty call". It turned into let's just sleep together. I guess that's what happens when you see an ex again. When we called each other I mentioned I missed him and all the things he did to me in bed and that's probably how it all started. Initially, I was fine and thought things would kind of go back to where it was, but nope no more candlelit dinners for me. This is where I put my foot down because I deserve more. I guess the honest thing to do is to just really ask him to know.

 

Also, I wouldn't categorize men in the hottest top 10% because if I can date them of if he's interested in me then I'm going to let them come to me. I didn't go after him, he was introduced and asked me out. I don't categorize men to number of 7 or 8's and who to date. I date guys who meet my requirements and I meet his. If it doesn't work out then I move on. Yes, one day any guy will settle with the right person. Even the ugly ones. There's always somebody out there for someone.

[notyouraveragebabe]

Why is he a d**k? He was upfront about what he wanted. You lacked the self control to stand by what you believe and wanted, and caved.

 

 

Don't insult the guy just because you put yourself in a situation that you knew wasn't right for you. You told him you wanted no strings attached sex, and now that you've got it, you're insulting the hell out of him?

 

 

The guy didn't want a relationship and he made that clear. He is moving away, and told you this. You weren't honest with him, and you got what you signed up for. Take responsibility for the position you put yourself in, and learn from it.

 

You're absolutely right. He was honest and never mean to me. He walked away when he couldn't commit and didn't lie or deceit me for sex. I guess I'm just emotionally hurt. Who doesn't ever had their heartbroken before. I'm happy for him to chase his dreams, but my dreams are exactly where I am and I can't move for him.

[NJ123]

I had some really negative feedbacks and a few positive ones, but it's ok. This site is a way to vent my feelings. We all come from different parts of the world and different viewpoints. I respect everyones' feedback even if they were negative. I read it and learned from it... I let it make me stronger. I know next time not to settle and I know what I'm worth. I'm not a "booty call". I want a real commitment.

 

So what he paid a Taxi for me, its because I'm worth it and if he had to pay a cab ride he's going to pay for a good time with an attractive girl. I'm not a random girl to him, he knows me. I could have drove myself there, but I'm going to make him spend that $$ on me because it boost my ego to see that he's doing this for me. We dated for a year. I know his friends and he knows mines.

 

At the end of the day I was hurt because I didn't get what I want. More of an ego thing for me. I'm not use to rejection and usually have guys chasing me. He was a challenge and sometimes challenges are fun. I wouldn't say he won because love isn't a game. Dating is about finding out if the person is the one for you and I wasn't the one for him.

 

Yes, maybe one day he will settle for that girl and she might just be any average girl, it's just I'm not his soulmate. I will one day say the same.

All I can say is he wasn't the one for me and there are plenty of guys out there.

 

You sound like a handful, no wonder you're having trouble. If you're as good of a catch as you say you are than what exactly is the problem? You're probably going after all the jackasses that treat you like dirt, but because their hot you let them use you for sex than you complain about it.

[spiderowl]

You said it yourself, you turned yourself into a booty call. I don't know if this is reversible or not, but if it is you need to withdraw from this 'arrangement' suddenly and decisively. If he comes after you and eventually offers a relationship, make sure he sticks with the first commitment he makes (he must turn up to the date, etc.). If he doesn't, forget the guy. He's got too many options and is dazzled by the choice. He's not likely to be in any emotional place to make a commitment to a woman for quite some time.

 

There are loads of good-looking guys on dating sites aged over 40 and never married. Some of them haven't sustained a relationship beyond a year. I figure they are so good-looking, they rely on that and are like kids in a sweetshop. They date one woman and then look to the next one who flatters them. These guys only start to grow up when they realise they are spending more time alone because their mates are married, they are losing their looks, and women are not impressed with immature guys.

[endlessabyss]

I had some really negative feedbacks and a few positive ones, but it's ok. This site is a way to vent my feelings. We all come from different parts of the world and different viewpoints. I respect everyones' feedback even if they were negative. I read it and learned from it... I let it make me stronger. I know next time not to settle and I know what I'm worth. I'm not a "booty call". I want a real commitment.

 

So what he paid a Taxi for me, its because I'm worth it and if he had to pay a cab ride he's going to pay for a good time with an attractive girl. I'm not a random girl to him, he knows me. I could have drove myself there, but I'm going to make him spend that $$ on me because it boost my ego to see that he's doing this for me. We dated for a year. I know his friends and he knows mines.

 

At the end of the day I was hurt because I didn't get what I want. More of an ego thing for me. I'm not use to rejection and usually have guys chasing me. He was a challenge and sometimes challenges are fun. I wouldn't say he won because love isn't a game. Dating is about finding out if the person is the one for you and I wasn't the one for him.

 

Yes, maybe one day he will settle for that girl and she might just be any average girl, it's just I'm not his soulmate. I will one day say the same.

All I can say is he wasn't the one for me and there are plenty of guys out there.

 

 

 

The rationalization in this post is insane, and cringeworthy, at the same time.

 

 

Was this supposed to be serious?

 

 

The way you rationalized the cab thing is astounding.

[lino]

The rationalization in this post is insane, and cringeworthy, at the same time.

 

 

Was this supposed to be serious?

 

 

The way you rationalized the cab thing is astounding.

 

Indeed.

 

This right here is exactly why dating and relationships are so hard.

Women like the OP aren't uncommon and I'd even say they're the majority amoungst women under 35. Sadly even many of their older counter parts are taking up these terrible attitudes.

 

Makes one really think they've won the lottery finding someone without that sort of mindset.

 

'Boosts my ego knowing he spent all those $$$$ on me' Geez your father must be so proud

[guest569]

I think all we are seeing is someone who is quite hurt and trying to rebuild their self esteem after feeling rather worthless. I much prefer this attitude to the one that I have often taken on - self pity and hatred leading to depression. Without your confidence you have a lot less chance of bouncing back as effectively. What's the problem here? Good luck to OP

[CFW]

I met this stud last summer and he pretty much can have any girl he likes. Good looking, tall, nice body, the full package. I instantly was attracted to him. He took me out on a date and wined and dined me. I slept with him on the first date, we had really good sexual chemistry. We talked a lot and things seem to be going good.

 

I WANT a relationship and told this guy that. He didn't respond well. He didn't call me for 3 days. Then finally called and I just brushed him off because I'm better than that. I deserve more for myself than to be his booty call. So things ended and of course my feelings were still there.

 

Then he stopped trying and I came back for him and he didn't care to bother with me anymore. Brushed me off was passively being a jerk. Then I find out he's seeing another girl. They were seeing each other for a couple of months then they broke up seems he hurt her (I'm assuming). So then thats when I came back into the picture.

 

He was really sweet wanting to take me on a date again. He cancelled our date saying he was sick. Then rescheduled for the next day and never followed up on it. Then he asked for another date and I told him that he wasn't worth my time. He's making plans and not following through and I don't need someone like that. There are plenty of other guys out there for me. I told him like it is and surprisingly he did not even get upset. He actually killed me with kindness-apologizing and saying yes he doesn't doubt that there are plenty of guys waiting for me. He then mentioned that he is moving up North and isn't looking for anything serious and mentioned he knew I was.

 

I told him you know what for the record we had a good time and I just wanted to hook up again. (BIG MISTAKE) I don't know why I lost respect for myself and went this low to see this guy again. So i basically told him I don't care for anything but sex, but really hiding my true feelings of being in love with him still. This past month we been hooking up and he doesn't even take me out, do sweet things for me anymore. He just sleeps with me and leaves. I hate myself for it. He is moving in 5 days and I AM SO HURT!!!!

 

I just don't know what to do. He clearly doesn't care for me. He doesn't call or text me after, no communication what so ever. I haven't even heard from him. It's strictly just down to business and when he is done he just leaves.

 

I just don't understand men. He paid a taxi ride of $108 dollars to pick me up to go to his house because he was too drunk to drive to pick me up and I wasn't going to drive up there. So he arranges this just to get me over to his place. Do guys really do this? Was he desperate? Did he just want me?

 

This my friends is the problem with women. When you have dozens of you chasing after good looking studs, even after they show what jerks they are. there's a lot of average looking good guys out there who know how to treat women, but are ignored in favor of these so called studs.

[Zahara]

If anything, I'm out of his league. I'm attractive, tall, really good body, funny & he tells me all the time. I have a career and my own place.

 

And yet you needed his $$$ to boost your ego and a paid cab ride to feel worthy. You should be able to validate yourself since you're all of the above.

[Winston_Smith]

I just don't understand men. He paid a taxi ride of $108 dollars to pick me up to go to his house because he was too drunk to drive to pick me up and I wasn't going to drive up there. So he arranges this just to get me over to his place. Do guys really do this? Was he desperate? Did he just want me?

 

You don't understand men?

 

Well, let me ask you this: would you have hooked up with a short, scrawny man who is completely genuine and sincere about his romantic feelings for you and probably would have treated you better?

 

It's a rhetorical question. I already know the answer. There's no mystery about our two species.