heather03 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 (edited) So I broke up with my boyfriend about two months ago because he decided to study abroad for 6 months and not really discuss it with me..Long story short I unfollowed him on Instagram and Twitter, but we follow mutual people so I always see other people liking his pictures while he's on his trip and they're really good. I know he really wants me to follow him back again because he's always telling me about his page, and I've been considering it. I'm starting to move on and have considered following him again because I check his page on a regular basis anyways..should I refollow him or will this only hurt me? Edited February 26, 2015 by heather03 Link to post Share on other sites
Stercrazy Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Sure as long as possibly seeing him with someone else won't bother you. Link to post Share on other sites
lumberjac Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 yeh think about the worse scenario, how would you feel if you see him posting a picture of him kissing a girl? if you wouldn't be bothered about it then follow him, why not Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 When you don't have to ask a forum. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 So I broke up with my boyfriend about two months ago because he decided to study abroad for 6 months and not really discuss it with me..Long story short I unfollowed him on Instagram and Twitter, but we follow mutual people so I always see other people liking his pictures while he's on his trip and they're really good. I know he really wants me to follow him back again because he's always telling me about his page, and I've been considering it. I'm starting to move on and have considered following him again because I check his page on a regular basis anyways..should I refollow him or will this only hurt me? ........no Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 why exactly are you staying in touch with an ex? Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 why exactly are you staying in touch with an ex? ^^ this. That is one of the worst things to do. Link to post Share on other sites
ZiggyZoo Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 I'd say when you don't give two sh*ts either way what he's up to. At least a year... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 The only time you should follow or even become friends with an Ex is when you have lost all romantic feelings for that ex and when you think of him, all you feel is indifferent towards him. Basically, if you see a pic of him kissing other girl under a palm tree and the only thing it does is remind you that you need to pick up banana's, then you're good to go! Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Never. lol Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 You mean coconuts??? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted February 26, 2015 Share Posted February 26, 2015 Hell, any citrus fruit or other would be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 social media does nothing but destroy people after a breakup and i can totally see how someone who gets dumped would remove the other person cause its too hurtful, especially if the dumper starts living a crazy life posting pictures every day which is probably the meanest thing you could do. however. if you break up with someone i dont see why you would delete him. maybe this is just me personally but i would stop using social media for a while out of respect. i can totally see how it can be hard for the dumper too but i think its better to let time heal, cause after a few months you as a dumper will be fine with seeing pictures of him as long as you broke up with him because you didn't love him anymore. sorry but there are way to many questions about social media.. should i block him? should i add him? i'd say dont use it if it bothers you. let the one you break up with as long as he wasnt abusive decide if he wants to see pictures of you. just my two cents. most likely he wants you back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heather03 Posted February 27, 2015 Author Share Posted February 27, 2015 social media does nothing but destroy people after a breakup and i can totally see how someone who gets dumped would remove the other person cause its too hurtful, especially if the dumper starts living a crazy life posting pictures every day which is probably the meanest thing you could do. however. if you break up with someone i dont see why you would delete him. maybe this is just me personally but i would stop using social media for a while out of respect. i can totally see how it can be hard for the dumper too but i think its better to let time heal, cause after a few months you as a dumper will be fine with seeing pictures of him as long as you broke up with him because you didn't love him anymore. sorry but there are way to many questions about social media.. should i block him? should i add him? i'd say dont use it if it bothers you. let the one you break up with as long as he wasnt abusive decide if he wants to see pictures of you. just my two cents. most likely he wants you back. Thank you for being civil about it. I know it was a dumb question to post in the first place, but probably because I was overthinking it way too much anyways. It does hurt sometimes because even though I broke up with him, his life appears way more exciting now because he's in Asia living it up. He was still following me even though I broke up with him, and I would still see his pictures even though I wasn't following him, so I decided I should just follow him anyways. We had a great friendship so hopefully one day we can just go back to being friends Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 As you are the dumper you don't mind seeing his pics and if he sees someone else, you no doubt will be able to cope, as you made the decision to split. BUT as the dumpee he may see you following him as a sign you want to get back with him and if you do then OK but if you don't, then do not get his hopes up to get them dashed again. Dumpers often want to be just friends with dumpees, but most dumpees cannot handle it as they really want more. Once you unblock, he will be able to see your pics, but as you are moving on, then at one point your new bf may be starring in them, that may upset the dumpee again, so think carefully. Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted February 27, 2015 Share Posted February 27, 2015 I would say the answer to this is "When you no longer care" but by then, there really is no point anyway. So the answer really is "never." Link to post Share on other sites
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