whichwayisup Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 He's not married. I do need IC, I know this for sure & am procrastinating but don't really know why I am procrastinating. That's interesting thought about the dissociative identity disorder...I'll have to look into that idea further. I hate keeping secrets & this is literally killing me...well maybe not literally killing me but it's hard...very very hard on me atm. Thank you all for your thoughts Because you're scared to be on your own and be alone. Because you're so used to this roller coaster ride even though it's damaging and you probably don't like who you've become vs you were before you chose this pathway. Stop procrastinating and get to counseling so you can make the necessary changes to make your life healthier and honest. Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Oh my heavens- your posts keep getting merged because its all part of one story that keeps getting more and more complicated- are there children involved here- whats going on with them? I do hope you get some counseling because you are dangerously close to the edge-you know what you need to do, please do it- end your marriage and be with the OM-its really your only option- Link to post Share on other sites
Lunay Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 If both you and your husband are having an affair then why are you even together? If your OM is so great, why aren't you moving on with him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusion_Reigns Posted April 9, 2015 Author Share Posted April 9, 2015 It's confusion,that's for sure. I think because all my posts have been merged into this thread...well, maybe not all my posts. It's ok I better understand why my post have been merged. & an sorry for all the confusion on my part here. Honestly, I'm not sure what kinda support I need or can get from posting in this section. I've been the BS more than once & know how it hurts...I never wanted to trigger or cause hurt to any posters here who are currently struggling with the fallout of an affair. I don't want to keep explaining myself, my actions, or my plan. I will leave my H in a few months...if I can last that long...& it is for the sake of my son. I know no one will ever really understand why I'm doing this my way & that's ok if you don't understand , I do & that's what matters. I'm owning my decisions. I'm not afraid to be alone & am really looking forward to being alone for awhile. I don't expect my OM will be my new instant boyfriend as he and I will need time & space to figure thigs out. Maybe we'll be good & maybe not. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 Make sure your son adjusts to all this. Do family counseling together, and include your soon to be exH too. Don't introduce OM to your son for at least a year, and even then, take your time.. Link to post Share on other sites
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