Tobyloby24 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Dear readers, I've now been with a girl for about 1 year and the story I'm about to share is a bit complicated but I'll try to explain as detailed and good as I can. When I first met her in the beginning of this story she had just gone through a divorce. Her and her ex-husband had broken off 1 year prior to my entrance into her life but she signed the papers of divorce just when we met. Anyhow, the case is that she first told me she was married and that she had two kids. She made me believe that she was cheating on her husband to be with me. Stupid as I was I accepted the excitement until she one day came clean and told me the truth about it all. This happened in March one year ago. After that we had a good sexual contact we met very often and we had a lot of sexual encounters with one another. One day maybe 2 months after we had started everything I asked her if she please could be mine. She said no but that we could continue our unserious relation. I tried a lot more times to make her mine but to no success. So, I went out one day on a date with another girl and we hit it off good. After that I felt bad because I began to reach the conclusion that even if this girl did not want me at all as a boyfriend she was madly in love with me and that it was the means of the situation (she has two children and newly divorced) that lead to her not wanting me. I came clean that I had dated another girl and that I wanted to remove both her and the other girl from the picture, I wanted to start clean and find someone else. When both were gone I realized that I actually was madly in love with this girl and that I wanted her above everything. Two weeks went by and then she came back for me and she accepted all the terms she said she loved me and that we should be together. The whole of summer went by, we both went different ways on different vacations on different places. When we both came back home we decided that NOW this was it, we were going to be together for real. In October I came to her place I met her children and ever since then we've been moving forwards in our relation. Just lately we moved in together just in February and I officially live with her now. I know it all sounds good but there is a problem..... I used to smoke a lot of weed and in October after meeting her children I decided to stop smoking. The first side effect I got was paranoia. I began to think she was cheating on me.. Maybe 6th sense or paranoia I am still to find our about it... after a chaotic 2 months at New Years Eve I decided to let it all go. For 5 days I lived in harmony with myself and I felt I had left my paranoia behind... then one morning I woke up and I had that feeling again so out of gut instinct I decided to download a recording app and record her while I am out. I've made numerous recordings up till this day now and I am very much confused. I've managed to pick up on different sounds and different voices different things but I have NEVER heard this man I believe is inside of my home when I am not here. Ive never caught his voice ONCE on these recordings BUT I've heard loads of strange sounds. I've heard sounds that sounds like she is having sex with someone and making horny noises but NEVER have I heard his voice, never ever. The most I've heard is a moan that could be of a mans but then again I don't find it easy enough to decipher the sounds. Either I am in denial or she is playing with herself when I am out? I love this girl into bits yet I am very confused and I sometimes feel as if maybe I should just walk away from this relation. Should I come clean? Say everything? How should I treat this situation. When I am with her and I am in her being I've never had the feeling of unfaithfulness stream from her mind. Ive been in a lot of tough relations and I've had the feeling before that my gf is cheating and I've caught her in the end. Yet never with this girl. Please help me out ya'll Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 You are not ready to be in a relationship. There's no trust. Do her a favour and end it. The fact that you are recording her is creepy, and if I knew a guy were doing that to me, he would never hear from me again. I'd rather be single than with someone who resorted to that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coryreply Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 Have you considered seeing a counselor to deal with your feelings of paranoia? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 anyone newly divorced should be left alone to deal with the demise of their marriage. She was never in any place to enter into anything with you. As far as what you think you hear, are you sure she's not watching porn tubes while you're out? Could it be the TV or some weird ambient noise being picked up? I think it's creepy recording someone without their knowledge and I agree that you need to see a therapist. Usually the feelings of paranoia come while you're on the buzz, not when you've put it down. I think it's more that you're insecure, you got with someone who wasn't emotionally prepared to be with you, you hounded her until she relented and now, you're in over your head and are imagining things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tobyloby24 Posted March 5, 2015 Author Share Posted March 5, 2015 Horrible I must say I do not know who has written this about me but I'm sorry to the 3 of you who have answered to this and wasted your time. My account was hacked the other day and this person (whoever it is) has spent a lot of time trying to destroy my image on the internet. Do you guys know any way to delete the account on this website? I've failed to find a delete button anywhere Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted March 5, 2015 Share Posted March 5, 2015 LoveShack is an anonymous forum and no one, not even moderation or site administration, knows who you are. We'll lock this up. Link to post Share on other sites
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