krunchers Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 what should I do. my ex had met someone online. They have been talking for about 5 weeks now. My ex and i are trying to work out our relationship, but there is this other women involved. My ex wont let her go or me go. He goes to me "she isn't going anywhere" whats all that about? My ex and I were together for 7 years and been separated for 6 months. Should I be worried about what is going on between them. My ex told me there is something he likes about her and needs to find that out. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 He's not working on anything, except her. Tell him to take a hike. Link to post Share on other sites
Author krunchers Posted April 7, 2005 Author Share Posted April 7, 2005 why does he call me and want to still do things. we also still have our finances together. dont you think the more he sees me then he may see what he had and lost? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 why does he call me and want to still do things. we also still have our finances together. dont you think the more he sees me then he may see what he had and lost? He has a past with you..but this girl is intriguing him. There's something he has to find out he says..um yeah he just wants to f*ck her I think. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 why does he call me and want to still do things. we also still have our finances together. dont you think the more he sees me then he may see what he had and lost? That's what we hope would happen, but usually it's not the case. I suggest you get tough... trust me, he'll definitely respect you for it, because right now he thinks he's got you in the palm of his hand. Don't make it so easy for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author krunchers Posted April 7, 2005 Author Share Posted April 7, 2005 so what your saying. Is be more independent and he will see that and there may be a chance we could get back together. How do you think he'd feel if i met someone else. See he is a very jealous person. I say whats good for the gander is good for the goose Link to post Share on other sites
Author krunchers Posted April 7, 2005 Author Share Posted April 7, 2005 what I also want to know is. do long distance relationships work? specially this one. She's there and 'm here. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 Sometimes long distance works, sometimes it doesn't. You don't have to hook up with anyone right away. Just stay away from him. His recognizing your independence means he realizes you're not going to wait for things to happen. Doesn't mean you'll get back together, although that happens, too. If you read some of the other topics on here, you'll notice it happens A LOT, and that your situation is very similar to that of others. Link to post Share on other sites
Cupcake Posted April 7, 2005 Share Posted April 7, 2005 LDR's are very difficult. Communication is the key. Right now, he's seeing someone else. You disagree with his relationship to the other woman. If you both disagree on something, someone must compromise in order to get a resolution. He has made his decision. The other woman isn't going anywhere. So you must choose to accept that, or not. Of course, if you don't accept it, you and your BF are going to argue about it a lot. Eventually, it will make you both resent each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Author krunchers Posted April 12, 2005 Author Share Posted April 12, 2005 OK. we had a good weekend. now he had mailed me and said that he told the other women that he is still in love with me, but at the same time he loves her. i know we've been together for 7 years. now this other person for 6 weeks. should i give up. he said he should just walk away from the both of us instead of hurting even more. or just start a new love with her. another question.. i live here. she lives in tenesee. summer time is near. who is he going to call to do stuff with. isn't in love different then love? Link to post Share on other sites
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