katiegrl Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 She definitely has not been able to be by herself long enough to process anything else and told me this is why we are fwb. I'm just distraught because once again, I'm getting used I think. I keep ending up as someone who is there part time, or half ass or for now. I'm never "the one" anymore. That's the point of the original post. I want something real. Year after year I get hookups, fwb, etc... I know this one living with me needs time. It's clear. But I only get these types of things now. You only attract hookups and FWBs because that is the energy YOU are projecting. You get back what you project. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 She definitely has not been able to be by herself long enough to process anything else and told me this is why we are fwb. I'm just distraught because once again, I'm getting used I think. I keep ending up as someone who is there part time, or half ass or for now. I'm never "the one" anymore. That's the point of the original post. I want something real. Year after year I get hookups, fwb, etc... I know this one living with me needs time. It's clear. But I only get these types of things now. You're not getting used. You willingly entered into this because of how she looks and that your penis finally responded. Right? Stop playing the victim. You get FWB because of how you choose to proceed... and if you keep doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results, what is that called? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Again, not. My penis doesn't work if im not sexually attracted. Which is all very good and well. But your penis isn't the one getting lonely. 2 weeks is not long enough to get to know someone and for attraction to develop. Heck its not even long enough to have had a good rummage round someone's body and find their likes! Its the same amount of time you would go on a cruise for! Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 The roommate needs to move out and you need to exercise some penile discipline because the tack you keep taking leads you further and further away from that which you say you want the most. There comes a time when you stop playing the hapless victim and stop being so messy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 If you treat others as disposable you will only attract people who treat you as disposable. this is a great quote and probably applicable in OP's situation. If you are focusing on primarily the looks of these women, in that you won't find love. It's a spark that's it. I like the suggestion of dating a lot of people and open your horizons. If you typically only want 9.5's and 10's, try some 7.5's to 9's, ok? You may find a relationship of substance there. Also if you are offering up what you "do" for these girls that are already in your life, they are using you from the get-go. You won't find love in that scenario. It sounds like they are treating you as disposable straight away. There are a lot of women that are even 9s and 10s but they just aren't over the top, you know? I think a lot of women understand this. For example, I can look around the gym (where I just came from which is why I'm using as an example) and there are lots of gorgeous girls. When I look at the faces, I can see by bone structure, etc which ones have that sophisticated beauty that doesn't really "flame out". Then there are the attention grabbers--who actually wouldn't really make as pretty babies with you when you get right down to it but kind of flaunt it all more. By observing people, I've noticed these ones kind of use and throw away guys. They are aware of the smoke and mirrors tactics they've got going on--and their shelf life. Guessing you pick these types. Those types are a combo of what they look like (or rather what you've been tricked into thinking they look like) and their self-absorption. Don't get me wrong, they get a lot of guys' attention up front and have people pining over them, but their connection to others is often shallow--based on same reasons you have been attracted to them in first place. Check yo' self before you wreck yo'self, my friend. If you are stable financially and then some, why have a roommate, especially where this is going on? That's just messy and with mess with your future prospects. Not meaning to kick you while you are down, but if you are open to some introspection, part of the answer lies within you to change some things up and keep trying, just do it differently. Good luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 2 weeks is not long enough to get to know someone and for attraction to develop. I think it is long enough to develop some penis attraction. His "pretty women" problem is mental, not physical, unless of course, he can't get aroused when blindfolded. If that's the case, then he's either getting too much already, or just watching too much porn. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted March 2, 2015 Author Share Posted March 2, 2015 2 weeks is not long enough to get to know someone and for attraction to develop. Heck its not even long enough to have had a good rummage round someone's body and find their likes! Its the same amount of time you would go on a cruise for! Really? But women, in my experience, view it as something being wrong if you don't have sex within a few dates. I'd love it if I could take a month to slowly get to know someone. I'm afraid this isn't acceptable to most I meet, who actually want to have sex second or 3rd date normally. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 3rd time is a charm.... ****My penis does not work unless a girl I'm with is really, really attractive. People can call me shallow, but it's a physical problem. I'd prefer it worked with whoever my brain wants to be with, but it doesn't. I am attracted to like 5% of women. The other 95% i cannot have sex with because my junk will not do anything, nor do i have sexual type thoughts or urges with them. Okay...I believe you! But you asked us what was "wrong" with you and we told you! You are shallow. It's obvious. If you don't like our answer, I am sorry. But arguing about isn't gonna help you... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted March 2, 2015 Author Share Posted March 2, 2015 I think it is long enough to develop some penis attraction. His "pretty women" problem is mental, not physical, unless of course, he can't get aroused when blindfolded. If that's the case, then he's either getting too much already, or just watching too much porn. Ahhh... interesting. Probably right. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 and if you keep doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results, what is that called? Oh please let me answer that one!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Really? But women, in my experience, view it as something being wrong if you don't have sex within a few dates. I'd love it if I could take a month to slowly get to know someone. I'm afraid this isn't acceptable to most I meet, who actually want to have sex second or 3rd date normally. Blooming heck... Has no one around here ever had a lover that is really interested in your body and mind??? If they are that rare I am screwed because I want another one and I am not going back to the old one! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author loveweary11 Posted March 2, 2015 Author Share Posted March 2, 2015 this is a great quote and probably applicable in OP's situation. If you are focusing on primarily the looks of these women, in that you won't find love. It's a spark that's it. I like the suggestion of dating a lot of people and open your horizons. If you typically only want 9.5's and 10's, try some 7.5's to 9's, ok? You may find a relationship of substance there. Also if you are offering up what you "do" for these girls that are already in your life, they are using you from the get-go. You won't find love in that scenario. It sounds like they are treating you as disposable straight away. There are a lot of women that are even 9s and 10s but they just aren't over the top, you know? I think a lot of women understand this. For example, I can look around the gym (where I just came from which is why I'm using as an example) and there are lots of gorgeous girls. When I look at the faces, I can see by bone structure, etc which ones have that sophisticated beauty that doesn't really "flame out". Then there are the attention grabbers--who actually wouldn't really make as pretty babies with you when you get right down to it but kind of flaunt it all more. By observing people, I've noticed these ones kind of use and throw away guys. They are aware of the smoke and mirrors tactics they've got going on--and their shelf life. Guessing you pick these types. Those types are a combo of what they look like (or rather what you've been tricked into thinking they look like) and their self-absorption. Don't get me wrong, they get a lot of guys' attention up front and have people pining over them, but their connection to others is often shallow--based on same reasons you have been attracted to them in first place. Check yo' self before you wreck yo'self, my friend. If you are stable financially and then some, why have a roommate, especially where this is going on? That's just messy and with mess with your future prospects. Not meaning to kick you while you are down, but if you are open to some introspection, part of the answer lies within you to change some things up and keep trying, just do it differently. Good luck Great advice as well, thanks. Need to take all the advice in this thread and change the approach. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Great advice as well, thanks. Need to take all the advice in this thread and change the approach. Go for girls that make use of your brain as well as your penis... you may have better luck. And cut out all this other crap before you get crabs... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Great advice as well, thanks. Need to take all the advice in this thread and change the approach. ...and the attitude. Link to post Share on other sites
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