Daycare job

[Mary Shadows]

I'm really hoping to get some positive feedback. Last year I was hired at a daycare. The pay was great, hours were great, and I loved my job. I am a recovering alcoholic. I was in a relapse when I was hired there, and it was hard for me to wake up everyday and make it to work. I've recently graduated from my iop drug treatment. The way I left was completely unprofessional. I just stopped showing up. I really have been thinking hard about this. I would like to go in and apologize and be completely honest about why I couldn't go in. I would love to get this job back. I loved working there. What are some things you all suggest I do? Should I email first? Or should I go in and speak to the director who hired me? Feedback would be much appreciated. Thank you!

[preraph]

All you can do is talk to the director. I don't think the chances are very good. If it were any other job, then you having just gone through inpatient addiction treatment might sway someone, but this being childcare and all the regulations that go along with that, I think they'd be leaving themselves vulnerable to lawsuits.

 

It wouldn't hurt to just talk to the director, though, and explain what happened and that you did IOP to address your problem and at least ask if they will at least give you a decent recommendation for when you job hunt to get employed in something other than childcare.

[Mary Shadows]

All you can do is talk to the director. I don't think the chances are very good. If it were any other job, then you having just gone through inpatient addiction treatment might sway someone, but this being childcare and all the regulations that go along with that, I think they'd be leaving themselves vulnerable to lawsuits.

 

It wouldn't hurt to just talk to the director, though, and explain what happened and that you did IOP to address your problem and at least ask if they will at least give you a decent recommendation for when you job hunt to get employed in something other than childcare.

 

 

 

Im in such fear that it will not be taken well. I really just want to be honest about where I was at. Do you suggest a quick email first to see when she is available to speak with me?

[DatingDirection]

whatever you do, don't tell them that you had issues with alcohol. You could simply, send an email, or call them up and tell them your so sorry, you were struggling with a death in the family, which made you depressed, and had anxiety, but you're getting help for that and you love your job, you're ready to go back to work.

[Mary Shadows]

whatever you do, don't tell them that you had issues with alcohol. You could simply, send an email, or call them up and tell them your so sorry, you were struggling with a death in the family, which made you depressed, and had anxiety, but you're getting help for that and you love your job, you're ready to go back to work.

 

 

 

I guess that is somewhat the truth, because I do have a mental disorder. I'm just trying to think about just what to say and what to omit because I want to be honest, without lying.

[DatingDirection]

yes, lying is not good. So perhaps you could just say mental health issues. But honestly, it's NON of their business, the only thing that is their business is that you didn't show up for work, so right there, even if you did tell them why, it's still not looking good. the best thing you can do is look for a new job and start fresh. Im not judging you, I know life can get hard, and work is just a small part of our lives, and sometimes, we have personal things to deal with that affect our work life. But, if you did tell them the truth, what happens if word gets around in your field, and in the new job, they find out what happened to you? so it's best to leave the alcohol part out. The place where you get treatment should offer some counselling around that too, they can give you suggestions to what to say to your work.

[Mary Shadows]

yes, lying is not good. So perhaps you could just say mental health issues. But honestly, it's NON of their business, the only thing that is their business is that you didn't show up for work, so right there, even if you did tell them why, it's still not looking good. the best thing you can do is look for a new job and start fresh. Im not judging you, I know life can get hard, and work is just a small part of our lives, and sometimes, we have personal things to deal with that affect our work life. But, if you did tell them the truth, what happens if word gets around in your field, and in the new job, they find out what happened to you? so it's best to leave the alcohol part out. The place where you get treatment should offer some counselling around that too, they can give you suggestions to what to say to your work.

 

 

 

Thank you, you're right. And things certainly do get around in this daycare. It's a bunch of females and I know how some are at this particular daycare.

[DatingDirection]

I put a post up that asks, should I contact him...I was wondering if you may be able to take a look at it please, and help me answer that question or get your feedback please?

[pink_sugar]

Unless you were close with these people you worked for, I would honestly look for other work having learned your lesson. Not showing up for work without explanation is the worst thing you can do and no matter what your reasoning is, the employer will wonder if it will happen again. There is just no excuse for a no call no show. At the least if you called in sick each time, you might still have a chance...but not even a phone call shows a real lack of professionalism. Sorry if I sound harsh, but I would take it as a lesson learned and move forward. If there is any chance you could get a reference from them for your work on the job, you could try explaining what happened...I would go with family issues or a death. Saying you were mentally unstable as a reason for not showing up wouldn't go over well IMO.