krunchers Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 I just dont know what to do. My wife and I where married for 4 years 7 years total. 6 months ago we had separated because I didnt want to move to a different city with her. I wanted to stay. I was just scared thats all. well we did see each other often and talked on the phone. I thought things were working out then seh told me she met someone on the personals. Now this person is in a different state. She is dating this person , but wont commit to them because she still loves me. There is nothing I can really do about because were not together. The only thing is she still wants to hang on to me. She said she doesnt know what she wants. This thing with the other person could be nothing but she nees to find that out. What should I do. The other person knows i spend the night at her house and we still have finances together. Why wont that person just get out of the picture. She had called her the other day and said she had a feeling that she is going to get back together with me. should I hang on, but stay a distance.? please help Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 Instead of asking what you can do to get him out of the picture, why don't you get yourself in the picture. You can't expect your wife to stand around waiting for you to get the balls to move to another state. Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 maybe she is just trying to give you the kick up the a$$ you need to stop being such a baby and just move with her. blimey you are scared to move as a couple yet you let her move alone? Link to post Share on other sites
Author krunchers Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 well there is more to that.. we were going through a period where we just didn't get along. she was spending alot of time at work and stressed out. she didn't want to be around me. she was very distance. I wasn't sure if she loved me anymore. thats why i didnt move. I wasnt sure. now i dont know what to do because now there is someone else involved. she has been messing with my mind the whole week saying if we get back together i want a real wedding. not just a couple of friends and playing love songs to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author krunchers Posted April 6, 2005 Author Share Posted April 6, 2005 the other person knows im in the picture allready and not too happy about it. Link to post Share on other sites
newby Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 well sounds like she does love you but wants a bit of fireworks and passion and romance. just plan something really wild and romantic and go an surprise her. and once you get her back, dont stop there. Link to post Share on other sites
StillHurtin Posted April 6, 2005 Share Posted April 6, 2005 My H and I were separated, going through a D, and he was having an A. I moved away to my hometown for support from family (not to mention I didn't want to live in the same town seeing them 2gether). A month later, he called begging me back. It took several weeks to decide what I wanted. When I took him back I told him I refused to go back and live in the same town, I was happy being back home near family. The OW got him fired and instead of staying there (where jobs are more plentiful) he moved w/ me and our kids. He loved me enough to leave his old life, friends, and family behind. If you love her enough you will move to be w/ her. If she loves you enough she will have NC w/ the guy she met. GL! Link to post Share on other sites
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