tvlampchair Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 This is gonna sound so stupid, but I may aswell just come out with it. I met a girl online last saturday and we've been skyping every night and texting. Since tuesday/wednesday I started to feel sick. I couldn't eat, I was shaking, I couldn't stop thinking about her, I felt like throwing up all the time. I told her thursday that we couldn't talk anymore because I felt all the above mentioned things. She likes me and I like her. Has anyone ever tried feeling like this? Is there ANYHOW something I can do so that I can still talk to her and not feel like this? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 Are you sure you didn't have food poisoning or a bout of the flu? That is an extreme physical reaction to anxiety. Perhaps consult a doctor. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tvlampchair Posted March 7, 2015 Author Share Posted March 7, 2015 I am sure. I don't have any fever or nothing like that. I know my body enough to know that it's her doing it to me After 2 days I can now eat more and I don't feel as bad. I still feel it a little but I still can't get her out of my head Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 7, 2015 Share Posted March 7, 2015 Since tuesday/wednesday I started to feel sick. I couldn't eat, I was shaking, I couldn't stop thinking about her, I felt like throwing up all the time. I told her thursday that we couldn't talk anymore because I felt all the above mentioned things. She likes me and I like her. Has anyone ever tried feeling like this? Is that something you try to feel? I guess not. It can just happen. 1) How old are you? 2) How old is she? 3) Have you ever been in love before? 4) How far are you from her? Is there ANYHOW something I can do so that I can still talk to her and not feel like this? I think so. A) Don't jump in it with both feet so suddenly. B) To follow point A, you need to slow down. Don't talk to her more than one hour a day, even if you want to. Devote the remaining free time to something else (sport, hobby, going out with friends, etc) C) Don't be impulsive when you make a decision, like after 4 days from meeting her online and after two days of feeling sick, you feel like getting rid of her. I mean, if you really feel that way, you need to be up to keep your resolution, otherwise you're just a wimp. D) Start going out of your way for her only after meeting her in RL, if that's even going to happen. If you won't follow these rules, you'll be out of control in no time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tvlampchair Posted March 7, 2015 Author Share Posted March 7, 2015 I'm 18. She's 18. I've only been in love once before with my best friend but she didnt like me back. So I've never had a relationship. I am thinking that I'm in need of emotional connection. She lives in the US I live i EU. How do you not jump in with both feet so suddenly? The 1 hour thing I guess I can do, but I'm not sure exactly how it'd help. I don't know if I can just meet her like that, when we're so far away. It's a long flight trip which is quite expensive. We're both studying. I can find the money. But even if so, I wont even get to see her each month. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tvlampchair Posted March 8, 2015 Author Share Posted March 8, 2015 UPDATE: She just told me she likes her ex and think about him everyday. What I do Link to post Share on other sites
connor91 Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 UPDATE: She just told me she likes her ex and think about him everyday. What I do Back off and let her do the chasing, if she wants you she will come after you. Don't be too clingy, she'll only back away more. She seems am unstable person so be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tvlampchair Posted March 8, 2015 Author Share Posted March 8, 2015 @Connor91. She says she still likes me and want to talk to me etc. but I don't know if I can live with the fact that I'm her #2 choice. Link to post Share on other sites
connor91 Posted March 8, 2015 Share Posted March 8, 2015 @Connor91. She says she still likes me and want to talk to me etc. but I don't know if I can live with the fact that I'm her #2 choice. It's completely up to you how you want to approach the situation from here on in - 1. You can back off and stay in control of the situation, talk lightly and see how things develop. 2. Accept the number 2 choice, and she will find you too easy and end up hooking up with other people. Your choice, Bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tvlampchair Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 It's completely up to you how you want to approach the situation from here on in - 1. You can back off and stay in control of the situation, talk lightly and see how things develop. 2. Accept the number 2 choice, and she will find you too easy and end up hooking up with other people. Your choice, Bro. I told her we couldnt talk anymore but that she should text me when she fixed her feelings for him if she wanted to. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 10, 2015 Share Posted March 10, 2015 UPDATE: She just told me she likes her ex and think about him everyday. What I do You leave her alone. She's in love with someone else! Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 you are just her friend and text buddy. she is not attrcated to you. if she was she would never mention her ex and that she liked him still. you will end up falling for her and being her girlfriend by talking to her all day. she doesn not like you more than a fri3nd and never will Link to post Share on other sites
Author tvlampchair Posted March 13, 2015 Author Share Posted March 13, 2015 you are just her friend and text buddy. she is not attrcated to you. if she was she would never mention her ex and that she liked him still. you will end up falling for her and being her girlfriend by talking to her all day. she doesn not like you more than a fri3nd and never will I texted her today 3 days after we stopped talking and asked how she was doing. apparenty now shes with her old ex. like not the ex that she was missing but another one. wtf lol. She starts off saying she had a crush on me then goes to miss her ex then goes to make out with another ex all in about 7-10days Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 I texted her today 3 days after we stopped talking and asked how she was doing. apparenty now shes with her old ex. like not the ex that she was missing but another one. wtf lol. She starts off saying she had a crush on me then goes to miss her ex then goes to make out with another ex all in about 7-10days You dodged a bullet there, buddy. Be thankful you found out so quickly. Move on, and for god's sake if she crosses your path again, don't be an idiot; keep on moving on. Best, TMichaels 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 why would she say all theses things to you?! this confuses us guys! why do girls say all these rings to guys?? Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 @Connor91. She says she still likes me and want to talk to me etc. but I don't know if I can live with the fact that I'm her #2 choice. then don't. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 25, 2015 Share Posted March 25, 2015 I texted her today 3 days after we stopped talking and asked how she was doing. apparenty now shes with her old ex. like not the ex that she was missing but another one. wtf lol. She starts off saying she had a crush on me then goes to miss her ex then goes to make out with another ex all in about 7-10days if she's saying all of this to you, then you've been friendzoned--this is something you discuss with your girlfriends, not a potential lover... Link to post Share on other sites
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