angela Posted March 7, 2001 Share Posted March 7, 2001 I'm not sure what to do. I recently broke off a two and a half year relationship with a guy I love very much. I just can't seem to get over the fact he cheated on me a little over a year ago. Let me start from the beginning, I started dating him knowing he probably had a child on the way by a drunkin fling he had one night, which probably should have steered me in the other direction but it didn't, I have known this guy for years and he seemed different. He told me he would take care of the child if found to be his even though he did not want to be with the mother. I could handle that, I don't have kids but I love kids just the same, that was not a problem. Well, he had to do supervised visitation until the baby was 1 year old, that started when the baby was 6 months old. The mother of the child refused to come to our house and I could not go there even though I don't even know her she hated me. So, I let him go with no fuss. Then about 5 months later he did not come home one night and I found him at her house at 3:00 in the morning. I broke up with him and he finally convinced me to take him back that he was just confused he thought that's what he needed to do for the child but then realized I was what hw needed and he could not stay with her a not be happy. I fell for it and we got back together. A couple of months later we found out she was pregnant again!! I could not handle it. We broke up again a month or so of begging went by and he convinvced me to take him back. We stayed together for the last year after all that and I just don't feel the same. I feel distant and unaffectionate. Sometimes just the sight of him makes me sick, and in the next split second I'll love him to death. What is wrong with me? Why can't I just either let it go and take him back or just let him go completely? He calls every few days begging to take him back and I want to but I can't. I live in a semi small town and there are slim pickins when it comes to guys. Am I just scared I won't find anyone else or do I really love him enough to try and overcome all of this? I'm only 27, do I still have time to try to find someone who will treat me right? Is there any guys out there who don't cheat, lie, or keep things from you? Help please, Dazed and Confused Link to post Share on other sites
Victor Posted March 7, 2001 Share Posted March 7, 2001 This guy is garbage! Don't take him back, regardless of how much begging he does, he cheated on you at least 2 times! Who knows how many times he's done it without you catching him... At any rate, never take him back again, he will only cheat on you again! Yes, there's plenty of time at only 27 for you to find a good person who won't lie, cheat, and will treat you like you should be treated. Please forget about him, do your best to stop loving him, move on with your life, the last year with him you said it was unaffectionate, well that's good you broke up with him, and you CAN and you will forget about him. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted March 7, 2001 Share Posted March 7, 2001 Is there any guys out there who don't cheat, lie, or keep things from you? Link to post Share on other sites
Bobby Dygytul Posted March 7, 2001 Share Posted March 7, 2001 Is there any guys out there who don't cheat, lie, or keep things from you? Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted March 7, 2001 Share Posted March 7, 2001 ...thanks bobby, it's soooo refreshing to know that guys like you exist!!!!! i have to stop being such a cynic, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
angela Posted March 9, 2001 Share Posted March 9, 2001 Thanks, Victor. I know what I need to do it just makes it easier when people confirm it especially people you don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
angela Posted March 9, 2001 Share Posted March 9, 2001 I guess we are supposed to believe that? Link to post Share on other sites
angela Posted March 9, 2001 Share Posted March 9, 2001 Until you prove I won't believe it. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted March 9, 2001 Share Posted March 9, 2001 i know it's soooo hard to believe when you have been cheated on yourself, or relationships just always seem to fail when you know that you have done nothing to contribute to that failure. but even though i still have my cynical moments, i look at this way: i am a person who is loyal and faithful and can swear on my grandfather's grave that i would never cheat on a guy, no matter what the circumstances are. it just goes against everything i believe in, and i would never subject a person to that kind of pain. and if i, only one person out of billions, can have this attitude then i know there are many, many others who have the same attitude as me. but until i can stop going through my cynical moments, i know i won't attract this guy with the same values as myself. i will make him want to run a mile!! cheating does occur a lot, but so does faithfulness. for this one pig who cheated on you, there are a thousand other guys who wouldn't Link to post Share on other sites
Bobby Dygytul Posted March 12, 2001 Share Posted March 12, 2001 I really don't have anything to prooved to anyone. Im a really sweet guy and i have never cheated, never yelled, and try my very best not to argue (even though i think women like to find things to try and argue about, it drives them crazy when i just agree with them even if i think they are wrong). Every girl i meet says im the sweetest guy they have ever met. I would love to proove it to you, but how could I? Until you prove I won't believe it. Link to post Share on other sites
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