PinkElephants Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 I'm a woman who has approached guys in the past but, as a previous poster said, I only approached men I was attracted to. You've stated in other threads that you're ugly which is unfortunate but many women simply won't initiate a conversation with a guy she can't see herself having sex with. Attraction goes beyond physical looks though. You may not have the looks to attract a woman and you're not giving her any other reason to approach you. You're not reading an interesting book or enjoying an interesting drink or having an interesting debate. You're staring into space with a hopeful look on your face and waiting for someone, anyone, to make eye contact with you. What about that inspires a woman to talk to you? What on earth would she even say when you've given nothing to spark a conversation? But I'm sending her a big signal but removing my headphones/putting away my phone when she's around. That's work on my part, then she's open to make the first move. You seem to think you're sending out a crystal clear beacon that says "I'm ready to be approached now!" but all she sees is a guy who got tired of listening to Pandora. All women are open to making the first move but they're not going to unless they have a reason to. Furthermore, she could be in a relationship, a lesbian, whatever and going to be unresponsive no matter what signals you put out. Link to post Share on other sites
chados Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 woman dont approach they get approached. it is just really rare to see a woman walk up to a man. maybe on a club but even then it doesn't happen nearly as much as the other way around. now go out and approach them:) Link to post Share on other sites
Lokin4AReason Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 welcome to the modern age ( seems to get a lot worse to the years coming ) ... they do not know at how to reach at when someone tells them " hello " because more than half the time they have their noses in their phone(s). texting to whoever, from what I noticed IMO wish it was like 60 year(s), at when people had less distraction(s) in our live(s) Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 Only good looking men get blindly approached You're gonna have to put yourself out there and approach which means probably tons of rejection before you even get a number Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 It's a different experience online though, and recently I have found myself getting to know someone I wouldn't find attractive in real life based on his photos, but I am attracted to his personality that much that I'm willing to give it a chance and se where it goes. It's a first for me, but if the physical attraction isn't there when I meet him in person, I can't see myself going any further. Just being honest. Pics don't mean anything. Tons of people that look great in person take horrible photographs. That's why you need to see what he actually looks like before writing him off physically. I'd laugh if you come on and say "In person he was so hot and looked nothing like his pics." You should watch the reality show Dating in the Dark. All 12 eps are on YouTube here - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQj8QuLIUM5R5UzAZqgI6ww Make sure to watch the US versions. It's about people that get put in a pitch black room and are forced to get to know each other on personality. Then their looks are revealed at the end. I hare reality TV. But this concept is pretty entertaining. Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 Pics don't mean anything. Tons of people that look great in person take horrible photographs. That's why you need to see what he actually looks like before writing him off physically. I'd laugh if you come on and say "In person he was so hot and looked nothing like his pics." You should watch the reality show Dating in the Dark. All 12 eps are on YouTube here - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQj8QuLIUM5R5UzAZqgI6ww Make sure to watch the US versions. It's about people that get put in a pitch black room and are forced to get to know each other on personality. Then their looks are revealed at the end. I hare reality TV. But this concept is pretty entertaining. Thanks for the tip! I've no plans to write him off at all, I'm actually quite excited to meet him. I'm just saying I will need to be attracted to him physically whatever he looks like before I can commit to anything else, and I'm pretty sure everyone feels the same. I'm sure OP too has something he can offer in the physical attraction department, even if he himself thinks he lacks in looks; not judging, no idea what OP looks like; he could be a God for all I know, we're not always our own best judges anyway. I'd say self confidence and being happy in his own skin would help. Link to post Share on other sites
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